You cant help anyone if you can’t first help yourself. Peace of mind is a priceless commodity.
You cant help anyone if you can’t first help yourself. Peace of mind is a priceless commodity.
To heal a wound you need to stop touching it.
Franklin D. Roosevelt the 32nd president of the United States once said: “Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty… I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.”
Behind every great work there has been hour and hours of practise. There is no such thing as an over night success.
Do you ever feel like you haven’t got enough time? Like you’re rushing from one thing to the next.
Do you want to know the reason why you’re always late for things?
Well, you’re not alone, most humans are terrible at planning and poor judges of how long things will take.
If you get a text that says, “be there in two minutes,” that usually means 10. If they say, “running 15 minutes late,” that means 30.
Now obviously this is your friend trying to soften the blow, and potentially saving face, but why were they running late in the first place?
Well, a high proportion of people don’t plan for the unplannable.
As a person that was always late, I now know why I was. In my head, it only takes 5 minutes to get my coat, wallet and keys. But in reality, it takes me 15; my keys are not where I thought I left them, or anywhere for that matter.
I start to stress, and stress leads me not to think clearly. Then I remember that I left my keys in my other jacket.
I jump into the car and traffic seems to pop out of nowhere, I pull in and text a friend and let them know I’m going to be late. The reply, “it’s ok; you always are.”
The takeaway from all this, plan for the unexpected. If you have to be at an appointment at 11 am, and it usually takes you 15 minutes to get there. Don’t leave at 10:45 am.
Plan to leave at 10:15. Then if you have misplaced your keys, wallet, or another item that is essential to your trip you have plenty of time to look for it.
Unexpected things will come up, and it’s better to be ready for them. Allowing that 30 minutes extra is often essential if you want to be there on time.
That is what my experience has taught me.
You think it will be like X, but in reality, it’s like Y. There will be things that you didn’t plan for. And that’s precisely why you need to prepare for them events. Most people don’t.
That’s why you should not take on every engagement, project or task that you think you can do. Problems will arise and giving yourself space for them problems limits stress and rushing.
Will they always happen, of course not but it’s better to be ready than for one little problem to snowball into you being late for the remainder of the day, or in some cases much longer.
Buffer time is something that has helped me a lot in my personal and work life. The time that I add to remove stress and frustration from my day. (The mind works so much more efficiently when it is calm and relaxed.)
For one, travel always takes longer than you think, so getting to the airport an hour early, and to our business engagement 15 minutes early removes a lot of stress.
The risk of missing your flight, making your friends wait, or losing a reservation isn’t worth a few minutes it takes to plan. The worst-case scenario is that you wait a few minutes when you get there.
And if a friend, work colleague, or Google maps tells you it’s going to take 20 minutes to get there, and you leave 20 minutes for your journey, you’re probably going to be late.
You’re going to hit a few red lights, some traffic, and then have to park your car and walk to the restaurant, and there is always that person or persons, at the airport, that pack all their liquids into their carry on case.
The point is there is always going to be things that you can’t plan for, that will come up.
Also, when you say YES too often, it limits the amount of time that you have for yourself.
I’m all for helping people but if you help everyone someone is going to lose, and that person will be you.
The reason, you’re not going to have any buffer time. You’re going to be so busy wrapped up and helping others you’ll put your needs to last, leading to being stressed and frustrated that you never seem to have time for yourself.
That’s why you need to plan.
Plan everything that you would like to do; the things that are essential for your health and well-being. Then with a time that’s left allocate as your free time, as the time that you can give freely.
The idea here is— it’s not just about being late; it’s about the things that you say yes to. It’s about better planning. So if meeting a friend for lunch means that you are going to be rushing to an appointment or meeting. Then avoid it.
Let your friend know why you can’t meet them, why you have to put it off until another time. A good friend will see your point of view and agree with your decision.
Most of us are in debt when it comes to time.
But when you are selective about allocating your time, when you think twice before saying yes. You will start to feel much less rushed, you will begin to feel more relaxed, and you will have much more time for the essential things that make you happy.
Have a good week.
Self love should not be confused with arrogance or ego. Self love is accepting yourself just the way you are, flaws and all.
We were all made differently for a reason. The purpose of life is to find that reason.
Most people drift through life with no sense of purpose, no direction or true joy.
They pay no attention to the fact they are not happy, and never address the mindset and choices that led to that unhappiness, but if they did they might be able to reverse it.
Most people have limiting beliefs, and so their life is limited. They believe life is hard. They believe life is a challenge, full of sadness and misery.
They believe at some level, consciously or subconsciously. The best days are behind them. They believe fitting in, and wearing masks will get them a better or more comfortable life, then being the true self and following their true passions.
Their happiness is dependent on what happens; they are not in control of life; life is in control of them.
If you can switch your beliefs about life to the following seven empowering beliefs, life will start to work for you. The blessings will appear.
