Are You Caught in the Overthinking Trap?

I believe we all have great ideas; the problem however is… we tend to overthink things to the point that we don’t do anything, or take so long that the moment has passed before we strike.

Which naturally leads onto, how can we stop doing this?

Well, the answer is not complicated. It’s not some 10 step process that you will forget. Its very simple.

Simple?

Yes.

As the famous Nike slogan goes, Just Do It.

Will your first attempt be excellent, probably not. But by just doing what your thinking of doing no matter how bad the first attempt. You have started.

Just starting puts you ahead of 90% of the people that say, “someday.”

Finding The Faith To Succeed In A Time of Great Uncertainty

I firmly believe that we all have been given a divine destiny; a special gift that is unique to us. Happiness and fulfilment come when we use that gift to help others; which results in making this world a better place.

People work so hard to be successful, to maintain their fitness; doing the best they can to keep healthy. Faith is no different; it needs constant work and maintenance.

When you see someone that never seems to get into difficulty or never seems to be stressed, this is not by chance. This person has very little fear in his or her life.

Too often we step back in fear, with the attitude that we are not worthy of the new relationship, the new job, the new career.

I would like you to know that you are worthy; you have a light within you that you must allow to shine into the world.

If you feel held back in fear at this present moment, my book Power of Choice – Choose faith, not fear, can help you rekindle your faith. It is currently free on Amazon.

My main aim as a writer is to inspire others to fulfil their full potential, one sentence, one verse, one story, is all that it takes to open the door to the next level of your destiny. 

Enjoy the book; may it bring you happiness.

Click on image below to download today.

RJM

How to Reprogram Your Mind to Be Happier, Healthier, And More Successful

As I look outside my window at 9.00am, the sun is rising into a complete blue sky with sparse clouds at the horizon.

The sun rays make everything look so alive and vibrant.

The sun has a way of brightening up our day.

There are moments in life when we become separated from any worry, stress, or anxiety we might be feeling. Looking out of the window this morning was one of those moments for me. The connection to nature replaced all other thoughts in my mind. And each and every one of us has this capability.

The capability to separate ourselves from any negativity we might be feeling.

There was a time in my life where I was worried and anxious most of the time. About everything. And an exercise that helped me greatly was to set little reminders during the day, to just pause, and connect to the world around me.

Connect to the magnificence of God’s creation.

A good starting point is to set a reminder on your phone once, twice—ten times a day. where you stop what you are doing and connect with the world around you.

And when that timer goes off— you might be worrying about a problem, or be having doubts about the future, or maybe even deep in thought about an old memory. But when that timer or alert goes off if you make it a point to connect with the world around you, connect with the room, connect with nature. Notice the vibrant colours, listen to all the sounds that surround you, in a new way.

Or it could be that you are in the middle of traffic, you become aware of the car in front of you. The car behind you. The pedestrians on the side walk. The many sounds of the engines and horns.

You will realise that you were driving but you were not truly aware of the world around you— you were on autopilot.

And a lot of us go through life like this, we are on autopilot, our emotions— of worry, doubt, fear, guilt, shame— joy, hope, love, and happiness, are all pulling us through life.

So, the first step to reprogramming your mind, is creating moments that you connect with the world around you, so that you’re no longer carried along by the thoughts and emotions that you feel inside.

And the more of these moments that you create the deeper you become connected to the present moment— the only place that God resides. The only place that you can make a connection with the divine. The source of all peace, creativity, ideas, and inspiration.

Now once you start doing this don’t beat yourself up for the moments of worry, doubt, unhappiness, or any lack of trust.

None of us are perfect.

We all have weaknesses, we have all went through dramatic events in our lives, but when we practise becoming detached from them negative feelings and emotions, they will no longer have the same control over us.

We can become more connected to the world around us, a beautiful feeling, that is worth investing time and energy.

A True Awakening

We can go through hours, days, weeks, even years lost within our thoughts—not connected to the world around us, at all.

You may know people in your community, or maybe personally, that are consumed by un-forgiveness, consumed by fear, by guilt, by shame, by regret.

Every time you speak to them, they tell you stories of the past, how someone hurt them, a neighbour, a friend, a colleague, even a family member, and they can’t forget.

They can never forget the hurt, the betrayal, or the pain.

So, they keep replaying the memory in their minds.

And every time they tell you that story, or you tell someone your story of what happened to you. What you are doing is removing yourself from the present moment. You are living in the past, replaying old memories that will only bring up past feelings of — anger, hatred, jealousy, and pain.

Which hurts no one only YOU.

Now, everyone does this. So what can we do?

The only thing that you can do is that you become aware that you are doing it. That is the first step. Awareness.

Becoming aware of the habit of replaying the hurts of the past. And what awareness does is it creates a gap… so rather than you caught up in the thought or emotion, letting it transport you into the past, you notice how the memory has changed your mood. How the memory has made you connect to feelings of worry, connect to feelings of doubt, connect to feelings of anger, of hurt, of regret.

