Are You Caught in the Overthinking Trap?

I believe we all have great ideas; the problem however is… we tend to overthink things to the point that we don’t do anything, or take so long that the moment has passed before we strike.

Which naturally leads onto, how can we stop doing this?

Well, the answer is not complicated. It’s not some 10 step process that you will forget. Its very simple.

Simple?

Yes.

As the famous Nike slogan goes, Just Do It.

Will your first attempt be excellent, probably not. But by just doing what your thinking of doing no matter how bad the first attempt. You have started.

Just starting puts you ahead of 90% of the people that say, “someday.”

The Fastest Road to Happiness

The fastest road to happiness is a road we would all like to travel.

If there is such a road, why do we not travel it more often?

Good question.

Life can have so many distractions, add on top of that the amount of fear and uncertainty around at the moment, and it’s easy to understand why people may think happiness is a step too far.

Well, in my experience, happiness is never too far away.

Many people say that I must have been blessed with happiness, I say blessed because I’m happy most of the time. And if I were to put into words why. Why I’m happy most of the time, I would have to say it is because I put others in front of myself. I pick up on peoples gifts and talents and then let them know, through praise and acknowledgement.

Sounds too easy, right?

Attaining happiness can’t be that easy. Can it? A few simple words to a stranger?

Well, put it into action yourself. The next time you have a good meal, send a message to the chef. Walk by a painter painting a sign, highlight his/her skills. Taxi driver leaves you off compliment there driving.

These are the little moments that don’t take much time, but they add so much value to others, and in the process, they make you happy.

As it says in the good book, give, and you shall receive. So give compliments, encouragement, and praise everywhere you go this weekend and see how much happiness you receive.

Be the voice of hope you want to hear.

A Change is a Good as a Rest

No matter who you are or where you are reading this from there is a good chance that you would benefit from a nice rest, whether that be lying on a beach, or a holiday adventure.

2020 has been a difficult year for all.

Yesterday I decided if I couldn’t have the resting holiday that I know my spirit needs I would have a change. Deciding to change around my living space..

Waking up this morning was like being in a new place. The light was different, I heard the outside noises in a different way. Rather than just getting ready on auto pilot I had to think about where I had put certain items, as most things had a new home.

My whole morning was a refreshing change that has helped me greatly, and thought was worth mentioning. As any kind of change gets the mind to process information in a different way.

God & Time

As a society, we have become fixed on time. We get up at a certain time, eat at certain times, and go to bed at a certain time.

Schedules are helpful to navigate our lives.

The problem arises when we think that we can put God on a schedule when we believe that he will keep our life happy all the time. As you know, this is not the case.

After many years of plenty, there are often a few years of drought.

In biblical days the people were more spiritual, and the reason for this, in my opinion, was because they didn’t have the thousands of distractions that we have today in our modern world, that connect us to materialism.

And because of this, they were more in touch with nature and those that were highly spiritual, or as we call today, awakened. Could communicate with God.

Countless times throughout the Bible, he was not happy with his people, and on many occasions, the Prophets had to convince him to give humanity another chance.

Well, there is a good chance that at this time, God is not happy with us. And if you know your world news, you will understand why. We are cutting down the Amazon rainforest, the lungs of the planet. We are destroying our water supplies all over the world in the name of fashion. The list is endless, and depressing so I will leave it there.

This is a very fearful time in human history, so if you are afraid you are not alone, I feel that fear as well, every day. But I know that God is in control, and in his timing, the sun will shine again, and this world will be a better place.

It so tempting to search for answers, to search for that one video that tells you what you want to hear, but in that search, you will probably absorb a lot of fear.

The blind cannot lead the blind.

As much as we all want to change the world, the sad truth is, we can only change ourselves.

Be the change you wish to see. Show compassion, empathy and love everywhere you go, and maybe, just maybe, you will plant a seed in some peoples heart so they, in turn, will help others.

This is the way that I live my life.

Did we all forget…

Waking up this morning, I heard the sound of the rain on my window, and the thought came to me, did we all forget.

The simple things in life, what matters?

When did we all get so wrapped up in a system that made us desire material things? Thinking that we were not good enough unless we wore certain clothes or worked at certain jobs.

When did that happen?

Yes, what is happening at this time is scary, there is so much uncertainty, America, once the greatest country on earth seems to be coming apart at the seams.

In my lifetime, I have never seen so much fear.

But…

In all that darkness, I see hope; people are finally waking up to the fantasy life that has been feed to them their whole lives. People are finally beginning to realise that only the essentials of life matter.