The joy that is inside you will start rising out. Here are seven beliefs you must have to live a great life.
Let me go over each one to help you understand them a little more.
Number One— I Decide How I Feel No Matter the Circumstances.
Have you ever noticed how unhappy people seem to get upset over just about anything? Did you also notice that they seem to have a lot to be unhappy about?
The truth is they let every little circumstance make them unhappy.
Someone cuts them off in traffic… ruins their day. Someone says something unkind, and they replay in their mind for weeks. When you adopt the belief that you are in control of how you feel ,and you commit to doing daily work on yourself, two things happen.
First is that you become empowered. You know nothing has the power to make you unhappy. Only your thoughts can do that. You decide what every event means, and you can choose to see the blessing in everything.
The second is you start to attract better circumstances. When you are putting out better energy, better is attracted to you, and you notice more of the magic all around you.
Know that you decide how you feel and commit to do that daily work on yourself, so you can start and live every day in a beautiful state.
Number Two— I have So Much to Be Thankful For
This is pretty easy for anyone to understand, happy people are happy because they are because they appreciate more than unhappy people. It has been said many times; you can be happy with little or miserable with much.
Knowing this, you understand the goal is never to accumulate wealth or material things; it is to get to the place where are you feel like you have everything.
Because that is all it is, a feeling. Feel blessed, and you’ll be blessed. Feel blessed, and you are blessed.
Number Three— Being Myself Attracts the Right People
One of the greatest tragedies of human beings is that the majority change who they are to fit into the world. They believe but it being like someone else, will make them fit in better with others, be liked by others. But the truth is, you’re never attracting the right people by being someone you are not.,
Be yourself, and the right people for you will show up. The right people will love the real you.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Have the courage to be you. Always.
Believe and know if you do so, the perfect people and circumstances will show up in your life!
Number Four— I Am Capable of Anything
Successful people, know with absolute certainty anything they believe can be their reality. Imagine what you could create in your life with the belief I am capable of anything.
Well, you are, so believe it, know it and apply it to something you want. That dream you have. Plan for it. Work for it and get it!
That change you’ve been putting off: Believe you can do it and go for it!
Number Five— Kindness Always Wins
Some people believe kindness is a weakness. They believe kind people get walked over. They’ll point to an example from years ago, where they gave their heart and soul and that one person trampled all over it, so they adopt the belief that this is what happens every time they are kind.
If someone tripped you over once while you were walking you wouldn’t let that person stop you from walking, would you?
It’s not the walking that made you trip over it was the unkind person. In life, yes, some people will do you wrong, but that doesn’t mean you throw everyone into the same basket.
You are kind because that’s who you are not because you want something out of it, like a transaction.
Who do you think kind people are attracted to? Other kind people or those who refuse to be kind because they were hurt by someone else long ago?
Who do you think amazing people love to be around: those who are kind and genuine or those who are closed off?
Treat others how you want to be treated. Not because you want something from them, but because you know the world is a little better every time someone like you does good, no matter how small.
Number Six— Everything is a Blessing or a lesson
We’ve all been through hard times, every one of us. Some people who have been through minor hard times believe that their life is far less because of the event.
Are those that have been through hell, believe at some level, it was sent as either a lesson or a blessing.
Think of the survivors of diseases or abuse, they go through the worst kinds of pain, but because of the pain, the rise out of it with a new passion for life, they arise out of it with a sense of purpose wanting to help others who are going through the same pain.
You can learn from your past. You can use it. Believe it was sent to make you stronger, better, and more compassionate. Believe there was a reason for it.
Number Seven. My best Is Yet To Come
What would you attempt? What could you achieve if you knew your best is yet to come? Well, guess what.. your best is yet to come.
Your best is yet to come.
Look yourself in the mirror each morning and tell yourself, “my best is yet to come.” My best is yet to come, believe it. Live that belief.
Adopt these seven beliefs and see how your life transforms around you.
Anyone can achieve a reasonable life. And okay life, an okay job an okay relationship anyone can have this.
If you want a great life, you must commit to leading a great life, to doing things the majority do not want to do.
Commit to thinking like I’m a naughty not like the majority.
Pray more worry less.
Sounds simple, but often its the simple things that are the most effective. When we pray, our focus is on faith, expectancy, and hope, the complete opposite of worry.
Now with socail media its hard to get a minute to ourselves. Like anything good there is always a flip side. I found out the other day that smartphones have a section in settings to note the time to speand on app you use.
I don’t use my phone that much and i was shocked. Scrolling has a way of eating time.
We all have things we would like to do, Read more books, keep a journal, have more time to pray or walk in nature. But somehow we never seem to get them done, saying i haven’t got the time or I’m to busy.
It so easy to dismiss the 2 hours in the evening to scroll through Facebook, Instagram or YouTube.
Starve your distractions, feed your focus For the next 7 days and see what fun things you get done?