The hurts of the past can almost feel like they are part of you.

Now, if the timer goes off, and you feel resistance— feelings that you don’t want to stop worrying, feelings that you don’t want to stop feelings stressed, anxious, fearful etc., that’s ok, just become aware of the resistance.

That might be the first step for you… realising that the worry, doubt, stress or pain has become part of you. Becoming aware that you have that deep embedded worry, you have that deep embedded anxiety— deep embedded doubt, guilt, un-forgiveness, or regret.

Just become aware of the feelings, saying, “these are the feelings that are blocking me.” These are the feelings that I need to work through, let go off. Before I can spiritually grow into the fullness of who I AM.

And the more that you do this practise, taking time each day to connect with nature, to the present moment, the deeper and deeper this awareness will become… meaning, the deeper, your connection to God.

In time, all the worry, doubt, anxiety, pain will fade away as you realise that all the negative feelings from the past are what is blocking your connection to the present moment…

the only place that God resides.

The Source of All Peace, Creativity, Ideas, And Inspiration. And as A Result, You Will Become, Happier, Healthier and More Successful.

Thanks for reading. Enjoy your weekend.

A Pearl of Wisdom That Took Me 25 Years To Learn—3 Minute Read—PART2

In my last post, I talked about your gift and talent in life being something that you can do effortlessly, something that comes naturally to you.

Well, each of us, I believe, has genius-level talent. God given abilities that we just have to tap into.

The main aim of this post is to help you find where your genius is, then it’s up to you to put all your energy into that area, and if you do you will excel, you will be as successful as you want to be.

The main obstacle that you will face in life is being yourself. Surely just being yourself should be easy?

No.

It’s not.

Somewhere along the way, we convince ourselves that we are not good enough, at almost everything. So we try extremely hard to be something that we are not, meaning, we never reach our full potential.

Starting off in life, we have all these dreams and passions, but very often we settle for second best or don’t embrace our natural gifts and abilities at all.

For example…

Your friend wants to be an accountant, so you follow them into accountancy, you qualify and earn amazing money. The problem is your a bright, outgoing person and sitting at a desk alone all day doesn’t interest you. So you’re unhappy.

Many people are in similar situations to this example. Living unhappy, with feelings of regret. Feelings that life has passed them by. That they have made too many mistakes.

Not the case. But it will take discipline and courage to make the necessary changes.

First, you have to ask yourself a few questions which I will go over now.

The Genius Zone

Most people are not sure what they are good at or what skills they have. And all the uncertainty is enough to put them off before they even start.

its difficult to believe that we are highly skilled in some area.

I will now share with you some questions to help you find what I like to call your genius Zone, so you have a firm foundation to build upon.

  1. What holds your attention?
    What subjects do you like reading about? What do you like to talk about? What do you like to study?
  2. What are you interested in?
    What topics have you been interested in your whole life? What subjects do you like to search for new information about?
  3. What absorbs your attention completely?
    What can you get completely absorbed in? When you are reading about it, watching documentaries on etc. When you’re talking on this subject hours will pass like minutes.

The answer to these questions is a good indication to your genius zone. The subjects that you’re most passionate about, you will have the most knowledge. Whatever this area is, you must focus on it because this is the area that you will be most creative.

When you discover your genius zone, you will notice that you do not need to learn much in that area. You may need more training to take your knowledge to the next level or maybe a change of job to acquire new experience.

But one or two years developing some skills is nothing compared to a lifetime of unhappiness— if you’re currently on the wrong path in life.

When you’re working in a job that you can share your knowledge and passion about a topic, product, or service, you will be happier, have more energy and have more love for yourself and others.

If this all sounds good, but you don’t know where to start then leave a comment or send me an email on revjmartin1@gmail.com, and I will do my best to advise you.

Thanks for reading.
RJM

Inspiration of the Day

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Franklin D. Roosevelt the 32nd president of the United States once said: “Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty… I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.”

Behind every great work there has been hour and hours of practise. There is no such thing as an over night success.

What Would You Do With $86,400 A Day?

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Its not hard to find people complaining. They will complain about standing in line, about the price of food, and what there goverment is doing or not doing.

It is much harder to find people that are actively working towards making a change. We all have 24 hours a day, and what we do in that 24 hours determines our destiny, and the destinies of those around us, so choose wisely.

Have a great day.

Inspiration of the Day

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We can’t all like the jobs that we do, but in our days off we have a chance to learn, evolve, and grow.

Now with sources like YouTube, Udemy, Masterclass series, there is countless ways to learn a new skill online.

Platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Redbubble, Society 6 allow you to connect with millions of people, sharing your work, so if you are an artist, designer, writer, musician, dancer there are plenty of ways to connect with people.

Looking at the media the world can seem a dark, scary place but on the flip side of that we are living in the best time in human history.

Embrace your gifts this weekend and share it with the world.