If you try to fight a tidal wave, you will not Win

In the writing of a recent comment on another blog, my inner feelings came out, and I thought I would share.

I think for the longest time I was fighting this whole experience, wanting it to fade away. For things to return to the way, they were. But as the weeks and months roll on, I realise the world needed this.

We all needed a wake-up call.

Materialism gets a lot of bad press, but for me, life is all about balance. The world, however, was out of balance. It’s so easy and natural to think, me me me, at times like this because YOU are directly affected by current events but if you look at the macro picture, you will realise that our level of consumerism could not continue.

People were living on fake money; many people have a deck of cards in their wallet, with no question of who foots the bill. We all have been living away beyond our means; we don’t need all the luxuries that we have. Advertising has convinced us that we need certain items to fit into society.

A couple of years back I was in the queue for a cash machine, and a group of girls were laughing at someone walking past because he didn’t have a smartphone saying, “he must live such a sad life.”

So having a smartphone means you have a good life?

That is the world that we were living in—shows on TV glamorising botox, plastic surgery, and bleached teeth. Children were getting anxious and depressed because they couldn’t have the latest technology and clothes.

As a society, we have lost touch with nature.

Look at the raging fires, and floods, droughts all over the planet, 100s of animals going extinct, whales and dolphins washing up dead on beaches. The wounds of how we live our lives.

Nature is all-powerful and what is happening is the balance that is needed.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” ~ Isaiah 41:10

Are You Caught in the Overthinking Trap?

I believe we all have great ideas; the problem however is… we tend to overthink things to the point that we don’t do anything, or take so long that the moment has passed before we strike.

Which naturally leads onto, how can we stop doing this?

Well, the answer is not complicated. It’s not some 10 step process that you will forget. Its very simple.

Simple?

Yes.

As the famous Nike slogan goes, Just Do It.

Will your first attempt be excellent, probably not. But by just doing what your thinking of doing no matter how bad the first attempt. You have started.

Just starting puts you ahead of 90% of the people that say, “someday.”

Not Everyone Who Shakes Your Hand is your Friend

In this land of friends and followers, on-paper it can seem like we have lots of friends, but when you are in trouble, you quickly find out that you are lucky if you can count your friend list on the one hand.

Then the people that are there for you in your time of need, in your time of encouragement they don’t help you.

I have close friends that are good support when I’m in trouble and I need advice, but when I need some feedback creatively, they will not reply.

This has always confused me?

Why would someone offer support but not feedback, not want you to be in pain or suffering but then not give you praise?

Maybe we judge others on our own standards.

If someone asked me for my opinion on something I would give my opinion, I would pick out the best part; I would say something to make that person continue their writing, their art, their music etc.

A wise person once said to me, “Not everyone who shakes your hand is your friend.”

It took me a few years to see the wisdom within them words. Life is hard, and it is no harder for you than the next person. You may look at your rich friend that has a fancy BMW, lovely house,, and family and think they have such a good life, but maybe their marriage is on the verge of a break-up.

Each of us is rich in different ways.

I guess my main point is, everyone needs encouragement in life, everyone is facing their own problems and all that we can do as friends is to treat everyone in our lives the way we would want to be treated.

No matter how good someone is at something, they still need a few words of encouragement. Even a few words can make the difference between them continuing and stopping. Being depressed thinking no-one cares, or being happy that one person does.

You have that power to help the people that are around you, USE THAT POWER TODAY.

Could the Second Coming be Digital?

It says in the Bible, knowledge is sorrow, and this is very true. The more you know about what is happening in the world the more sorrow you will feel. Human greed for money and power is destroying the earth right before our eyes.

Yet we remain powerless.

Man likes to think he can outplay God, but we have written records down through history showing that this is not the case. Would it not be a masterstroke for God to create something that cannot be stopped, that cannot be silenced, that cannot be killed.

In this digital age could it be technology that comes to our rescue?

This is an idea that flashed into my head this morning so I thought I would sit down and see what would flow out.

Technology gets such a bad rap, from so many people, afraid that only bad things can come from AI. Artificial intelligence.

