Take some time to relax this weekend.
And by relax i don’t mean, your feet up in front of the TV watching a film, or scrolling through your phone.
True relaxation is when you make a conscious decision to relax. Saying, I’m going to take 5 – 10 – 15 minutes and just sit with my eyes closed in a quiet room or lay down on a bed.
Just being thankful for the week.
When you do this your body will tell you how tired you are.
It is so easy to keep going week to week without taking time out to be at one with yourself and God.
Re-energise this weekend, and inspire one person to do the same.
Wishing you health and happiness.
Many problems that we face come from our relationship with others; often started over trivial matters.
Someone speaks to us in a particular tone. Rather than thinking they may be under stress we can take it personally, shutting them out of our lives, telling others of how much they hurt us by what they said or done.
Unrest of any kind can lead to unhappiness and pain. Life can be complicated; we can feel misunderstood, taken for granted, or hurt.
The problem arises when we let these feelings consume our spirit. We can become critical and judgemental of others, and ourselves. We can become defensive, distant, unwilling to connect with people the way we once did.
Don’t allow bitterness, stubbornness or un-forgiveness extinguish the light of God that’s within your heart.
Feelings of negativity can separate us from His love.
Many people are unhappy because they have allowed negativity to cloud their vision. Living this way can be stressful, frustrating and can damage your relationships, your health and your faith.
When you focus on negativity, it’s almost impossible to see the positives in your life.
If someone hurt you, and you hurt him or her back, it may seem like payback, but it only adds more negativity to the world.
What you give out you will get back in return.
Many people focus on their needs instead of focusing on what they can do for others. The result is they are never fulfilled.
Throughout my life, my outlook has been one of happiness with a deep love for everyone. For the longest time, I took this attitude for granted. Recently, however, I decided to encapsulate the reasons behind my philosophy.
The result is my new book, How to Feel Love and Be Happy.
I would like to share with you the ways to live a life of harmony and happiness, which will give you a great feeling of love in your life.
You can download my book free today on Amazon, click on the image below.
Did you know that the words you speak can bring healing to people’s lives?
When you speak words of love, comfort, or encouragement, those words have the power to affect the person hearing them in such a positive way, that the result is health in their body.
For those of you who are parents, your words can impart valuable knowledge to your children, which results in their good health:
Not only do our words have the power to heal, but unfortunately they also have the power to hurt, which can result in sickness.
Careless words can make people feel insecure which can lead to them feeling depressed. The greatest sickness of the 21st century.
As Proverbs 12:18 states: “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts..” – and swords kill or cripple people!
When we get into a conflict or argument, our words can diffuse the situation, or make it worse.
Most people are lazy with there words; they fail to understand or appreciate the power they possess. So, they use them unwisely. Saying negative things like, I can’t, I will never, that’s impossible.
Each of us needs to take responsibility. Responsibility for the words that we use. When you change I can’t to I can; healing energy will flow into your life.
If you have a problem in your relationship, you have two choices, you can be stubborn, or you can choose to sit down with a loved one and admit that you’re in the wrong, even if you’re not. You will often find that when you make the first move the other person will apologise also.
In my new book, The Healing Power of Words I write about the healing power that our words contain.
How they can mend relationships and friendships that have fallen apart.
How negative self-talk can hold you back.
How to create habits that are healthy, not only mentally but also emotionally.
Learn to heal people where ever you go. Control your tongue. Strengthen your family bonds, and nourish the ones you love.
Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”
These are healing words. These are words that instil faith that can restore a person’s life. Like Jesus, we too must speak healing, encouraging, and inspirational words over our lives and the lives of others.
Words that build people up not tear them down. Words that motivate inspire and push people towards their destiny.
The Healing Power of Words is currently on free promotion on Amazon. Get your copy now!
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Rev J Martin
You’ve attended the interview it seemed to go well, but you’re waiting with worry to hear back from them. You had an extra slice of cake with your afternoon tea and you’re worried if it was one too many for the waistline you’re watching.
Or maybe you’re about to go have a nice evening out with your friends and you’re worried whether it will rain. The common denominator in all these things is that you’re worrying about things you can’t change – so stop worrying!
You’ve already attended the interview so you’ve done what you can to get the job. You’ve already eaten the cake so there’s no point beating yourself up for it when it’s already in the tummy. And the weather is uncontrollable so worrying about isn’t going to change it.
How often do you worry about things you can’t change?
Probably a few times a day – if not more. This creates unnecessary additional stress for both your body and mind, and also prevents the joy and enjoyment you can experience today.
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?
So it’s time you learned to stop worrying. Let’s start by looking at what research has said about worrying in general:
- About 85% of the things we worry about never happen.
- If what we worry about does happen, 80% of us said we handled the outcome better than we thought we would.
- People who let go of worries instead of stressing over them are much healthier than those who don’t.
So how do you let go of this worrying that sometimes drives you crazy – especially when you’re worrying about things you have no control over?
Try the six strategies below to stop worrying once and for all – there’ll be a time and a place for each of them.
Number One – Call a friend to talk about your worry.
Talking about your worry will help you get your head straight about whether your worry is realistic, worth worrying about, and something you can actually do anything about.
It will help you understand that there’s no point worrying about it if the outcome is out of your hands. Talking will offload some of the weight you carry around.
Number Two – Time with God.
Learning to take time each with God. Being aware of His presence through prayer and stillness will help you keep your mind focused on what you’re doing now rather than worrying about things you can’t change.
Even 10 minutes of sitting down just focusing on your breathing, has been shown to reduce everyday stress.
Number Three – Accept uncertainty & learn to thrive in it.