What’s the use of a fancy house, flashy car, 60inch TV if you haven’t got your health. What use are material possessions if you haven’t got a spiritual connection to God to give you the faith that all will be ok.

Let’s start remembering and being thankful for all that we do have.

Start each day with gratitude.

Gratitude is the candlelight that will guide you back into the light.

Are You Addicted To Fear?

In my opinion, fear is a drug.

A drug that once you get a taste, you want more.

For example, you hear a story that it’s not going to rain for a few months, and there will be water shortages.

That person has dealt you some fear.

If you have strong faith, you will say to yourself, that’s not going to happen, “I have faith all will be ok.” And it is.

But if your faith is weak, however, even though you have only read one story, the fear that it has created in you makes you look for another story. Next thing you know you’re searching on YouTube for ways to prepare for such an event….

And guess what?

You find 100s of videos, each recommending different ways to prepare. “Why is the mainstream media not talking about this?” You ask yourself.

Within a few weeks, you’re an expert on the subject. You have even told friends and family, who thought you were crazy in the beginning, but when it hasn’t rained for a couple of weeks, they get a little worried.

Now they too do some research and see there are hundreds of videos all over the internet talking about the same topic.

Molehill to Mountain

This is a story I just made up, but I’m sure you get the idea. One little bit of fear turned into a lot of fear, but not only that, you started to deal that fear to others.

And they, in turn, went on to deal that fear to more people.

With current events, there are 1000s of different stories like this all over the internet. People in their fearful states have created stories of what THEY think is happening. Whether they are right or wrong is not the point, the point is they are dealing fear.

And when you are getting fear from the mainstream news, fear from your friends and family, fear from social media. It will wear you down over time.

I have no way of knowing what position you are in at this time, but I know that you must keep focusing on the positives in your life. Having the faith that everything will work out for the best. A quote that sums up what I’m trying to say here is from Helen Keller, who said, “I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet”.

We have to be thankful for what we have. We have to be faithful, stay informed yes, but don’t get caught up in what some random person or persons is saying on the internet.

The truth is, no one knows what the future holds, except God.

What this crisis has highlighted for me, is just how much we have taken for granted, for far too long. Materialism had all but taken over.

Everyone wanted the latest fashion, cars, smartphones without questioning what maintaining that lifestyle is doing to the planet.

Yes, it is sad what has happened, but is it not sadder that it took an event like this to make people connect with what really matters in life — food family and shelter?

Thanks for reading. 🙂


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Turn A Negative Into a Positive

Now is a difficult time for everyone. It doesn’t matter if you own a business, are an employee, unemployed, a student, a child or even in retirement. Current events are affecting us all.

Now more than ever, we need to have faith that everything will work out.

If you are doubtful, I completely understand, but history is a great predictor of future events.

In world war 2, millions of Jews were murdered in Germany by Hitler. We can only imagine the fear the Jewish people in Europe felt at that time. I’m sure they probably felt like there was no hope for the future.

Fast forward to 2020, and the Jewish people are the most powerful people on the planet. They are by far the richest and the most influential in every area of business, finance, music and arts.

So if you are fearful at this time, know that the future will be better, for all of us.

Humanity will learn from this. We will value our freedom so much more; we will appreciate our family and friends more, putting greater value on our health and our jobs.

As you are probably fully aware, walking into supermarkets and crowded spaces now involve wearing a face covering, so I had an idea of turning a negative into a positive. So, working with a graphic designer, I have designed a face covering to send a message of faith to others.

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Thanks.

Finding The Faith To Succeed In A Time of Great Uncertainty

I firmly believe that we all have been given a divine destiny; a special gift that is unique to us. Happiness and fulfilment come when we use that gift to help others; which results in making this world a better place.

People work so hard to be successful, to maintain their fitness; doing the best they can to keep healthy. Faith is no different; it needs constant work and maintenance.

When you see someone that never seems to get into difficulty or never seems to be stressed, this is not by chance. This person has very little fear in his or her life.

Too often we step back in fear, with the attitude that we are not worthy of the new relationship, the new job, the new career.

I would like you to know that you are worthy; you have a light within you that you must allow to shine into the world.

If you feel held back in fear at this present moment, my book Power of Choice – Choose faith, not fear, can help you rekindle your faith. It is currently free on Amazon.

My main aim as a writer is to inspire others to fulfil their full potential, one sentence, one verse, one story, is all that it takes to open the door to the next level of your destiny. 

Enjoy the book; may it bring you happiness.

