7 Wonderful Things that You Gain When You Let Go and Let God Take Control

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When you try to control too much, life becomes much harder to enjoy.  Sometimes you just need to let go and let God take control. Relax, take a deep breath and be grateful for what you have.

Last week I met up with an old friend, someone whom I care about deeply. Someone I worry about constantly, as they take no care of their health. Over the years I have watched them turn from someone that could run a half marathon to someone that is out of breath walking up a few flights of stairs.

All I want is for them to eat healthier and take some exercise to give them a better quality of life but sadly that’s not reality.

When I reflected on the situation I realise that there is nothing I can do. Because I’m not in control of anyone but myself. I want to help my friend, but they’re not interested in being helped.

So I made a decision, to let go. to surrender.

Not “let go” as in “let them go.”  I “let go” as in I stopped trying to control them, I’ve stopped trying to change them. What is the point of me getting stressed and worried if they are not willing to change.

And this, I’ve learned, is the best way to be in all walks of life…

When you let go of control, you stop trying to change people, and just dissolve into their presence, just noticing who they really are, just appreciating them, faults and all.

When you let go of control you will notice just how much time you spend trying to control. Not just people, but the events in your life.

Don’t get me wrong, you will still get stressed and worry, but you will notice that you snap out of it sooner. So instead of being stressed, for example, for the rest of the day, or week. Your only stressed for a short time.

You’ll start to notice just how much pressure you put on yourself by trying to have everything work out exactly as you would like.

When you let go of control and let God take control here’s what you gain…

1. You fall in love with people for who they really are

It’s OK to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by those you love, but you must accept their opinion. Learn to appreciate different perspectives, lifestyles, and opinions, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what’s comfortable.

Love is about letting those we care about be 100% themselves, and not distorting them to fit our own ideas of who we think they should be.

2. You grow beyond everyone’s judgements

How often have you been judged?  How often has the direction of your life been shaped by such judgements? Think about it.

How many opportunities have you been denied — or, for that matter, been granted — because someone failed to understand you completely? And how often have  you let other peoples judgements make you upset or stress you out because you thought you could control the way everyone sees you?

The truth is, people will see what they want to see whether you worry about it or not.

It’s time to let go of trying to control how everyone perceives you.

It’s time to let God take control, and just do the best you can.

3. You get to enjoy the peace that’s already within you

Realize that, somewhere within you, there exists a spirit that is eternally at peace. Because inner peace does not depend on external conditions — it’s what remains when you surrender the need to control.

The need for something to be different is nothing more than worry and worries like this only lead us in circles.

Peace of mind arrives the moment you come to peace with what’s on your mind, and this happens when you let go of the need for things to be different than they are. What’s happened has happened, and no amount of complaining or worry is going to change that fact.

4. You learn more about how life really works.

When you attempt to control the uncontrollable you create resistance.  You resist how everything works rather than learning about it.  So here’s a simple challenge for you:  Instead of trying to make things work exactly the way you want them to work, just watch them work today.

You’ll learn much more about human nature and the inner workings of the world.

As you see things working without you controlling them, the way you see what you see will gradually change.  Because YOU will gradually change.  You will begin to understand that things are a little different than you wanted them to be.  And that’s perfectly OK.

5. You experience more of life’s pleasant surprises.

Would you really want to be in control of everything, and know your future every step of the way?

If you’re thinking, “yes,” think again.  Not knowing is one of life’s greatest gifts.

Life is so full of changeable beauty and magnificent surprises.  And sometimes the unexpected arrival of this beauty is almost too much to handle.

Do you know that feeling?  When you get a breakthrough or some good news that gives you the lift you need to restore your faith…

Do you really want to miss out on them moments for the rest of your life?

6. You free your mind from needless worries.

The world around you is going to spin one way or the other.  So why not allow God to bless you in surprising and joyful ways?

Think about it…

What if, instead of pushing so hard to make life happen every second, you decided to let go a little and allow life to happen to you sometimes?

What if, instead of trying to be in constant control, you simply surrendered control to something bigger than yourself?

What if, instead of working so hard to figure out every last answer, you allowed yourself to be guided to the solution in perfect timing?

And what if, there was no solution needed at all?

7. You get more of what you want, by doing less.

When you let go and let God take control instead of trying to tightly control everything, you will be happier and have more peace.

You will notice that things will take care of themselves.  You will have less stress, less worry, and more time and energy to work on the things that matter — the things you actually can control — like your attitude about everything.

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The mind is the place where the greatest conflict resides.

It’s where… half of the things you thought were going to happen, never did.

It’s where… your expectations always get the best of you.

It’s where… you fall victim to your cravings to control the uncontrollable.

And if you allow those thoughts and cravings to dwell in your mind, they will succeed in robbing you of peace, joy, and ultimately your life.  You will think yourself into a nervous breakdown, into depression, and into defeat.

