The Secret to Less Anxiety Revealed!

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Anxiety is something that affects us all.

For some, however, rather than make them hide away looking for safety, they use their anxious feelings to propel them forward, to walk in and give there best interview, presentation, etc.

So to the secret.

Is there one to limit the anxiety that we may feel?

Well, many years ago, I had to work on a project that involved me working with over 150 people. My anxiety levels went through the roof. I wanted to fit in, I wanted my voice to be heard, and connect with as many people as possible, but it wasn’t to be.

I only made a few friends, and even with those people, I couldn’t be fully myself, I had to talk about the project or the subjects that interested them.

It’s only when I left that project and started to work on my own again meeting people one to one, on my own terms did I realise that my personality just didn’t fit with dealing with a lot of people.

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The lesson that I learnt was that to have peace and happiness; we have to be true to how you are.

If you feel that you’re at your best when surrounded by a lot of people but sad if you are alone then make sure you are not alone that often, or get an activity that occupies your mind when you are alone.

If you’re like me, feeling at your best when you are alone, then get a job that allows you to work alone.

We can easily avoid a lot of our anxieties by just accepting the way we are. Problems usually arise when we try to be something we’re not.

All your friends could be sociable people, but crowds may make you feel uncomfortable, then if you mention this, you may be made fun off as if you’re not normal or you need to be more confident.

Yes, in some cases this is correct, but if the people that surround you don’t have the same interests or moral standards, it can be a horrible experience.

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I have always been interested in the spiritual, and metaphysical, not party-friendly subjects.

Some people love to gossip and have small talk. I’m just not one of those people, meaning I found it very difficult growing up.

For most of my life, I thought that there was something wrong with me, I found it hard to hold conversations because I couldn’t be myself. Conversations with me were serious conversations, people you will find don’t like serious, they want easy, gossip, scandal, or about the latest drama on tv. And there is nothing wrong with that. But I couldn’t do it.

It wasn’t until I removed myself from the environments where materialistic people surrounded me, did my anxiety go away.

The relief I got from no longer having to be something that I was not, I can not describe in words.

Do you feel trapped?

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Maybe at the moment, you’re in an unhappy relationship because you just go along with the other person. After all, their happiness means more to you than your own happiness. And that is lovely that you love them that much.

But you’re not true to yourself.

If the moment that you stand your ground and make your voice heard you are shot down, or an argument commences then this is an unhealthy relationship.

One in which will not work long term, and if it does it means that you will have sacrificed your happiness for the other person’s happiness.

True love is when both people make sacrifices.

This is just one example.

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Another could be that you’re in friendship and your friend or friends love getting very drunk at the weekend spending all their money, you on the other hand like to have a good time but want to save a little money. Not live week to week, spending most of your weekend recovering in bed feeling unwell.

Peer pressure can lead to a lot of anxiety, you can easily follow other people down a road that you don’t feel comfortable, and the longer you follow them, the harder it becomes to walk your own path.

Happiness is the product of living life the way that you want to, not caring what others think.

These are just two examples, but the list goes on. There are so many areas of our lives that we do certain things to fit in, to be liked.

Yes, we all want to be accepted, but if being accepted means that you compromise who you are. Is that what you want?

In my experience anxiety builds up in your life until the point that it overpowers you. You then think that you’re an anxious person, that it will not go away…

This is not the case

Please take a look at your life, look at all the situations or people that make you feel anxious and make some changes. It could be to change jobs; it could be to limit the time you spend with certain people to see if it helps.

It could even be to spend less time on social media or turn off notifications if seeing constant updates of the people you know having a good time makes you feel sad and lonely.

See how your life improves.

Growing up, I gave my power away to others, thinking I was the person with the problem when, in fact, I was just a spiritual person that was surrounded by people that were more material focused. I was no better, just different.

What I looked at as a weakness was a strength.

To lower your anxiety, be honest with yourself, are you living life to impress and make others happy?

