How to Stop Worrying and Clear Your Head From Anxious Thoughts

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I was brought up in a family that would worry about day to day problems. So, I thought that’s what worry was. Thinking about whether someone was ok or whether a family member would get to their destination safely.

It’s not until a few years ago did I find out how bad worry could get. It all started the moment that I decided to stand up for myself.

Normally a people pleaser I started to say no, as I felt that certain people were taking advantage of my good nature. That simple action started a series of events that took me to my knees.

If someone would have told me the results of standing up for myself, I may never have. Doing what others wanted me to do would have been such an easier option.

Some people, I have discovered, only want you for what you give them. Their friendships are based on a set of conditions.

When you break them condition’s they will make your life very uncomfortable. Certain people tried their best to push me back into the person I was. The people pleaser that never said no, and always did what I was told.

Bullying and emotional abuse is what followed. Not the terms I would have used at the time but terms that my doctor and councillor gave for what the people were doing to me.

At first, I worried whether I had done something wrong, so I decided that keeping out of their way was the best thing to do, but this seemed to fuel the problem.

Of course, I was annoyed and upset but I didn’t think what was happening would lead to anything serious. Then I started to have a pain in my throat and chest. I went to the doctor about it, who said it was stress and to take it easy for a while. So, I did.

When I returned to my regular life it started again, I became afraid of meeting the people giving me so much hostility, so much so that one day I took a mild panic attack.

I returned to my doctor, explaining the situation. He said that what I was describing was bullying. Not until that point did, I regard what was happening as bullying. Now looking back, I was in denial. I never thought that close friends would bully me, but they did.

Getting myself out of that situation was only the beginning. Something had clicked within me. Usually a confident, happy, life loving person, I began to feel anxious, disconnected, and vulnerable.

Every moment of the day was filled with fearful thoughts, I was overflowed with insecurities, and self-doubt. Physically I felt a tightness in my chest most of the day. I was having trouble sleeping and my body was too anxious to enjoy food.

Day after day the feelings were relentless and exhausting. I was trapped on a never-ending emotional rollercoaster and couldn’t find any peace.

Anxiety makes you feel that there is something wrong when there isn’t. It eats away at your confidence and affects every area of your life. I was scared of my own thoughts and bodily sensations, constantly on red alert for the next panic attack.

I spent my days trying to gain back some control by monitoring my feelings and avoiding situations that made me feel anxious.

The turning point came when I decided that I didn’t want to live with anxiety anymore. That decision took me on a quest of discovery. It helped me gain the discipline to do what was necessary to make a recovery.

For me, my anxiety manifested itself because I needed to make certain changes in my life that I didn’t have the courage to make on my own. I was surrounded by people and circumstances that were not good for my mental health. My growth was limited.

What started out as a negative experience turned out to be a positive one. The negative people needed to be removed for me to reach the next level of my destiny.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. It may seem like you will never overcome your relentless worry or crippling anxiety, but I would like you to know today that you can. But you can’t sit inactive

It is pleasant to daydream, wouldn’t it be amazing to be without worry or anxiety, but to make your daydreams come true you have to start walking in their direction. You have to take action.

You have to take the first step, and then the second, the third, and all the steps that separate you from your goal. This is valid for every improvement you would like to make, small or big, relating to your job, health, finance, self-improvement or spirituality.

Make that step today and download my book on Amazon by clicking on the image below.

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Killed By A Bus: When Knowing Your Future Doesn’t Help You

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Once upon a time, a man went to a fortune teller, curious to know what she would say about his future.

The fortune teller looked into her crystal ball, and her facial expression said it all. She advised him that it would be better if he did not know but he insisted she told him.

She went on to tell him that he would die in a bus accident, and it would happen within the next two or three months. “Why? When? How?

“That I can not say,” she replied.

On the journey home, he was depressed and worried, telling himself how he had never really believed in fortune tellers.

After two months, the thought started to play on his mind every day. He became very anxious and wanted to make sure he avoided the prediction. So hired someone to run his business for a couple of months, as he decided a good plan would be to lock himself in his house where he wouldn’t come close to any buses.

Another three weeks past.