Truthfully, there’s so much about life that you can’t control, it makes no sense to waste your energy on these things and then neglect everything you can control.

You can decide how you spend your time, whom you socialize with, whom you share your life, money and energy with.  You can choose to love and appreciate the people in your life for exactly who they are.

You can choose how you’re going to respond to surprises and disappointments when they arise, and whether you will see them as curses or opportunities for emotional growth…

And most importantly, you can choose to let go of control and adjust your attitude in an instant, which dictates pretty much everything else.

Thanks for reading.


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Do You Struggle to Get Through The Day Because You’re Consumed with Worry?

Living in fear is not much fun as it restricts the options available to us, limiting what we can achieve. Most people let their fears imprison them, resulting in them never fulfilling their destiny.

When you anchor yourself in faith, new possibilities will appear, allowing you to transcend your limitations. As worry and doubts disappear.

Life is too short to live with insecurities. Push out of your comfort zone, go further than you ever thought you could. Be in control of your future.

In my book, Live a Life Without Fear, I will share with you methods to strengthen your faith, and keep it at its highest level. So you are prepared for any problem or difficulty that may arise. Jam-packed with real-life and biblical stories to inspire and motivate.

Take a step of faith; overcome adversity, find encouragement, and watch your fears subside. Begin to experience life in a new way.

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How To Deal With Criticism

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Endure hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ.

There are two types of criticism: constructive criticism and destructive criticism. One builds you up the other tears you down. Be wise in how you respond to unfounded criticism and gossip.

When your critic wants to remain anonymous, they’re not worthy of your response.

The story told of a pastor who received a letter that contained one word — FOOL! Next Sunday he held it up and said to the congregation, I received the strangest letter this past week. He read the one-word text and said, ‘Somebody wrote it and forgot to sign it!

You say, but they are attempting to hurt my reputation. D.L. Moody said, if I take care of my character, God will take care of my reputation’ (see Isaiah 54:17) Any time you’re involved in a worthy cause, people will not only try to beat you down, but keep you down.

In training Timothy for ministry, Paul told him ‘endure hardship like a good soldier of Jesus Christ’.

Difficult people are placed in our path not to defeat us, but to develop us. Leaders know this, so they stay and finish the job regardless of the cost. Just like the captain goes down with the ship, the true leader stays until the work is done.

You say, ‘Then how should I respond? By praying for them! Jesus said, ‘Bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you…and you will be sons of the Most-High’ (Luke 6:28, 35 NKJV).

Enjoy your week.

Feeling Hurt Or Angry At Someone In Your Life?

Sometimes the best thing to do is turn the situation over to God. Yes but what about those go-getters who ride with the Sun, skip breakfast, and break records well I’m just giving it to God?

Good question.

Look at Jesus; He didn’t get started until he was 30. What about all those wasted years?
He left them to God. And how did he react to those who heard his message, shrugged and walked away. Left them to God and what about those nitpicking Pharisees who give him so much grief? He left them to God as well.

An old minister once said that he felt driven and drained by never-ending demands, saying,

“If people weren’t changing, I felt responsible. If someone drifted, somehow it was my fault. If there wasn’t continual growth, I acted as if I needed to make it happen. If a sermon failed to ring with clarity and power, I struggled all of Monday and half of Tuesday.

Talk about wasted energy!

Time has helped; so has age. Virtually all of the things that one stole my joy and assaulted my motivation – I just leave to God.

Don’t I care? Of course, I care. But those cares are now placed in the hands of one who can handle them. What once bothered me, I’ve learnt to give over to him who doesn’t mind being disturbed.

Whereas criticism used to cripple me for days, now I do my best to shift until I learn what I can and turn the rest over to God.”

Wise words, and words we all should follow.

If people hurt you or criticise you don’t waste your time or energy thinking about them, hand them over to God. He will deal with them. Don’t get caught up in there web of megativity. Don’t let them win.

Keep your head high and know that you did know wrong, and your actions will not go unnoticed. Love and peace will fill your soul.

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How to Stop Worrying and Clear Your Head From Anxious Thoughts

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I was brought up in a family that would worry about day to day problems. So, I thought that’s what worry was. Thinking about whether someone was ok or whether a family member would get to their destination safely.

It’s not until a few years ago did I find out how bad worry could get. It all started the moment that I decided to stand up for myself.

Normally a people pleaser I started to say no, as I felt that certain people were taking advantage of my good nature. That simple action started a series of events that took me to my knees.

If someone would have told me the results of standing up for myself, I may never have. Doing what others wanted me to do would have been such an easier option.

Some people, I have discovered, only want you for what you give them. Their friendships are based on a set of conditions.

