To be a person that people like, and get on with is easy but sometimes we like to make it complex.
Most people drift through life with no sense of purpose, no direction or true joy.
They pay no attention to the fact they are not happy, and never address the mindset and choices that led to that unhappiness, but if they did they might be able to reverse it.
Most people have limiting beliefs, and so their life is limited. They believe life is hard. They believe life is a challenge, full of sadness and misery.
They believe at some level, consciously or subconsciously. The best days are behind them. They believe fitting in, and wearing masks will get them a better or more comfortable life, then being the true self and following their true passions.
Their happiness is dependent on what happens; they are not in control of life; life is in control of them.
If you can switch your beliefs about life to the following seven empowering beliefs, life will start to work for you. The blessings will appear.
The joy that is inside you will start rising out. Here are seven beliefs you must have to live a great life.
Number One: I Decide How I feel No Matter the Circumstances
Number Two: I Have So Much to Be Thankful For
Number Three: Being Myself Attracts the Right People
Number Four: I am Capable of Anything
Number Five: Kindness Always Wins
Number Six: Everything is a Blessing or a Lesson
Number Seven: My Best Is Yet to Come
Let me go over each one to help you understand them a little more.
Number One— I Decide How I Feel No Matter the Circumstances.
Have you ever noticed how unhappy people seem to get upset over just about anything? Did you also notice that they seem to have a lot to be unhappy about?
The truth is they let every little circumstance make them unhappy.
Someone cuts them off in traffic… ruins their day. Someone says something unkind, and they replay in their mind for weeks. When you adopt the belief that you are in control of how you feel ,and you commit to doing daily work on yourself, two things happen.
First is that you become empowered. You know nothing has the power to make you unhappy. Only your thoughts can do that. You decide what every event means, and you can choose to see the blessing in everything.
The second is you start to attract better circumstances. When you are putting out better energy, better is attracted to you, and you notice more of the magic all around you.
Know that you decide how you feel and commit to do that daily work on yourself, so you can start and live every day in a beautiful state.
Number Two— I have So Much to Be Thankful For
This is pretty easy for anyone to understand, happy people are happy because they are because they appreciate more than unhappy people. It has been said many times; you can be happy with little or miserable with much.
Knowing this, you understand the goal is never to accumulate wealth or material things; it is to get to the place where are you feel like you have everything.
Because that is all it is, a feeling. Feel blessed, and you’ll be blessed. Feel blessed, and you are blessed.
Number Three— Being Myself Attracts the Right People
One of the greatest tragedies of human beings is that the majority change who they are to fit into the world. They believe but it being like someone else, will make them fit in better with others, be liked by others. But the truth is, you’re never attracting the right people by being someone you are not.,
Be yourself, and the right people for you will show up. The right people will love the real you.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Have the courage to be you. Always.
Believe and know if you do so, the perfect people and circumstances will show up in your life!
Number Four— I Am Capable of Anything
Successful people, know with absolute certainty anything they believe can be their reality. Imagine what you could create in your life with the belief I am capable of anything.
Well, you are, so believe it, know it and apply it to something you want. That dream you have. Plan for it. Work for it and get it!
That change you’ve been putting off: Believe you can do it and go for it!
Number Five— Kindness Always Wins
Some people believe kindness is a weakness. They believe kind people get walked over. They’ll point to an example from years ago, where they gave their heart and soul and that one person trampled all over it, so they adopt the belief that this is what happens every time they are kind.
If someone tripped you over once while you were walking you wouldn’t let that person stop you from walking, would you?
It’s not the walking that made you trip over it was the unkind person. In life, yes, some people will do you wrong, but that doesn’t mean you throw everyone into the same basket.
You are kind because that’s who you are not because you want something out of it, like a transaction.
Who do you think kind people are attracted to? Other kind people or those who refuse to be kind because they were hurt by someone else long ago?
Who do you think amazing people love to be around: those who are kind and genuine or those who are closed off?
Treat others how you want to be treated. Not because you want something from them, but because you know the world is a little better every time someone like you does good, no matter how small.
Number Six— Everything is a Blessing or a lesson
We’ve all been through hard times, every one of us. Some people who have been through minor hard times believe that their life is far less because of the event.
