The Power to Change Your Life

We know we must change; we know it would be beneficial, but something holds us back? Fear, doubt and worry play their part, but I believe the real reason we find it hard to change is much deeper…

We are all born with unlimited potential, but over time, most of that potential fades away.

But why?

Growing up we are constantly reminded of our limitations.

Maybe a parent, guardian or classmate told you something so many times that you believed them. “You’re aiming too high. No one has ever done that before. Better to play it safe, don’t take risks.

They might have meant well, but they were projecting their fears and failures on you. Because they might have tried, or they don’t believe that they can do it. It’s important to know that it’s not really about you. It’s about what they feel and their fears inside.

Or maybe what was said was more destructive, “You’re not good enough, you’re not intelligent enough, you haven’t got what it takes. You haven’t got the looks or the confidence.

If you were told any of these types of things as a child, it is quite natural to experience resentment, anger, or bitterness when you replay what was said or done. But it is so vital that you release them feelings or they will get the best of you.

Down Memory Lane

Growing up, I was bullied, meaning I felt inferior to others for most of my life. I didn’t feel like I was popular enough. Intelligent enough, talented enough. No doubt holding this attitude had an impact on my life. But thankfully, I never held negative feelings towards the people that hurt me. I just kept moving forward and did my best.

Only years later did I realise that holding this attitude was a gift.

To make progress, to be truly happy, healthy, and successful, you must learn to let go of the past so that it doesn’t affect you in the present. What happened may not have been fair. What was done to you was wrong, but letting it replay in your mind will not help. All that replaying the hurt will do is make you more depressed, angrier, and more enraged.

Replaying past events can even make you doubt yourself, which will affect your language, meaning you say things like, “I couldn’t do that, I can’t learn new things, I’m not good with people, relationships, money, etc.

The negativity of the past can affect you in the present; it can affect your faith, it can affect your thinking, making you question what you can and can not do.

One hurt or mistake can limit what you can achieve.

The one person that hurt you can cause you to mistrust everyone and make you think that all people are the same. They’re not.

The one mistake you made can make you doubtful of your abilities, meaning you never try anything that challenges you or anything new.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

When you remove all negativity from your thinking, your faith will grow. meaning you will speak more confidently, and expect good things to come into your path.

By taking specific steps, your life can improve in amazing ways.

In my new book, The Power to Change Your Life, I break down the process in a simple, understandable way. Not in a list of dos and don’ts, but through relatable stories that will help you digest the information quick and easily.

There are seeds of greatness within each of us, but those seeds can lie dormant when we choose to focus on the past.

If someone gave you a plant to look after, you would love and care for it, ensuring that it got the maximum amount of nutrients and light. But for some reason, we choose to neglect the gift of life because of a few wrong decisions and hurts?

Resulting in us growing weak and never having the strength to bloom.

Choose to plant your seeds of greatness today, and you will not believe what you will achieve.

Experience the power of change; let the loving energy of God flow into your life.

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Daily Inspiration

It is so easy to let people annoy you.

In a conversation with another blogger, she mentioned that she was very angry at a comment that a follower had made. Out of 200+ comments, this one was almost causing her to question why she was blogging.

What was said was very negative towards her but it was as if one comment had the power to cancel out the 99.9% of positive comments.

No matter what we go to do in life, the more successful we become the more people will try to bring us back to their level.

When the small dogs bark at you in life, do yourself a favour and remember that you are a Lion / Lioness.

The Benefit of Being Sick

When we are healthy, we often have so much to do, which leads to so much to worry about.

But when we are sick, the roof could be falling in, and it wouldn’t matter. Why is that?

Why is it that when we are sick, the only thought on our minds is getting better again, but when we are healthy, the weight of the world seems to be on our shoulders?

It is a tricky question and not easy to answer, but one reason could be, when we are sick, we realise that our health is all that matters.

im sure you’ve all had a moment when you were not well with a bug or infection when your only prayer was, “Please God, all I want is to be healthy again.”

We all can have aches and pains, but they are not sickness.

Sickness is them moments when we realise just how fragile life is, why is it that it’s only in these moments that we appreciate the gift of life?

A Pearl of Wisdom That Took Me 25 Years To Learn—3 Minute Read—PART2

In my last post, I talked about your gift and talent in life being something that you can do effortlessly, something that comes naturally to you.

Well, each of us, I believe, has genius-level talent. God given abilities that we just have to tap into.

The main aim of this post is to help you find where your genius is, then it’s up to you to put all your energy into that area, and if you do you will excel, you will be as successful as you want to be.

The main obstacle that you will face in life is being yourself. Surely just being yourself should be easy?

No.

It’s not.

Somewhere along the way, we convince ourselves that we are not good enough, at almost everything. So we try extremely hard to be something that we are not, meaning, we never reach our full potential.

Starting off in life, we have all these dreams and passions, but very often we settle for second best or don’t embrace our natural gifts and abilities at all.

For example…

Your friend wants to be an accountant, so you follow them into accountancy, you qualify and earn amazing money. The problem is your a bright, outgoing person and sitting at a desk alone all day doesn’t interest you. So you’re unhappy.

