The healing touch.

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When growing up I was always told, you need to grow a thick skin. For anyone that may not have heard that expression, it means not to let every little thing get to you.

For me, this has always been difficult as I’m a very sensitive person.

Now, like all things being sensitive has its advantages but also its short comings. On the plus side I’m more connected to people, often thinking of others before myself. And with this comes happiness.

On the down side, I’m very easily hurt.

What I have found throughout my life is, many people have had a much harder up bringing than me. They had to learn to bury their feelings to survive.

Most of my heartache is whenever I come up against these people.

Yes, what they say is often hurtful, but it is all they know. Their method of defense is attacking. To keep the attention off them, they will keep the focus on you; this could mean talking about you behind your back or even calling you names to your face.

It is so hard not to take offence.

But over the years I have started to see through these type of people. The more spiritual I become, the less and less I let myself be offended. People can try to hurt me, but it’s not until I give what they say or do permission to hurt me, will it do so.

I’m not saying that you just take it, but I have learned to forgive them and move on with my life. I do not torture myself going over and over what was said, or what did they mean by this or this or this.

Many people when hurt will simply cut the people that hurt them out of their lives. If you mention forgiveness to them they would say, they don’t deserve my forgiveness, I’m better off without them.

And yes, when you hear some stories they are right, but, and this is a major but, you do not forgive for their benefit, it is for your benefit.

Many people will say, yeah yeah, I’ve heard that a thousand times. How can holding these feelings of anger or hatred hurt me?

When you don’t forgive, when you hold onto negative emotions, you create a blockage between you and God. Jesus said in all Gospels, forgive so you will be forgiven.

What Jesus meant was give away all the negativity that is blocking the pure love that is flowing from The Father, turn over all your hurts and worries to Him to judge and settle.

In my new book, I will approach the area of forgiveness; how it can affect you in your personal, business and social life. Through stories taken from scripture and real life events, I will explore the true power of forgiveness, explaining different ways to approach it.

Overcome deep emotional pains that maybe holding you back.

There is a Healing in Forgiving is currently on free promo at Amazon until Friday, I truly think that it can benefit you and your family to have a deeper understanding of the subject. Link below

There is a Healing in Forgiving

 

Thanks for your time today.

Rev J Martin

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A way to simplify you life.

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If you look at Pastor’s in America, they are nearly always portrayed having a perfect family, wife and two children. An advert for the church.

It is beautiful and powerful to see.

It’s almost saying when you are a good person and do the will of God you will be graced with a perfect life.

Yes, on many occasion this may be true, but in my own personal experience, I have found that God will put into your path exactly what is needed for you to evolve into the person that He sent you here to become.

People that have grown up in a very dysfunctional family often go on to help others going through similar situations; doing social work, counseling, etc.

People that have grown up with a sick mother or father often go on to be a carer, a doctor or nurse.

We all have events happen to us in life that steer us in a particular direction.

However, some people look at it negatively, rather than look for the silver lining they look at it as a cross to bear. Asking questions like, Why did this happen to me? Why was I brought up this way? Why can I not get a break?

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They take it personally; only looking at how it has affected them rather than looking at the bigger picture. They fail to see that the hand of God is even within devastation and destruction.

Many people that have had a bad start in life think God has abandoned them. This could not be further from the truth.

For many years I was not happy, the more I tried to fit in with others the unhappier I became. For the longest time, I did not understand why God had made me this way. I was caring, loving had great compassion and empathy but yet I walked alone.

I was walking a road that was very overgrown, but every time I walked the beaten path rather than being happier, I fell further into despair.

Not until I embraced the word of God did my life fall into place. Only then could I see; all the hardships I had been through were simply preparing me to connect deeper with people.

Making the link my life was simplified

 

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My main message that I would like you to get today is no matter how hard or difficult your life may seem right now, take a step back and see things from a different perspective. Your life may not be the way that you would like it to be, but it is exactly how it is meant to be.

Everything that happened to you in your life has made you the person you are today. You may have gone through hardship, but how can you turn that around to your advantage?

What has your journey been preparing you to do?

What lessons is God trying to teach you but you are failing to hear?

What fears are you walking away from rather than meeting head on?

Simplify your life by asking yourself a different set of questions; when you do, you will quickly get a different set of answers.  Start to ask questions that empower you, help you grow both personally and spiritually.

Ask questions to bring your life from where it is now to where you would like it to be.

Have a great Sunday.
Reflect. Relax. Unwind.

Rev J Martin

Anxiety relief

Anxiety is something that has affected me for most of my life. I can go years without an episode but then I can have a few days where it has me in its control.

Anxiety happens to people when they are too sensitive, or tend to over think things

For the longest time I used to fight it, but I have learnt to work with it.

I personally feel anxious when I get into a situation that I am not in control of.

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What gives me great relief is writing down all my options.

Write down why do I feel the way I do? Put my thoughts on paper

Then I work on what is in my control, what have I the power to change?

Many times when I do this I realise the problem is not as bad as I first thought.

Fearful thoughts can quickly magnify a problem, your heart starts to race and you lose control of your thinking. When this happens worry can get you going over and over the problem, then anxiety kicks in and the body goes into a state which is hard to get out of.

We all have triggers. Finding your trigger is vital. Events that starts the negative cycle of worry.

Knowing what they are puts you in control.

You no longer have to be taken on a rollercoaster ride of emotions, instead you can determine when you get on, how long you stay on, and when you get off.

First post on the go.

Thanks for reading.
Rev J Martin

Spreading Forgiveness, Love, and Happiness.

book-news

The main constructive feedback that I receive from my readers is, they would like a longer book. It is something that I have been praying about for a long time; a message that I can share.

Then, the other day a feeling came over me, and a very clear idea came into my head, it only lasted about 10-15 minutes, and unfortunately, I was busy meaning I couldn’t sit down and write it out.

In trying to describe what I felt a book is starting to form.

In the writing and researching the ideas two other books started to form, they will be mid length books and the first of these I hope to release Mid-August, the other Sept – Oct. My full-length book I plan to release mid-December.

Each book will have a powerful message which I look forward to sharing.

My main prayer is that my Heavenly Father will work through me to enrich my reader’s lives, that you will be healthy, happy and live a life of love and joy.

Have a great day.
Rev J Martin.