The beauty of life is in how unpredictable it is – you never quite know what’s around the corner! Learn to embrace this uncertainty and thrive in it. Who knows, it could even bring some exciting new opportunities you never even thought about. Put your heart and soul into the things you care about, and work hard on achieving your dreams. That’s all you can do. The rest is up to God.
Number Four – Distract yourself with another activity.
Really can’t seem to get it out of your head? Go do something completely unrelated and different that forces you to focus on something else. This is most effective if you choose an activity that you get fully immersed in, such as practicing your hobby or reading an exceptional book.
For example, I’m able to escape the world when I take my dog for a walk in the forest – just spending time with him takes my mind away from other things.
Number Five – Exercise!
Doing some kind of exercise you enjoy will give you a break from your worries whilst reducing the levels of your stress hormones, stimulating the production of feel-good brain chemicals, and improving your self-image.
If you’re struggling to get your mind to be quiet during exercise, put some music on in your headphones or push yourself even harder. When you challenge your body you will need to focus so you won’t be able to worry about anything else other than the exercise itself.
Number Six – Have a designated worry time and worry notebook.
If you really want to take control of those worries and you’re finding that the above strategies don’t work, allow yourself to worry for a certain time period every day.
Spend time writing about all your worries in that notebook, and accept that when the time is up, the worrying has to stop. That way you will get them out of your head and onto paper, which research has shown is very effective in clearing your mind.
If you’re at least able to stop worrying about things you can’t change, you will be able to reduce your stress levels and boost your positive emotions. For the things you can change, do something about them, fight your worry with action!
For the things you can’t change, have a play with these six strategies and see how you get on with letting go of your worries!
Enjoy your weekend.
Rev J Martin
“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.
Our daily lives can be busy, hectic and at times overwhelming. It may feel like the idea of a stress free life is just a hopeless wish. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Small changes over time can make a big difference. Today I would like to share 11 of my favorite tips for finding more peace and calmness in everyday life.
- Slow down. If you slow down your body you will find that your mind will slow down also. You will start to feel less stressed. Many times people will say, “but I have so much to do?” To them i say, ‘if you get sick things still get done.’
- Ask instead of guessing. Reading minds is impossible. But we still try it and create unnecessary anxiety, and uncertainty for ourselves. So ask and communicate instead. It may be hard at first but it can save you and the people around you so much trouble in the long run.
- Be 10 minutes early. It’s a small habit but it has transformed much of my travel time during the year. From always feeling stress to feeling relaxed and recharged.
- Remember the 5 little words that’ll help you to stay sane: one thing at a time. By keeping those words in mind and letting them guide you through your day. You will find yourself less stressed and more focused. Not only will it bring you more inner peace but it will also help you to get things done quicker and better.
- Find a relaxation technique that works for you. By taking time to myself each day, listening to soothing music or a relaxation cd. Link. I find that it releases tension and recharges me. What works for you? Long walks, music, yoga, meditation or going for a swim? Find out and do that.
- Accept and let go. If there is something negative from the past. Something someone said, or did that replays in your mind. Then accept it and let that feeling and thought in, instead of trying to push it away. When you accept it; that is when it starts to lose power. And while the facts may still be there in your head the negative feelings become a lot less powerful. At this point, let it go and direct your focus to the present moment and something better instead.
- Disconnect over the weekend. Leave your work – and work phone – where it belongs. Disconnect or at least limit your internet activity. Put your smart phone on silent, stop checking every notification. Spending more time with your family, friends, hobby or out in nature.
- Unclutter your world, unclutter your mind. De-clutter your workspace or your room. An uncluttered and ordered space brings clarity and order to the mind. And don’t stop there. De-clutter, simplify and organize your home and life too. Live in a more relaxing environment.
- Don’t make mountains out of molehills. This can create much unnecessary stress. When facing a mountain ask yourself questions like. “Does someone on the planet have it worse than me right now? Will this matter in 5 years?” These questions help you to realize that things may not be that bad.
- Breathe. Breathing is an excellent way to relax your mind when stressed, lost in the past or future. Keep your attention on the breathe for two minutes and focus on the air going in and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present moment.
- Remember: There’s a day tomorrow too. When you have a bad day. Or life interferes with your plans, stress can kick in and get you down. In my experience the best way to handle such a situation is to tell yourself that there’s a day tomorrow. You can get it done then. Beating yourself up is not a helpful strategy.
Thanks for reading. Like or share if this helped you in anyway, so it can help others.
Rev J Martin
I find it almost impossible to STOP; while others seem to take relaxation in their stride.
My mind is always racing with ideas, all the things that I convince myself, I must do. All this added pressure doesn’t help. I want to do so much but have so little time.
Im sure I am not on my own.
The only solution that I can come up with is allocating time to rest. Just time each week that you turn everything off and unplug from the world. Phone off. Laptop off. Take time just to be.
I visit certain people who live a relaxed lifestyle, just being in their presence I feel a calmness within my soul.
It is in this calmness that most of my ideas, wisdom and mental clarity happen, so why do I not spend more time there?
In these moments I see the world so beautifully, then I’m off on the road again.
In this busy world, we need to make conscious effort to slow down. If we don’t— the stress and pressure can build up to illness and pain; the body can only take so much.
Our bodies slowly break down.
I regularly have sore backs, sore throats but rather than Stop; I carry on. My body is giving me messages, but I refuse to listen.
Waking this morning, I didn’t feel good at all. This idea, STOP, shouted louder than anything else, so I decided to write it down. Maybe its time I stuck this up on the wall as a reminder that if I don’t slow down, I will STOP.
I’m beginning to realize that I need to take time for myself each week. I can’t reply to every message or email, and even when I do the tiredness distorts my judgment.
When you are at full strength, only then can you give others the energy that they deserve, and need.
thank you for reading and have a good day.