You have 7 seconds after a thought to make a decision, and in my opinion, it all depends on the type of person. Some people don’t think— they react.
The more spiritual you become, the more that you will notice the gap, now that’s not to say you will not still react to something that you don’t agree with, but if at that moment you feel the need to reply as you know the person is wrong or have their facts wrong.
Take a moment to think… will me replying help the situation? If the person is sensitive or doesn’t take feedback very well, no matter how you correct them, it will not go down well.
Many people in my life can not take being corrected, so what I have learnt to do is go along with them.
Now I’m not perfect, I still reply when I know it’s the wrong thing to do, but the more that you can bite your tongue, and keep your thoughts to yourself the happier you will be.
If someone is continually annoying you the best approach you can take is wait until the right moment to give them constructive feedback, there is a better chance of a good response, and your feedback listened too.
James 1:8 KJV
A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.
If you’re afraid to make a decision in case its wrong, read this Scripture: ‘If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask God, who gives to all liberally.. and it will be given to him. But let him have faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like the wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.
For let, not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord: he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways’ (James 1:5-8 NKJV).
President Reagan enjoyed telling the story of how he learned to make a firm decision. When he was a boy, his aunt sent him to a cobbler to have a new pair of shoes made for him. When the shoemaker asked, “Do you want a square toe or a round one? He hemmed and hawed, so the cobbler said, “Come back in a day or two and tell me what you want.
Later the cobbler saw Reagan on the street and asked what he had decided about the shoes. “I haven’t made up my mind yet, he answered. “Very well,” the cobbler said, “your shoes will be ready tomorrow.
When Reagan got the shoes, one had a round toe; the other had a square toe! Reagan said, “ Looking at those shoes every day taught me a lesson. “If you don’t make your own decisions, somebody else will make them for you.” Worst case: if you get it wrong, you’ll learn what not to do next time.
Bottom line: to succeed in life, you must pray for wisdom, and then make a decision.