All worries fall into two categories, stuff you can do something about and stuff you can’t. We all spend too much time and waste too much energy attempting to change what we cannot change. It is a major cause of stress and frustration.
If there is somethings you can do, do out a list and get to work. If there is nothing you can do, forget about it and move on, and i good way to doing that is just get busy. Get involving in doing something that take all your attention.
To be a person that people like, and get on with is easy but sometimes we like to make it complex.
Dont take criticism to heart, take it as a compliment. This will do two things, make you feel better and annoy the person trying to pull you down.
Most people drift through life with no sense of purpose, no direction or true joy.
They pay no attention to the fact they are not happy, and never address the mindset and choices that led to that unhappiness, but if they did they might be able to reverse it.
Most people have limiting beliefs, and so their life is limited. They believe life is hard. They believe life is a challenge, full of sadness and misery.
They believe at some level, consciously or subconsciously. The best days are behind them. They believe fitting in, and wearing masks will get them a better or more comfortable life, then being the true self and following their true passions.
Their happiness is dependent on what happens; they are not in control of life; life is in control of them.
If you can switch your beliefs about life to the following seven empowering beliefs, life will start to work for you. The blessings will appear.
The joy that is inside you will start rising out. Here are seven beliefs you must have to live a great life.
Number One: I Decide How I feel No Matter the Circumstances
Number Two: I Have So Much to Be Thankful For
Number Three: Being Myself Attracts the Right People
Number Four: I am Capable of Anything
Number Five: Kindness Always Wins
Number Six: Everything is a Blessing or a Lesson
Number Seven: My Best Is Yet to Come
Let me go over each one to help you understand them a little more.
Number One— I Decide How I Feel No Matter the Circumstances.
Have you ever noticed how unhappy people seem to get upset over just about anything? Did you also notice that they seem to have a lot to be unhappy about?
The truth is they let every little circumstance make them unhappy.
Someone cuts them off in traffic… ruins their day. Someone says something unkind, and they replay in their mind for weeks. When you adopt the belief that you are in control of how you feel ,and you commit to doing daily work on yourself, two things happen.
First is that you become empowered. You know nothing has the power to make you unhappy. Only your thoughts can do that. You decide what every event means, and you can choose to see the blessing in everything.
The second is you start to attract better circumstances. When you are putting out better energy, better is attracted to you, and you notice more of the magic all around you.
Know that you decide how you feel and commit to do that daily work on yourself, so you can start and live every day in a beautiful state.
Number Two— I have So Much to Be Thankful For
This is pretty easy for anyone to understand, happy people are happy because they are because they appreciate more than unhappy people. It has been said many times; you can be happy with little or miserable with much.
Knowing this, you understand the goal is never to accumulate wealth or material things; it is to get to the place where are you feel like you have everything.
Because that is all it is, a feeling. Feel blessed, and you’ll be blessed. Feel blessed, and you are blessed.
Number Three— Being Myself Attracts the Right People
One of the greatest tragedies of human beings is that the majority change who they are to fit into the world. They believe but it being like someone else, will make them fit in better with others, be liked by others. But the truth is, you’re never attracting the right people by being someone you are not.,
Be yourself, and the right people for you will show up. The right people will love the real you.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Have the courage to be you. Always.
Believe and know if you do so, the perfect people and circumstances will show up in your life!
Number Four— I Am Capable of Anything
Successful people, know with absolute certainty anything they believe can be their reality. Imagine what you could create in your life with the belief I am capable of anything.
Well, you are, so believe it, know it and apply it to something you want. That dream you have. Plan for it. Work for it and get it!
That change you’ve been putting off: Believe you can do it and go for it!
Number Five— Kindness Always Wins
Some people believe kindness is a weakness. They believe kind people get walked over. They’ll point to an example from years ago, where they gave their heart and soul and that one person trampled all over it, so they adopt the belief that this is what happens every time they are kind.
If someone tripped you over once while you were walking you wouldn’t let that person stop you from walking, would you?
It’s not the walking that made you trip over it was the unkind person. In life, yes, some people will do you wrong, but that doesn’t mean you throw everyone into the same basket.
You are kind because that’s who you are not because you want something out of it, like a transaction.
Who do you think kind people are attracted to? Other kind people or those who refuse to be kind because they were hurt by someone else long ago?
Who do you think amazing people love to be around: those who are kind and genuine or those who are closed off?
Treat others how you want to be treated. Not because you want something from them, but because you know the world is a little better every time someone like you does good, no matter how small.