Are those that have been through hell, believe at some level, it was sent as either a lesson or a blessing.
Think of the survivors of diseases or abuse, they go through the worst kinds of pain, but because of the pain, the rise out of it with a new passion for life, they arise out of it with a sense of purpose wanting to help others who are going through the same pain.
You can learn from your past. You can use it. Believe it was sent to make you stronger, better, and more compassionate. Believe there was a reason for it.
Number Seven. My best Is Yet To Come
What would you attempt? What could you achieve if you knew your best is yet to come? Well, guess what.. your best is yet to come.
Your best is yet to come.
Look yourself in the mirror each morning and tell yourself, “my best is yet to come.” My best is yet to come, believe it. Live that belief.
Adopt these seven beliefs and see how your life transforms around you.
Anyone can achieve a reasonable life. And okay life, an okay job an okay relationship anyone can have this.
If you want a great life, you must commit to leading a great life, to doing things the majority do not want to do.
Commit to thinking like I’m a naughty not like the majority.
No matter how bad things get there is always a silver lining. It can be hard to see sometimes but if you look hard enough, eventually you will see it.
When you fear— what do you do?
You paint pictures in your mind, sometimes very vivid ones, about how your not smart enough, talented enough or attractive enough.
What are you really doing —You’re telling yourself stories.
You are the main character and fear likes to take you down a dark road, where there is no moon, or lights up ahead. The further you go— the darker it gets. Each step you take is less and less certain— so you slow down, until you stop, retreating back the way you came.
It sure is dark down here…
Then we try to justify our decision with the fact that we didn’t really need the new job, didn’t really need to do the course, or attend the seminar.
I’m happy enough where I am anyway. And where is that?
The comfort zone.
Remember when you were a child the stories that you would tell your self. I don’t know if you had the same fear as me but I was afraid of the dark.
Looking back, was it really the dark though?
It was the fact that in my imagination it was not an empty room. As children our minds are open, so every monster, vampire or werewolf we have ever seen or read about could possible be in that darkness.
What’s that sound?
I remember turning on the light, reassuring myself that all was ok. Checking all the wardrobes and underneath the bed.
When the light went out again the fear did subside only to return. What was I really doing?
I was telling myself a story, replaying a film or something that I heard or read. I was just told I had a very vivid imagination, and I would grow out of it.
We may grow up but that child remains, we simply tell ourselves a different set of stories, the vampires and the werewolf’s are replaced with, the story, I’m not good enough.
Fears A Good Thing
If you haven’t felt fear in a long time you may think that is a good thing— but its not. Why you may ask?
Because it means that you are living in a comfort zone. The comfort zone is not a happy place, but it’s comfortable.
People work jobs they hate, why? Because its comfortable.
People stay in relationships they are not happy in, why? Because it is comfortable.
Rather than step out and do their own thing, most people just have a look around and do what other people are doing.
Its like the blind leading the blind.
What I have learnt from experience is this, before you follow other people— LOOK AT WHERE THEIR GOING— because that is where they are taking you.
The average person tiptoes through life hoping to make it safety to the other side. What a dumb game; life is not a practice run, we get one shot at it. Mark twain famously said, do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.
Usually when we fear something we have a story in our heads of how we think things will play out.
Its just our shadow. GET ME OUTTA HERE
The story just plays over and over until the fear can turn to anxiety, you can begin to sweat, feel uncomfortable, and start to feel knots in your stomach, maybe even leading to sleepless nights.
When you actually confront your fears you quickly realize that it is never as bad as you first imagined, plus you have a sense of achievement; which drives you on.
Well it may seem like I have taken you down a dark path but there is a light at the end of it.
Just like you tell yourself a story where everything goes wrong— you can start to tell yourself a story where everything goes right.
Next time you step out of our comfort zone, instead of pulling up a chair and listening to Mr Fear’s story, tell him a story of faith. A story where you win. A story where you are the hero.
In time you will realize there was only one story teller. You’ve been looking into a mirror the whole time.
So I challenge you to face your fears embracing the concept of story telling. So instead of I will probably fall flat on my face, change it to, I will soar above the clouds.
Thanks for reading.
Tell yourself a story of faith today. 🙂