Firstly I would like to thank you for following me, I truly appreciate your time, and I want you to know I pray for you each day.
I firmly believe that we all have been given a divine destiny; a special gift that is unique to us. Happiness and fulfilment come when we use that gift to help others; which results in making this world a better place.
Too often we step back in fear, with the attitude that we are not worthy of the new relationship, the new job, the new career. I would like you to know that you are worthy; you have a light within you that you must allow to shine into the world.
If you feel held back in fear at this present moment, my book Power of Choice – Choose faith not fear can help you rekindle your faith. It is free on Amazon until Thursday 11.59pm.
My main aim as an author is to inspire change in the lives of my readers, one verse, one story, one sentence, can be all it takes to open the door to the next level of your destiny. This is one of my daily prayers.
We all work on our fitness; doing the best that we can to keep healthy. Faith is no different, it needs constant work and maintenance.
When you see someone that never seems to get into difficulty or never seems to be stressed, this is not by chance. This person has very little fear in his or her life.
Enjoy the book; may it bring you happiness.
Rev J Martin
Many people down through the years have recommended that I read a book called, ‘How to win friends and influence people’.
The title never really appealed to me.
Recently, I received a voucher for a bookstore, which happened to be doing a promotion on the book, so I bought it. As it turned out; it was not what I expected at all. As the saying goes, don’t judge a book by its cover.
The first thing I found very surprising was the fact that it was written in 1937. Secondly, that it contained some principles that were just as relevant in human relations. One chapter stood out above all others, which I will focus on today.
The chapter was called, ‘If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.’ It talked about the fact you should never criticise someone, as you never know what they have
The author used many stories to demonstrate this point, but the ones that had the deepest impact on me involved Abraham Lincoln.
When Mrs Lincoln and others spoke harshly about southern people. Lincoln replied, “Don’t criticise them, they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.
A very inspirational view.
During the American civil war in fighting the Battle of Gettysburg. The enemy got cornered by a swollen river. They were trapped, surrounded on all sides.
Hearing this, Lincoln telegraphed his orders to his General, ‘Attack immediately,’ and not wait to have a council of war.
What did the General do?
He did the exact opposite of what he was told. He hesitated. He procrastinated. He called a council of war. He refused point blank to attack. Within a week, the waters receded, and the enemy escaped.
Lincoln was furious. They had the enemy at their weakest point. The war could have been over in a matter of days, but the general called up all his troops for a meeting.
In bitter disappointment at his general, Lincoln sat down and wrote a letter, and at this time a letter coming from Lincoln was the severest rebuke.
What do you think the general did when he read the letter?
The general never seen the letter. Lincoln never mailed it. It was found among his papers when he died.
It was said, that Lincoln never mailed the letter because he saw it from the Generals perspective. If he had seen as much blood, if he had listened to the screams and shrieks of the wounded and dying for weeks; maybe he would not have been so anxious to attack.
Rather than criticise, he put himself in the general’s boots.
It reminded me of how quickly we often jump to a conclusion and judge or criticise without much thought where the other person is coming from.
How To Apply
When we find ourselves annoyed of upset at what someone said or done, it is important to rather than take offence to take a step back and look at the situation.
This is easier said than done.
This requires a strength of character as it is human nature to defend what we think is correct. It’s in these moments that our faith is tested.
Do we show love and understanding, or not. It’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Be shaped by Love.
Enjoy your weekend.
Rev J Martin
Do you find yourself, avoiding new situations because they make you uncomfortable?
It’s normal to feel uncertain before you face a new challenge, but stepping outside our comfort zone is the only time we grow.
Why would you want to do something uncomfortable?
We go out of our way to get away from stress and doing anything that makes us feel uncomfortable, but there is a difference between the discomfort of trying something new and stressful feelings.
At one time you were afraid to drive. Now you enjoy it. You may not have liked eating vegetables when you were younger, but now you couldn’t live without them. You were once afraid of applying for that first big job, but now that you have a career you enjoy, you wouldn’t trade the experience for anything. We all do things that at one time we were afraid to do.
Good things in life come to those who take risks, those who step outside their comfort zones in the knowing that with God anything is possible.
Then he touched their eyes and said, “According to your faith let it be done to you.”
Faith is stepping out into the unknown with the knowing that all will be ok. Successful people in all walks of life, take risks. They feel fear, but they do not let it push them back. Their faith in succeeding drive’s them forward
If you avoid new experiences, you are missing out on the best that life has to offer. The longer that you wait, procrastinate, or cower in fear, the more “comfortable” you get with how things are, and that’s not a very good place to be.
Before we go any further, ask yourself if you are happy?
Are you happy in your current state or do you ever dream of doing something else, something more?
Do you think about reaching out to other people, starting a new hobby, eating healthier, or even going for a new job?
If the answer is yes, then you have already decided this is something you want to do. Now it’s just a matter of making up your mind to overcome your fears.
Once people get settled into a routine, it can be difficult to break. Most people are running on a sort of “autopilot,” it takes them from point A to point B with little to no thought, but this is not what God created you for.
When we are young – we are fearless. Young children will pull an iron off the iron-board on top of themselves because they want to know where the lead is coming from.
We are told repeatedly growing up, don’t do this, don’t do that, so we stop exploring life. It gets to a point where we are afraid to try anything new; we get into a routine; we enter the comfort zone.
It takes no thought to stay in a comfort zone, for this reason, many people take up permanent residency.
Getting out of a comfort zone starts with deciding to take action.
Decide that it’s time to do something new. Decide to do something you have been afraid to do in the past. Take up a new hobby. Visit a new place — Decide to break the routine.
“But I’m Scared!”
You are not alone, many people are afraid to take that first step and take action. The idea of making a significant change may even lead to feelings of deep anxiety and self-doubt.
The first step to overcoming the fear of the unknown is to learn to take baby steps. If you fear to look for a new job. Start with writing out a C.V. /Resume. If you would love to lose weight but can’t find the time to go to a gym. Park 10 minutes from work – over a week that is nearly two hours of walking.
Some Helpful Advice
Two things that will help you get started are a list of goals (including those that make you uncomfortable or scare you) and a reliable buddy system.
Write the list of targets that you want to accomplish first. Things that you have always wanted to do but have been afraid to attempt.
Next, enlist the aid of a friend to help you accomplish those goals. Naturally, it’s easy to give up when you are the only one trying. A friend can provide that emotional support you need.
To conquer your fears once and for all and start living the life you dream of; take decisive action. Make up your mind that you can do anything, that you will be successful in whatever you decide to do.
What’s the worst that can happen?
Typically it won’t be as bad as you think. Doing things that make you feel uncomfortable or scared, eventually get easier to do. You may even wonder why you were so afraid in the first place.
Realise your true potential by stretching yourself. God created you to achieve great things. Don’t let fear hold you back.
Enjoy your week.
Rev J Martin