Many people are in similar situations to this example. Living unhappy, with feelings of regret. Feelings that life has passed them by. That they have made too many mistakes.

Not the case. But it will take discipline and courage to make the necessary changes.

First, you have to ask yourself a few questions which I will go over now.

The Genius Zone

Most people are not sure what they are good at or what skills they have. And all the uncertainty is enough to put them off before they even start.

its difficult to believe that we are highly skilled in some area.

I will now share with you some questions to help you find what I like to call your genius Zone, so you have a firm foundation to build upon.

  1. What holds your attention?
    What subjects do you like reading about? What do you like to talk about? What do you like to study?
  2. What are you interested in?
    What topics have you been interested in your whole life? What subjects do you like to search for new information about?
  3. What absorbs your attention completely?
    What can you get completely absorbed in? When you are reading about it, watching documentaries on etc. When you’re talking on this subject hours will pass like minutes.

The answer to these questions is a good indication to your genius zone. The subjects that you’re most passionate about, you will have the most knowledge. Whatever this area is, you must focus on it because this is the area that you will be most creative.

When you discover your genius zone, you will notice that you do not need to learn much in that area. You may need more training to take your knowledge to the next level or maybe a change of job to acquire new experience.

But one or two years developing some skills is nothing compared to a lifetime of unhappiness— if you’re currently on the wrong path in life.

When you’re working in a job that you can share your knowledge and passion about a topic, product, or service, you will be happier, have more energy and have more love for yourself and others.

If this all sounds good, but you don’t know where to start then leave a comment or send me an email on revjmartin1@gmail.com, and I will do my best to advise you.

Thanks for reading.
RJM

A Pearl of Wisdom That Took Me 25 Years To Learn—3 Minute Read

My brother once said to me, “you take your own level of intelligence for granted.”

A man of few words he only said it once but it stuck with me.

The wisdom within them words have been revealing themselves over the last 25 years.

We assume so much. We assume that everyone has the same common sense, empathy, compassion, and faith that we do.

Guess what, they don’t.

From today don’t assume anything. Just because something seems logical to you doesn’t mean that the other person sees your logic. 90% the time they don’t.

So if someone is always annoying you, always seems to do what you asked them not to do. Do not let it stress you out.

Very often they can not see the reasoning behind your words. As my brother said, don’t take your own level of intelligence for granted. Some people are not that intelligent.

Just because someone as a PHD or other fancy letters behind their name does not mean that they view the world the same as you. You may put them on a pedestal because they have a better education.

Don’t.

Yes, education matters but never feel inferior to anyone. Know who you are, a child of God, graced with many talents and abilities.

Never Take Your Level Of Intelligence for Granted

Your mind is unique, you can process information in ways that no one else can. Your life purpose has to be finding out— in what way.

It could be as simple as communication, you might have the ability to instil faith into peoples hearts in a way that no one else can. When you speak others listen.

Don’t hide away from that gift, don’t silence the David that is within you.

Stop 100 people on the street and ask them, “what is your gift, talent or ability?” 99 will say they don’t know, and if that is the case for you.

Let it be your life purpose to find out.

Chances are everyone around you already knows and probably have told you, many times— you’re great with people, a great listener, great with numbers, great with computers, with the written word…

but you have taken your level of intelligence for granted.

Your gift in life is effortless to you, so effortless that you can completely dismiss that gift and spend your entire life unhappy thinking that God forgot about you.

Im telling you today that you were not forgotten, you have seeds of greatness within.

If you’re still unsure what your gift in life is, that you can do effortlessly then you don’t want to miss my next post where I will reveal how to find it, and also what to do so that you can live out your divine destiny.

Until the next time…

RJM

The Live Today With Faith Letter—How To look Youthful Even In Your 40s

Dear Reader,

It has been another hectic week.

Just completed another short book. Will be available soon on Amazon.

Now more than ever, I think people need some words of faith, hope and encouragement. The book contains some knowledge that has helped me through the hardest parts of my life- so I know the wisdom can help others through this challenging time

Anyway, let’s get started. First of all, I want to briefly review what I have suggested over the last few weeks.

  1. I have suggested that you do one hour’s worth of road work every morning right after you get up for six days a week.
  2. I have suggested you eat three pieces of fruit every day.
  3. I have suggested you fast one day a week.

Now, let’s go from there. What else should your daily diet consist of? Well, today I would like to share the part of my diet that has allowed me to stay youthful-looking well into my 40s.

I still get asked on occasion for ID; you can imagine the hassle I used to get when I was 18. Yeah, it wasn’t much fun, but now I take it as a compliment.

And don’t worry it not something exotic that you will have to import, or something expensive. It’s something so easily obtained that many will dismiss it.

WATER.

I’m sure you have heard the old wife’s tale, you must drink 8 pints of water a day. Well, I’m not recommending that. What I am suggesting, however, is that you drink more water than you do now.

I’m sure everyone learnt in school that the body is made up of 70-80% water. Knowing that it makes sense that our diet should contain 70-80% water-based foods?