Are you surrounded by people in your work and social life that don’t have the same interests as you? Where you have to put on an act to fit in?

If the answer to any of the questions was YES, then start to make some changes, and you will notice how your anxiety level subsides.

Thanks for reading.

You Can Transform Your Life: The Power Of Prayer — Free on Kindle

In this fast-paced world, it’s hard to find the time to get anything done. With commitments and notifications every 5 minutes it’s difficult to get a quiet moment.

We can have all these goals and dreams, but they never seem to materialise.

We feel our best when calm, relaxed and full of faith, but attaining that state can be difficult.

Worry and doubt have a way of creeping up on us. Before you know it, you don’t have the same passion and energy that you used to.

You are a truly gifted person with unlimited potential, but if you’re easily distracted and let the problems of life knock you back, you won’t get very far.

Learn a simple method of praying that will focus your mind throughout the day. Keeping your attention on what you want and off what you don’t.

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Thank You. Have an amazing day.

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Can The Snooze Button Determine Your Destiny?

“Snooze, just another 10 minutes. That can’t hurt.”

Most people’s first thought of the day, and if you think these thoughts or similar thoughts, then you are probably rushing to work in the morning, depending on that dose of caffeine to get you through.

With myself, often it’s thoughts of worry, something that I know I must do but keep putting off. What I have learnt is, the sooner I address the problem, the happier I am.

Them first few thoughts let you know what is working or not working in your life.

If you are dreading going to work maybe its time that you did something else, of course, that is easier said than done. With bills to pay and a certain lifestyle to maintain it can be challenging to change your job. It’s the fear of the unknown.

 

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What I suggest is having a creative outlet.

Even a small service that you can provide. Maybe your an excellent painter and decorator, or have a keen eye for interior design. Even a listening ear or caring nature will take you far. We can easily overlook our true gifts and abilities, but entire businesses are built upon them.

Your first few thoughts each morning determines the rest of the day, so it’s essential that you and I make a conscious effort towards thoughts of faith, gratitude and love.

No more negotiating with the alarm clock. Hitting the snooze button once usually leads to hitting it again and again. Then traffic. Then stress. Then late, again.

Starting the morning in this way can create thoughts of struggle and even the feeling that your life will never change. So, in the morning when you feel that thought coming on, “SNOOZE” Replace it with, “Thank you for another day. Thank you that I have a job; thank you that I live in a country that I can make my dreams come true.”

Instead of ‘snooze’ get up and take the time to get a healthy breakfast and enjoy your morning coffee in the fresh air.

Gratitude is the foundation of happiness.

Start the day calm, relaxed, and full of faith and see the difference that it makes. Make the choice that each day is going to be better than the last.

Change those first thoughts and change everything!

 

 

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The Power Of February

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Many people think that when January is gone, there goes the new year resolution for another year… but this is not the case.

Studies have shown that decisions made in February are the ones that last for the rest of the year.

Maybe its the long stretch in the evenings or the brighter mornings.

We all have unlimited potential within, but if you don’t have goal-directed people around you, you will not get very far.

People that encourage you, people that want to listen, people that want to hear your opinion.

Make 2019 the year that counts, the year that you can look back on and say, that was the year that changed everything.

Work on your faith daily, even if its only a short prayer. Take regular walks in nature and feel the wind in your hair. Connecting with nature can help in so many ways, relieves anxiety, depression and helps your fitness too.

One of my favourite quotes is, “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”

Make some decisions of faith this week, park the car 10 minutes away from the office or take a walk to the corner shop.

Stick a sticky note on your laptop or back of door, somewhere you will see it often— of the person you want to be.

Say a short prayer, “thank you Lord for all the small things that I take for granted.” Often throughout the day.

Fulfilling your divine destiny is a marathon, not a race. It’s many small steps that over time will get you to your destination.

I believe in you. Take a step of faith today.

Thanks for reading. Enjoy your week.
Rev J Martin

Increase Your Faith, Overcome Your Fears, And Feel The Presence of God In Your Life

No matter how we feel, God is always present.