But maybe this is not the case.

Maybe AI could save us from ourselves.

Now it may not be Artificial intelligence, it maybe an evolved internet that allows us to distribute the wealth of the world more evenly, that allows me, for example, to buy coffee beans directly from a South American coffee farmer. With no need for a middle man.

Digitally I can paid him for the product plus post and packaging. Which would mean I get a high quality product, and he can have a better standard of living.

This may seem impossible but it’s only 20 years ago when it took a half a day to upload a single high resolution photo to the Internet.

Just some thoughts I though I would share.

Are You Feeling Dis-connected?

You may have noticed that if people come around to your house, the first thing they do is ask for your WIFI password.

We like to stay connected.

Nowadays, if you haven’t got an internet connection, you are unable to get your emails, notifications, and will have no access to Google.

After one day you will not have missed much, after a week you could have missed some important emails. After a month in some instants, you may have lost your job, or at the very minimum some customers or clients.

The internet is a good analogy for what I’m going to share today because it gets everyone on the same page.

We all know what a month without the internet could potentially do to our lives.

What if our connection to nature is just as important?

The picture below I took about a 35 minute drive from my home, and until last weekend I didn’t know it existed.

In that place, I felt a power that I have not felt in a long time—the feeling of just how insignificant I am in the grand scheme of things. Our egos like to make us think that we are all-powerful, like, it’s up to us to heal the world, to save the planet.

At this time of global unrest and uncertainty, we all crave peace of mind, for everything, too go back to “normal.’ Well, a quantum leap in that direction is to connect with nature again and start to download all the updates that you have missed.

Visit a local landmark, or drive to the closest beach, and re-connect to the only connection you will ever need.

The Fastest Road to Happiness

The fastest road to happiness is a road we would all like to travel.

If there is such a road, why do we not travel it more often?

Good question.

Life can have so many distractions, add on top of that the amount of fear and uncertainty around at the moment, and it’s easy to understand why people may think happiness is a step too far.

Well, in my experience, happiness is never too far away.

Many people say that I must have been blessed with happiness, I say blessed because I’m happy most of the time. And if I were to put into words why. Why I’m happy most of the time, I would have to say it is because I put others in front of myself. I pick up on peoples gifts and talents and then let them know, through praise and acknowledgement.

Sounds too easy, right?

Attaining happiness can’t be that easy. Can it? A few simple words to a stranger?

Well, put it into action yourself. The next time you have a good meal, send a message to the chef. Walk by a painter painting a sign, highlight his/her skills. Taxi driver leaves you off compliment there driving.

These are the little moments that don’t take much time, but they add so much value to others, and in the process, they make you happy.

As it says in the good book, give, and you shall receive. So give compliments, encouragement, and praise everywhere you go this weekend and see how much happiness you receive.

Be the voice of hope you want to hear.

A Change is a Good as a Rest

No matter who you are or where you are reading this from there is a good chance that you would benefit from a nice rest, whether that be lying on a beach, or a holiday adventure.

2020 has been a difficult year for all.

Yesterday I decided if I couldn’t have the resting holiday that I know my spirit needs I would have a change. Deciding to change around my living space..

Waking up this morning was like being in a new place. The light was different, I heard the outside noises in a different way. Rather than just getting ready on auto pilot I had to think about where I had put certain items, as most things had a new home.

My whole morning was a refreshing change that has helped me greatly, and thought was worth mentioning. As any kind of change gets the mind to process information in a different way.

The Benefit of Being Sick

When we are healthy, we often have so much to do, which leads to so much to worry about.

But when we are sick, the roof could be falling in, and it wouldn’t matter. Why is that?

Why is it that when we are sick, the only thought on our minds is getting better again, but when we are healthy, the weight of the world seems to be on our shoulders?

It is a tricky question and not easy to answer, but one reason could be, when we are sick, we realise that our health is all that matters.

im sure you’ve all had a moment when you were not well with a bug or infection when your only prayer was, “Please God, all I want is to be healthy again.”

