How to Stop Worrying and Clear Your Head From Anxious Thoughts

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I was brought up in a family that would worry about day to day problems. So, I thought that’s what worry was. Thinking about whether someone was ok or whether a family member would get to their destination safely.

It’s not until a few years ago did I find out how bad worry could get. It all started the moment that I decided to stand up for myself.

Normally a people pleaser I started to say no, as I felt that certain people were taking advantage of my good nature. That simple action started a series of events that took me to my knees.

If someone would have told me the results of standing up for myself, I may never have. Doing what others wanted me to do would have been such an easier option.

Some people, I have discovered, only want you for what you give them. Their friendships are based on a set of conditions.

When you break them condition’s they will make your life very uncomfortable. Certain people tried their best to push me back into the person I was. The people pleaser that never said no, and always did what I was told.

Bullying and emotional abuse is what followed. Not the terms I would have used at the time but terms that my doctor and councillor gave for what the people were doing to me.

At first, I worried whether I had done something wrong, so I decided that keeping out of their way was the best thing to do, but this seemed to fuel the problem.

Of course, I was annoyed and upset but I didn’t think what was happening would lead to anything serious. Then I started to have a pain in my throat and chest. I went to the doctor about it, who said it was stress and to take it easy for a while. So, I did.

When I returned to my regular life it started again, I became afraid of meeting the people giving me so much hostility, so much so that one day I took a mild panic attack.

I returned to my doctor, explaining the situation. He said that what I was describing was bullying. Not until that point did, I regard what was happening as bullying. Now looking back, I was in denial. I never thought that close friends would bully me, but they did.

Getting myself out of that situation was only the beginning. Something had clicked within me. Usually a confident, happy, life loving person, I began to feel anxious, disconnected, and vulnerable.

Every moment of the day was filled with fearful thoughts, I was overflowed with insecurities, and self-doubt. Physically I felt a tightness in my chest most of the day. I was having trouble sleeping and my body was too anxious to enjoy food.

Day after day the feelings were relentless and exhausting. I was trapped on a never-ending emotional rollercoaster and couldn’t find any peace.

Anxiety makes you feel that there is something wrong when there isn’t. It eats away at your confidence and affects every area of your life. I was scared of my own thoughts and bodily sensations, constantly on red alert for the next panic attack.

I spent my days trying to gain back some control by monitoring my feelings and avoiding situations that made me feel anxious.

The turning point came when I decided that I didn’t want to live with anxiety anymore. That decision took me on a quest of discovery. It helped me gain the discipline to do what was necessary to make a recovery.

For me, my anxiety manifested itself because I needed to make certain changes in my life that I didn’t have the courage to make on my own. I was surrounded by people and circumstances that were not good for my mental health. My growth was limited.

What started out as a negative experience turned out to be a positive one. The negative people needed to be removed for me to reach the next level of my destiny.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. It may seem like you will never overcome your relentless worry or crippling anxiety, but I would like you to know today that you can. But you can’t sit inactive

It is pleasant to daydream, wouldn’t it be amazing to be without worry or anxiety, but to make your daydreams come true you have to start walking in their direction. You have to take action.

You have to take the first step, and then the second, the third, and all the steps that separate you from your goal. This is valid for every improvement you would like to make, small or big, relating to your job, health, finance, self-improvement or spirituality.

Make that step today and download my book on Amazon by clicking on the image below.

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Can You Use Your Eyes and Ears to Stop Worry and Anxiety?

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On my morning run rather than seeing the world around me, I noticed that I was lost within my mind thinking of all the things that I needed to do. Small worries.

Then an idea came to me to pick a color and look for it in nature. So I chose blue. Of course, the first thing that stood out was the sky, but as I looked around, there wasn’t much blue anywhere.

My mind started to notice blueish colors. I was never the greatest at mixing paint in art class, but I could see hints of blue in flowers, and I started to count the greys on walls, and a farmers shed as it was the closest to blue I could find.

Coming up to a STOP sign, I changed my colour to red. Rust on garden gates started to sparkle in the sun.

It was several minutes before I became aware that I was playing a game as I was so lost in the world around me. Then came the old thoughts that had vanished for that short time.

I haven’t been updating my blog regularly. I fell away as I’ve been focusing on a new book that will be available on Kindle next Thursday, which is about worry and anxiety.

So when this idea came to me, I wanted to give a little value to my followers. As a lot of people today are worried and anxious.

My motto has always been, if I only help one person, then my mission in life is complete.

So if you’re worried or anxious about anything and your finding, there is no escape. Take a walk in nature and look for colors, count how many shades you can see. Or listen to the world around you and count how many different sounds you can hear.

Just a few ideas that can break the racing thoughts that can flood our mind when we are worried about a problem or situation that we can’t change.

Enjoy the remainder of your week.

God bless you, your family and friends.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feeling Worried?

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When our thoughts are lost in worry in can be helpful to focus our mind on something else. Prayer is an excellent solution as it focuses our mind on God.

It focuses our mind on all the times that things worked out for the best.

It can be hard when your in the grips of worry to think about anything else but this is exactly when  you will feel the biggest benefit.

Overthinking Kills Your Happiness

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All worries fall into two categories, stuff you can do something about and stuff you can’t. We all spend too much time and waste too much energy attempting to change what we cannot change. It is a major cause of stress and frustration.