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RJM

How to Reprogram Your Mind to Be Happier, Healthier, And More Successful

As I look outside my window at 9.00am, the sun is rising into a complete blue sky with sparse clouds at the horizon.

The sun rays make everything look so alive and vibrant.

The sun has a way of brightening up our day.

There are moments in life when we become separated from any worry, stress, or anxiety we might be feeling. Looking out of the window this morning was one of those moments for me. The connection to nature replaced all other thoughts in my mind. And each and every one of us has this capability.

The capability to separate ourselves from any negativity we might be feeling.

There was a time in my life where I was worried and anxious most of the time. About everything. And an exercise that helped me greatly was to set little reminders during the day, to just pause, and connect to the world around me.

Connect to the magnificence of God’s creation.

A good starting point is to set a reminder on your phone once, twice—ten times a day. where you stop what you are doing and connect with the world around you.

And when that timer goes off— you might be worrying about a problem, or be having doubts about the future, or maybe even deep in thought about an old memory. But when that timer or alert goes off if you make it a point to connect with the world around you, connect with the room, connect with nature. Notice the vibrant colours, listen to all the sounds that surround you, in a new way.

Or it could be that you are in the middle of traffic, you become aware of the car in front of you. The car behind you. The pedestrians on the side walk. The many sounds of the engines and horns.

You will realise that you were driving but you were not truly aware of the world around you— you were on autopilot.

And a lot of us go through life like this, we are on autopilot, our emotions— of worry, doubt, fear, guilt, shame— joy, hope, love, and happiness, are all pulling us through life.

So, the first step to reprogramming your mind, is creating moments that you connect with the world around you, so that you’re no longer carried along by the thoughts and emotions that you feel inside.

And the more of these moments that you create the deeper you become connected to the present moment— the only place that God resides. The only place that you can make a connection with the divine. The source of all peace, creativity, ideas, and inspiration.

Now once you start doing this don’t beat yourself up for the moments of worry, doubt, unhappiness, or any lack of trust.

None of us are perfect.

We all have weaknesses, we have all went through dramatic events in our lives, but when we practise becoming detached from them negative feelings and emotions, they will no longer have the same control over us.

We can become more connected to the world around us, a beautiful feeling, that is worth investing time and energy.

A True Awakening

We can go through hours, days, weeks, even years lost within our thoughts—not connected to the world around us, at all.

You may know people in your community, or maybe personally, that are consumed by un-forgiveness, consumed by fear, by guilt, by shame, by regret.

Every time you speak to them, they tell you stories of the past, how someone hurt them, a neighbour, a friend, a colleague, even a family member, and they can’t forget.

They can never forget the hurt, the betrayal, or the pain.

So, they keep replaying the memory in their minds.

And every time they tell you that story, or you tell someone your story of what happened to you. What you are doing is removing yourself from the present moment. You are living in the past, replaying old memories that will only bring up past feelings of — anger, hatred, jealousy, and pain.

Which hurts no one only YOU.

Now, everyone does this. So what can we do?

The only thing that you can do is that you become aware that you are doing it. That is the first step. Awareness.

Becoming aware of the habit of replaying the hurts of the past. And what awareness does is it creates a gap… so rather than you caught up in the thought or emotion, letting it transport you into the past, you notice how the memory has changed your mood. How the memory has made you connect to feelings of worry, connect to feelings of doubt, connect to feelings of anger, of hurt, of regret.

The hurts of the past can almost feel like they are part of you.

Now, if the timer goes off, and you feel resistance— feelings that you don’t want to stop worrying, feelings that you don’t want to stop feelings stressed, anxious, fearful etc., that’s ok, just become aware of the resistance.

That might be the first step for you… realising that the worry, doubt, stress or pain has become part of you. Becoming aware that you have that deep embedded worry, you have that deep embedded anxiety— deep embedded doubt, guilt, un-forgiveness, or regret.

Just become aware of the feelings, saying, “these are the feelings that are blocking me.” These are the feelings that I need to work through, let go off. Before I can spiritually grow into the fullness of who I AM.

And the more that you do this practise, taking time each day to connect with nature, to the present moment, the deeper and deeper this awareness will become… meaning, the deeper, your connection to God.

In time, all the worry, doubt, anxiety, pain will fade away as you realise that all the negative feelings from the past are what is blocking your connection to the present moment…

the only place that God resides.

The Source of All Peace, Creativity, Ideas, And Inspiration. And as A Result, You Will Become, Happier, Healthier and More Successful.

Thanks for reading. Enjoy your weekend.