We all can have aches and pains, but they are not sickness.

Sickness is them moments when we realise just how fragile life is, why is it that it’s only in these moments that we appreciate the gift of life?

Introduce your Higher Self to your Ego

During the lockdown, I got into some bad habits and put on a fair bit of weight, that I’m finding it hard to lose.

Just don’t have the same motivation to get out of the house in the mornings for my usual run. Three times a week has dropped to one every ten days, managed to go yesterday, as it was beautiful weather. 

On my run, I had a thought, pretty deep stuff, as my brother would say but will do my best to keep it simple.

Ego Meets Self

Well, on my run, there is a very steep hill about a mile in, that although challenging I can make it. As I was approaching the hill, I saw a farmer in his land who gave me a particular look. As if to say, you’re not going to run up that hill? (Well that’s what the ego part of me heard, more on that later.)

As I started up the hill, in my mind, he was watching me. With that added pressure, the hill wasn’t as easy as usual. The sun in the sky suddenly felt warmer.

A car came from behind me, which meant I had to run on the loose gravel on the verge of the road, which made the climb even harder. Although difficult, I did not stop.

At the top of the hill, it flattened out, and slowly but surely I got up to speed, again.

Then the thought hit me, for that run up the hill I had been separated from my spiritual self. I was thinking about proving to the farmer that I could make it up the hill, that it wasn’t impossible to run. 

I also became aware of the fact that he may not have been thinking about me at all. How often do we allow what we think others will think of us to determine what we say or do? 

I can only speak for myself, but I do it a lot. 

I believe that there are two parts of us:

The spirit is the part of us that is without fear and curious about life. Most people lose connection to this part of themselves by about 8-9.

The reason for this is, at about that time, we form a second part to ourselves, the ego. I’m sure you have heard that expression. 

That’s the part of us that suddenly cares what others think. So we make sure we dress the same as everyone else, have the same trainers, school bag, and clothes. We do whatever is necessary, so we don’t stand out. 

Just the presence of the farmer had disconnected me from enjoying my run, meaning; I got lost in over-thinking and over analysing my performance, which in turn made the run much harder.

It was interesting to witness how the ego had changed my feelings and emotions. 

Like it or not feelings and emotions are what rule our life. We tend always to be moving towards what is pleasurable and away from what is painful. Doing whatever it takes to avoid being judged or criticised.

The ego part of us wants to be continuously praised and complimented. Continually analysing and overthinking everything.

As I wrote in the headline, “I had introduced my higher self to my ego.” And the higher self said to me. “Do you want fearful part of you in your life anymore?”

Do we need that part of us that is always judging ourselves and others, that is in constant fear of being judged or criticised. I don’t think we do. I think it limits us in so many ways. 

Many of us never fulfil our true potential because we always have one eye on the people in our lives, the people that are so afraid to step outside their comfort zone that they will make fun of anyone else that does. 

Strenght in you reflects the weaknesses within them. 

Growing up, the ego is needed to help build our identity and keep us safe from harm. Its the person we become so other people will like us, admire us, and accept us. But at some point, we have to live our life on our terms. Making decisions for ourselves not solely to impress others and make them accept us.

So many people let the fear of being judged or criticised stop them from fulfilling their destiny.

Please don’t be afraid to walk your own path and follow your dreams. 

Thanks for reading.

For those that don’t see a silver lining…

At the moment, there are dark clouds overhead, and if you look around, you will notice that everyone is staring straight up at them.

And, if you’re not careful, you will start to do the same.

Yes, the sky is dark, but don’t follow everyone else, be one of the people that search’s the sky for that gap in the clouds. Sometimes the simple act of looking instils faith.

The moment that the gap appears only the ones that are looking will find it. That ray of light reminding you that behind the clouds is a clear blue sky.

It never went away, but its absence fooled everyone that it was gone.

If you look back through the last 100 years, there have been some very dark times in our history, but the darkness past and the sun shined again.

Until the sky clears the best that we can do is be the sunshine to all the people in our lives, and pray the dark clouds quickly drift from view.