Many people go through times when His presence can feel far away or absent altogether, which is often the case when someone is depressed, in grief or the depths of despair.

We all go through times when we are so busy trying to get everything to work that we don’t take the time to connect with God, thinking that we must do everything on our own strength.

Worry doubt and stress has a way of blinding us from the truth.

It’s so easy to get lost in a web of negative thinking, which in some cases can last for months, if not years. Overcoming negative thinking is achievable in many ways, but the main one is to take time each day to spend in the service of God.

Many think that service means only to pray and to help others, but this is not the case. Service also means to take care of one’s self.

Most people care more about their cars than their own mental and physical health. Fear worry and doubt can destroy your spirit in the same way that water will rust your car.

A little fear worry or doubt is natural, it keeps us safe and away from harm, but constant fear, for example, can lead to illness and pain.

Fear is automatic; like a weed, it does not need care and attention to grow. It can grow in almost impossible conditions. Often I have seen a weed growing in a crack in a wall.

Faith is the opposite.

Faith is very similar to a muscle; it needs the right nutrients and exercise. Most people however only work on their faith when things are going wrong. Then when all is better again, they don’t put in the maintenance, so their faith rusts, so to speak, allowing fear worry and doubt to drift back in.

Then the smallest setback can seem like the biggest of obstacles.

Maintain your faith each day, and you will live a happier, healthier and more fulfilled life, where you see and take the opportunities that come your way.

There is so much negative news today that you must make a conscious effort to absorb as much positivity as you can. In the form of reading scripture or motivational books, listening to podcasts, watching films and documentaries that inspire.

We must take control. As much as we may want to, we can never change others. We can only change ourselves.

Thanks for your time. Have a good day.

Rev J Martin

 


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Viral Video With a Christain Message

The conversations of young people intrigue, bewilder and sometimes confused me. “You’ll have to watch this video it’s so funny, you will enjoy it.”

It’s usually a cat or dog doing something weird and on one occasion it was a squirrel on water skis.

Usually the children are bent over laughing, and I’m left holding onto the phone with a smirk on my face at how little amuses the innocent.

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One day last week I opened the local paper, and there was a story about a video that had 1 million views, the man in the video was power hosing an old white patio chair.

I read on expecting an animal to knock the hose out of his hand or for someone to play a prank on him but nothing. That was it. A video of a man power hosing a dirty old chair.

The story concluded with the fact that people find satisfaction watching something been cleaned and coming up as new.

It reminded me of my favourite job growing up on the farm at home. The satisfaction I got from power hosing the street in front of our house from all the gravel and dirt carried in by the cars and machinery.

Dirt on a tarmac surface or a patio seat is easy to see but what about the mess on the inside of our lives.

How much more satisfying is it to know that the metaphorical dirt of our lives can be washed clean by our creator who’s laws we have broken.

The bible teaches that when a person realises what they are like on the inside and come to Jesus for forgiveness, he has promised, as far as the east is from the west so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

The thief on the cross beside Jesus realised this; he knew that he deserved to be there but Jesus the son of God did not, and in full realisation of this he said, “Lord, remember me when you come into your kingdom.”

In that instant, his sin was washed away forever.

What satisfaction there is in knowing that God will cleanse your spirit when you ask for forgiveness with the intention of never repeating the same mistakes.

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There was a pastor in Texas who carried the burden of a secret sin he had committed many years before. He had repented but still had no sense of God’s forgiveness.

In his church was a woman who claimed to have visions in which she spoke with Christ and he with her. The priest, however, was sceptical. To test her he said, “The next time you speak with Christ, I want you to ask him what sin your pastor committed while he was in seminary.” The woman agreed.

A few days later the priest asked, “Well, did Christ visit you in your dreams?”

“Yes he did”, she replied.

“And did you ask him what sin I committed in seminary?”

“Yes”

“Well, what did he say?”

“He said, ‘I don’t remember.’”

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