Drinking water is just one source of water; another is vegetables. What I suggest is that you take vegetables with every meal.

As well as keeping you youthful, getting into the habit of drinking water and eating more water-based foods will also keep you from feeling tired because it keeps your blood sugar level at a more or less constant level.

This is not new information I know… but very often it’s the basics that people overlook.

Most people drink a lot of coffee, tea or soft drinks, thinking they get enough water there, but truth be told the water in them drinks, contain caffeine and other chemicals that dehydrate the body.

Meaning they take water to break down.

To anyone that is reading this, that suffers from headaches try this, for seven days drink two pints of water daily. I guarantee you will get relief.

Water is my secret weapon. It keeps me healthy and lean and full of energy. Add more to your diet, and you will not only see the difference you will feel the difference.

That’s it pretty much for today. Hope everyone is safe at this time.

In a world that seems entirely out of control, all we can do is take control of ourselves—inspiring those around us.

Bye for now,
RJM

The Secret to Less Anxiety Revealed!

anxiety

Anxiety is something that affects us all.

For some, however, rather than make them hide away looking for safety, they use their anxious feelings to propel them forward, to walk in and give there best interview, presentation, etc.

So to the secret.

Is there one to limit the anxiety that we may feel?

Well, many years ago, I had to work on a project that involved me working with over 150 people. My anxiety levels went through the roof. I wanted to fit in, I wanted my voice to be heard, and connect with as many people as possible, but it wasn’t to be.

I only made a few friends, and even with those people, I couldn’t be fully myself, I had to talk about the project or the subjects that interested them.

It’s only when I left that project and started to work on my own again meeting people one to one, on my own terms did I realise that my personality just didn’t fit with dealing with a lot of people.

lesson

The lesson that I learnt was that to have peace and happiness; we have to be true to how you are.

If you feel that you’re at your best when surrounded by a lot of people but sad if you are alone then make sure you are not alone that often, or get an activity that occupies your mind when you are alone.

If you’re like me, feeling at your best when you are alone, then get a job that allows you to work alone.

We can easily avoid a lot of our anxieties by just accepting the way we are. Problems usually arise when we try to be something we’re not.

All your friends could be sociable people, but crowds may make you feel uncomfortable, then if you mention this, you may be made fun off as if you’re not normal or you need to be more confident.

Yes, in some cases this is correct, but if the people that surround you don’t have the same interests or moral standards, it can be a horrible experience.

spiritual

I have always been interested in the spiritual, and metaphysical, not party-friendly subjects.

Some people love to gossip and have small talk. I’m just not one of those people, meaning I found it very difficult growing up.

For most of my life, I thought that there was something wrong with me, I found it hard to hold conversations because I couldn’t be myself. Conversations with me were serious conversations, people you will find don’t like serious, they want easy, gossip, scandal, or about the latest drama on tv. And there is nothing wrong with that. But I couldn’t do it.

It wasn’t until I removed myself from the environments where materialistic people surrounded me, did my anxiety go away.

The relief I got from no longer having to be something that I was not, I can not describe in words.

Do you feel trapped?

relation

Maybe at the moment, you’re in an unhappy relationship because you just go along with the other person. After all, their happiness means more to you than your own happiness. And that is lovely that you love them that much.

But you’re not true to yourself.

If the moment that you stand your ground and make your voice heard you are shot down, or an argument commences then this is an unhealthy relationship.

One in which will not work long term, and if it does it means that you will have sacrificed your happiness for the other person’s happiness.

True love is when both people make sacrifices.

This is just one example.

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Another could be that you’re in friendship and your friend or friends love getting very drunk at the weekend spending all their money, you on the other hand like to have a good time but want to save a little money. Not live week to week, spending most of your weekend recovering in bed feeling unwell.

Peer pressure can lead to a lot of anxiety, you can easily follow other people down a road that you don’t feel comfortable, and the longer you follow them, the harder it becomes to walk your own path.

Happiness is the product of living life the way that you want to, not caring what others think.

These are just two examples, but the list goes on. There are so many areas of our lives that we do certain things to fit in, to be liked.

Yes, we all want to be accepted, but if being accepted means that you compromise who you are. Is that what you want?

In my experience anxiety builds up in your life until the point that it overpowers you. You then think that you’re an anxious person, that it will not go away…

This is not the case

Please take a look at your life, look at all the situations or people that make you feel anxious and make some changes. It could be to change jobs; it could be to limit the time you spend with certain people to see if it helps.

It could even be to spend less time on social media or turn off notifications if seeing constant updates of the people you know having a good time makes you feel sad and lonely.

See how your life improves.

Growing up, I gave my power away to others, thinking I was the person with the problem when, in fact, I was just a spiritual person that was surrounded by people that were more material focused. I was no better, just different.

What I looked at as a weakness was a strength.

To lower your anxiety, be honest with yourself, are you living life to impress and make others happy?

Are you surrounded by people in your work and social life that don’t have the same interests as you? Where you have to put on an act to fit in?

If the answer to any of the questions was YES, then start to make some changes, and you will notice how your anxiety level subsides.

Thanks for reading.