He got up one morning put the coffee on and went to feed his dog outside as usual. On the step his little son had left some of his toys, as he went to step over them he stepped on a little toy bus, fell and hit his head and died instantly.

This is a fictional story to illustrate an important message; sometimes we can be too careful, thinking that we can avoid the thing that we fear. We fear to be adventurous; we fear to do anything new; we fear to take a risk.

Most people think they’re not destined to do anything amazing, so they sit back in mediocrity. Tortured in later years with regret.

We all have a unique gift that we can use to enrich other peoples lives. Don’t let fear hold you back from fulfilling your destiny.

Live every day to the fullest. God rewards action, God rewards faith and often the biggest risk that you can take is to play it safe and not go after what you want.

So this week get out there, create your destiny, show God that there is no fear in your heart and watch the favour that flows into your life.

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Inspiration of the Day

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We can’t all like the jobs that we do, but in our days off we have a chance to learn, evolve, and grow.

Now with sources like YouTube, Udemy, Masterclass series, there is countless ways to learn a new skill online.

Platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Redbubble, Society 6 allow you to connect with millions of people, sharing your work, so if you are an artist, designer, writer, musician, dancer there are plenty of ways to connect with people.

Looking at the media the world can seem a dark, scary place but on the flip side of that we are living in the best time in human history.

Embrace your gifts this weekend and share it with the world.

How to Overcome Your Fears, Get Unstuck, and Fuel Your Success

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Fear.

What is fear?

Like any other negative emotion, fear is something that is not real. F.E.A.R. – False Evidence Appearing Real… Underlining “FALSE”.

But even though it does not exist, fear can control you, fear can manipulate you, fear can determine your destiny. In fact, the majority of the population lives in fear.

They fear being abandoned, they fear for their security, they fear for their health.

When we let fear have this much control, fear is running our lives

We try to avoid what we are afraid of, so we run from fear, we find it hard to be ourselves, we do not dare to live the life that we want because we are so afraid.

But, when you stop running, facing your fear with faith, fear loses its power over you.

When you have the faith to confront your fears you will see that those things that you are afraid of are not real, and are not likely to happen.

Picture your life 1 year from now talking to a friend about the last 12 months…

Do you want to reflect on a year where you where afraid to do what you really wanted? Where you let fear control all your decisions?

Or

Do you want to reflect on a year that was filled with amazing moments, amazing experiences, filled with love joy and happiness. A year that you walked in faith and accomplished more than you ever dreamed.

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“You don’t need to let go of fear to act on the things
that you want. You don’t need to let go of fear
to be you!”

It’s ok to be afraid and still act, it’s ok to be afraid and still be you, it’s ok to be afraid and still love. It’s ok to be afraid.

You don’t need to let go of  fear and then act, you can act despite of fear.

Why?

Because fear is not real and something that is not real cannot stop you!

Acting despite fear is….. faith. So … Don’t let your life be run by fear. Let it be run by faith.

What are you most afraid of?

Take a good look at it, bring it to your awareness, look at that fear knowing that it is not you, that it’s not real.

Look at that fear knowing that it has no control over you when you walk in faith, knowing that God is by yourside every step of the way.

Pray each morning and throughout the day. Keeping your mind on the goodness of God; He will give you courage and confidence.

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Fear can only run your life if you avoid it. When you face it, it doesn’t matter how big it seems, it will disappear. You will see clearly that “this is not real”, “this is not me”.

You don’t need the fear to be completely gone for you to live, for you to have faith, for you to act on love, for you to do what you want.

Because fear cannot hold you back when God is by your side.

You can feel fear and still act in faith and you can feel fear and still be you.

Don’t let fear run your life, instead, live out of faith and love.

It is always about this same choice, Fear or Love.

Once again, imagine your life this time 10 years from now…

Do you want to live 10 years running away from your fears?

Or

Do you want to live 10 years from a place of faith, being courageous despite of fear, living a life of love, a life of adventure, a life of excitement, a life of passion… your dream life?

Don’t let fear control your life…dare to dream, dare to love, dare to have the faith to be You.

Thanks for reading. Enjoy the rest of your week.

Rev J Martin

 

Live a Life Without Fear

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