When you break them condition’s they will make your life very uncomfortable. Certain people tried their best to push me back into the person I was. The people pleaser that never said no, and always did what I was told.

Bullying and emotional abuse is what followed. Not the terms I would have used at the time but terms that my doctor and councillor gave for what the people were doing to me.

At first, I worried whether I had done something wrong, so I decided that keeping out of their way was the best thing to do, but this seemed to fuel the problem.

Of course, I was annoyed and upset but I didn’t think what was happening would lead to anything serious. Then I started to have a pain in my throat and chest. I went to the doctor about it, who said it was stress and to take it easy for a while. So, I did.

When I returned to my regular life it started again, I became afraid of meeting the people giving me so much hostility, so much so that one day I took a mild panic attack.

I returned to my doctor, explaining the situation. He said that what I was describing was bullying. Not until that point did, I regard what was happening as bullying. Now looking back, I was in denial. I never thought that close friends would bully me, but they did.

Getting myself out of that situation was only the beginning. Something had clicked within me. Usually a confident, happy, life loving person, I began to feel anxious, disconnected, and vulnerable.

Every moment of the day was filled with fearful thoughts, I was overflowed with insecurities, and self-doubt. Physically I felt a tightness in my chest most of the day. I was having trouble sleeping and my body was too anxious to enjoy food.

Day after day the feelings were relentless and exhausting. I was trapped on a never-ending emotional rollercoaster and couldn’t find any peace.

Anxiety makes you feel that there is something wrong when there isn’t. It eats away at your confidence and affects every area of your life. I was scared of my own thoughts and bodily sensations, constantly on red alert for the next panic attack.

I spent my days trying to gain back some control by monitoring my feelings and avoiding situations that made me feel anxious.

The turning point came when I decided that I didn’t want to live with anxiety anymore. That decision took me on a quest of discovery. It helped me gain the discipline to do what was necessary to make a recovery.

For me, my anxiety manifested itself because I needed to make certain changes in my life that I didn’t have the courage to make on my own. I was surrounded by people and circumstances that were not good for my mental health. My growth was limited.

What started out as a negative experience turned out to be a positive one. The negative people needed to be removed for me to reach the next level of my destiny.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. It may seem like you will never overcome your relentless worry or crippling anxiety, but I would like you to know today that you can. But you can’t sit inactive

It is pleasant to daydream, wouldn’t it be amazing to be without worry or anxiety, but to make your daydreams come true you have to start walking in their direction. You have to take action.

You have to take the first step, and then the second, the third, and all the steps that separate you from your goal. This is valid for every improvement you would like to make, small or big, relating to your job, health, finance, self-improvement or spirituality.

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Can You Use Your Eyes and Ears to Stop Worry and Anxiety?

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On my morning run rather than seeing the world around me, I noticed that I was lost within my mind thinking of all the things that I needed to do. Small worries.

Then an idea came to me to pick a color and look for it in nature. So I chose blue. Of course, the first thing that stood out was the sky, but as I looked around, there wasn’t much blue anywhere.

My mind started to notice blueish colors. I was never the greatest at mixing paint in art class, but I could see hints of blue in flowers, and I started to count the greys on walls, and a farmers shed as it was the closest to blue I could find.

Coming up to a STOP sign, I changed my colour to red. Rust on garden gates started to sparkle in the sun.

It was several minutes before I became aware that I was playing a game as I was so lost in the world around me. Then came the old thoughts that had vanished for that short time.

I haven’t been updating my blog regularly. I fell away as I’ve been focusing on a new book that will be available on Kindle next Thursday, which is about worry and anxiety.

So when this idea came to me, I wanted to give a little value to my followers. As a lot of people today are worried and anxious.

My motto has always been, if I only help one person, then my mission in life is complete.

So if you’re worried or anxious about anything and your finding, there is no escape. Take a walk in nature and look for colors, count how many shades you can see. Or listen to the world around you and count how many different sounds you can hear.

Just a few ideas that can break the racing thoughts that can flood our mind when we are worried about a problem or situation that we can’t change.

Enjoy the remainder of your week.

God bless you, your family and friends.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feeling Worried?

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When our thoughts are lost in worry in can be helpful to focus our mind on something else. Prayer is an excellent solution as it focuses our mind on God.

It focuses our mind on all the times that things worked out for the best.

It can be hard when your in the grips of worry to think about anything else but this is exactly when  you will feel the biggest benefit.

Overthinking Kills Your Happiness

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All worries fall into two categories, stuff you can do something about and stuff you can’t. We all spend too much time and waste too much energy attempting to change what we cannot change. It is a major cause of stress and frustration.

If there is somethings you can do, do out a list and get to work. If there is nothing you can do, forget about it and move on, and i good way to doing that is just get busy. Get involving in doing something that take all your attention.