Number Six— Everything is a Blessing or a lesson
We’ve all been through hard times, every one of us. Some people who have been through minor hard times believe that their life is far less because of the event.
Are those that have been through hell, believe at some level, it was sent as either a lesson or a blessing.
Think of the survivors of diseases or abuse, they go through the worst kinds of pain, but because of the pain, the rise out of it with a new passion for life, they arise out of it with a sense of purpose wanting to help others who are going through the same pain.
You can learn from your past. You can use it. Believe it was sent to make you stronger, better, and more compassionate. Believe there was a reason for it.
Number Seven. My best Is Yet To Come
What would you attempt? What could you achieve if you knew your best is yet to come? Well, guess what.. your best is yet to come.
Your best is yet to come.
Look yourself in the mirror each morning and tell yourself, “my best is yet to come.” My best is yet to come, believe it. Live that belief.
Adopt these seven beliefs and see how your life transforms around you.
Anyone can achieve a reasonable life. And okay life, an okay job an okay relationship anyone can have this.
If you want a great life, you must commit to leading a great life, to doing things the majority do not want to do.
Commit to thinking like I’m a naughty not like the majority.
Several years ago due to having stressful situations in my work life, social life, and personal life I developed terrible anxiety, which led to panic attacks — resulting in loss of sleep, problems with eating, which in turn affected my overall health.
I went from a very social person to someone that hardly left the house. At one point I thought I would never recover which only fueled my anxiety.
Today I would like to share the top 7 ways I used to overcome my anxiety.
1. Remember to Breathe
Pay attention to your breathing. Most people take their breathing for granted. Breath is by far the most important of all the steps, as we breathe in a completely different way when anxious than we do when calm.
So if you breathe in a way that calms the body, nature will do the rest.
When we are anxious our ‘fight or flight response’ is triggered — originally named for its ability to enable us to fight, or run away when faced with danger physically.
Fight or flight was essential for our ancestors, but now it’s activated in situations where neither response is appropriate, like in traffic or during a stressful day at work.
Symptoms include dry mouth, fast breathing, heart pounding, tense muscles, and slow digestion. These symptoms create more anxiety which leads to an anxiety loop. Anyone that has had anxiety knows how quickly this anxiety loop can lead to a panic attack.
Remember to breathe
When you begin to feel anxious, do some diaphragmatic breathing. When people are anxious, they take shallow breaths reducing the oxygen intake. Diaphragmatic breathing takes in maximum oxygen which signals to the body that the threat is gone so it will return to normal functioning
To check if your doing it properly simply put a hand on your chest and stomach while breathing. When you breathe in your stomach should rise, as if filling up with air, and when you breathe out the stomach will fall.
2. Move Your Body In Any Way You Can
Walking, running, riding a bike, dancing, swimming or Zumba. Step two is also linked to breathing but has the added effect of taking your mind off your problem or worry. Step two may lead to more of step three.
3. Sleep You know You Need It
Studies show that sleep loss is associated with higher levels of depression and anxiety—but it’s not completely clear if anxiety keeps you up at night or if dealing with insomnia increases your risk for anxiety. Either way, the vicious cycle can put your brain on edge.
4. Avoid Caffeine
Caffeine can exacerbate anxiety as it acts as a central nervous system stimulant. It is making your body more aware of the feelings of anxiety. Plus, caffeine keeps the body awake which can affect sleep, which is essential to help overcome anxiety.
5. Keep a Gratitude Journal
Simply keeping a gratitude journal—regularly writing brief reflections on moments for which we’re thankful—can significantly increase well-being and life satisfaction.
6. Expand Your Social Support
Social support is a core component in managing stress and coping with anxiety. So, reach out, call someone you haven’t talked to in a while. It is all about connection.
7. Stay away from drugs or alcohol
Perhaps they work in the short term, but they often do the opposite in the long term.especially with panic attacks. Talk your doctor if you feel you cannot stop using.
Having suffered from anxiety myself, I highly recommend diaphragmatic breathing, more exercise, more sleep, and less caffeine.
The main lesson I learnt in my recovery was patience.
We all want instant results, but like learning to drive a car, you don’t just jump in and drive. You take lessons and the more lessons you take, the better you get.
Similarly when you want to recover from anxiety, after a few days using the above tips you might not see that much change, but after a few weeks, if you record your progress in your gratitude journal, you will see a massive difference.
I wish you all the best on your journey.
Thanks for reading.
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