If there is somethings you can do, do out a list and get to work. If there is nothing you can do, forget about it and move on, and i good way to doing that is just get busy. Get involving in doing something that take all your attention.

 

7 Beliefs You Must Have To Live A GREAT LIFE

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Most people drift through life with no sense of purpose, no direction or true joy.

They pay no attention to the fact they are not happy, and never address the mindset and choices that led to that unhappiness, but if they did they might be able to reverse it.

Most people have limiting beliefs, and so their life is limited. They believe life is hard. They believe life is a challenge, full of sadness and misery.

They believe at some level, consciously or subconsciously. The best days are behind them. They believe fitting in, and wearing masks will get them a better or more comfortable life, then being the true self and following their true passions.

Their happiness is dependent on what happens; they are not in control of life; life is in control of them.

If you can switch your beliefs about life to the following seven empowering beliefs, life will start to work for you. The blessings will appear.

The joy that is inside you will start rising out. Here are seven beliefs you must have to live a great life.

Number One: I Decide How I feel No Matter the Circumstances

Number Two: I Have So Much to Be Thankful For

Number Three: Being Myself Attracts the Right People

Number Four: I am Capable of Anything

Number Five: Kindness Always Wins

Number Six: Everything is a Blessing or a Lesson

Number Seven: My Best Is Yet to Come

 

Let me go over each one to help you understand them a little more.

Number One— I Decide How I Feel No Matter the Circumstances.

Have you ever noticed how unhappy people seem to get upset over just about anything? Did you also notice that they seem to have a lot to be unhappy about?

The truth is they let every little circumstance make them unhappy.

Someone cuts them off in traffic… ruins their day. Someone says something unkind, and they replay in their mind for weeks. When you adopt the belief that you are in control of how you feel ,and you commit to doing daily work on yourself, two things happen.

First is that you become empowered. You know nothing has the power to make you unhappy. Only your thoughts can do that. You decide what every event means, and you can choose to see the blessing in everything.

The second is you start to attract better circumstances. When you are putting out better energy, better is attracted to you, and you notice more of the magic all around you.

Know that you decide how you feel and commit to do that daily work on yourself, so you can start and live every day in a beautiful state.

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Number Two— I have So Much to Be Thankful For

This is pretty easy for anyone to understand, happy people are happy because they are because they appreciate more than unhappy people. It has been said many times; you can be happy with little or miserable with much.

Knowing this, you understand the goal is never to accumulate wealth or material things; it is to get to the place where are you feel like you have everything.

Because that is all it is, a feeling. Feel blessed, and you’ll be blessed. Feel blessed, and you are blessed.

Number Three— Being Myself Attracts the Right People

One of the greatest tragedies of human beings is that the majority change who they are to fit into the world. They believe but it being like someone else, will make them fit in better with others, be liked by others. But the truth is, you’re never attracting the right people by being someone you are not.,

Be yourself, and the right people for you will show up. The right people will love the real you.

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Have the courage to be you. Always.

Believe and know if you do so, the perfect people and circumstances will show up in your life!

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Number Four— I Am Capable of Anything

Successful people, know with absolute certainty anything they believe can be their reality. Imagine what you could create in your life with the belief I am capable of anything.

Well, you are, so believe it, know it and apply it to something you want. That dream you have. Plan for it. Work for it and get it!

That change you’ve been putting off: Believe you can do it and go for it!

Number Five— Kindness Always Wins

Some people believe kindness is a weakness. They believe kind people get walked over. They’ll point to an example from years ago, where they gave their heart and soul and that one person trampled all over it, so they adopt the belief that this is what happens every time they are kind.

If someone tripped you over once while you were walking you wouldn’t let that person stop you from walking, would you?

It’s not the walking that made you trip over it was the unkind person. In life, yes, some people will do you wrong, but that doesn’t mean you throw everyone into the same basket.

You are kind because that’s who you are not because you want something out of it, like a transaction.

Who do you think kind people are attracted to? Other kind people or those who refuse to be kind because they were hurt by someone else long ago?

Who do you think amazing people love to be around: those who are kind and genuine or those who are closed off?

Treat others how you want to be treated. Not because you want something from them, but because you know the world is a little better every time someone like you does good, no matter how small.

Number Six— Everything is a Blessing or a lesson

We’ve all been through hard times, every one of us. Some people who have been through minor hard times believe that their life is far less because of the event.

Are those that have been through hell, believe at some level, it was sent as either a lesson or a blessing.

Think of the survivors of diseases or abuse, they go through the worst kinds of pain, but because of the pain, the rise out of it with a new passion for life, they arise out of it with a sense of purpose wanting to help others who are going through the same pain.

You can learn from your past. You can use it. Believe it was sent to make you stronger, better, and more compassionate. Believe there was a reason for it.

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Number Seven. My best Is Yet To Come

What would you attempt? What could you achieve if you knew your best is yet to come? Well, guess what.. your best is yet to come.

Your best is yet to come.

Look yourself in the mirror each morning and tell yourself, “my best is yet to come.” My best is yet to come, believe it. Live that belief.

Adopt these seven beliefs and see how your life transforms around you.

Summary
Anyone can achieve a reasonable life. And okay life, an okay job an okay relationship anyone can have this.

If you want a great life, you must commit to leading a great life, to doing things the majority do not want to do.

Commit to thinking like I’m a naughty not like the majority.