11 Things To Know Before Letting Go

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Letting go has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength.

We let go when we finally realise our worth, when we finally realise that our mental health is more important. That said, I know that letting go of certain situations can be extremely difficult. So, i would like to share 11 points to reflect on before you decide if it’s time for you to let go.

1. The past can steal your present if you let it

You can spend days, weeks, months, or even years sitting alone in the darkness, over-analysing a situation from the past, trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could have or should have happened. Or, you can choose to leave the past behind you, and walk into a future full of sunshine and new experiences.

2. Don’t be too hard on yourself

There are enough people that want to pull you down and hold you back without you being one of them. Tell yourself, “I am doing the best I can with what I have at this moment. And that is all I can expect of anyone, including me.” Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do, even your mistakes. Because even mistakes mean you’re trying.

3. You are in control of one person, and one person only: yourself

The fastest way to happiness is to stop worrying about things that are beyond the power of your control. Letting go of control doesn’t mean that you don’t care; it shows that you realise that the only person you can control is yourself.

4. Not everyone, and not everything, is meant to stay

There are things you don’t want to happen, but have to accept, things you don’t want to know, but have to learn, and people you can’t live without but have to let go. Some circumstances and people come into your life to strengthen you so that you can move on without them.

5. Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them

Imagine all that we could achieve if we could forget the hurts or disappointments of the past! Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.

6. What might seem correct to you will be wrong for others, and vice versa

As you will probably know yourself, trying to tell someone they are wrong when they think they are right, doesn’t end well. Save yourself the stress and sleepless nights. Don’t waste your energy; the only way some people learn is from making mistakes.

7. Some people will refuse to accept you for who you are, so don’t try to impress them

When you are comfortable with who you are, not everyone in this world will like you, and that’s okay. You could be the most helpful, compassionate, caring person in the world, and there’s going to be someone out there who doesn’t like you for having them qualities. Just be you, 100%.

8. The world changes when you change

You are today where your thoughts and beliefs have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts and beliefs take you. If you want to change your life, you must first change your mind. The world around you changes when you change.

9. You can make decisions, or you can make excuses

Life is a continuous exercise in creative problem-solving. A mistake doesn’t become a failure until you refuse to correct it. Thus, most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions.

10. It only takes a few negative remarks to kill your dreams

Don’t let people interrupt you and tell you that you can’t do something. If you have a dream that you’re passionate about, you must protect it. When others can’t do something themselves, they’re going to tell you that you can’t do it either; and that’s a lie. These people are simply speaking from within the boundaries of their limitations.

11. Sometimes walking away is the only way to win

Never waste your time trying to explain yourself to people who refuse to understand you.  Sometimes the best way to win an argument is to walk way. They will never change, it’s you that has too.


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7 Wonderful Things that You Gain When You Let Go and Let God Take Control

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When you try to control too much, life becomes much harder to enjoy.  Sometimes you just need to let go and let God take control. Relax, take a deep breath and be grateful for what you have.

Last week I met up with an old friend, someone whom I care about deeply. Someone I worry about constantly, as they take no care of their health. Over the years I have watched them turn from someone that could run a half marathon to someone that is out of breath walking up a few flights of stairs.

All I want is for them to eat healthier and take some exercise to give them a better quality of life but sadly that’s not reality.

When I reflected on the situation I realise that there is nothing I can do. Because I’m not in control of anyone but myself. I want to help my friend, but they’re not interested in being helped.

So I made a decision, to let go. to surrender.

Not “let go” as in “let them go.”  I “let go” as in I stopped trying to control them, I’ve stopped trying to change them. What is the point of me getting stressed and worried if they are not willing to change.

And this, I’ve learned, is the best way to be in all walks of life…

When you let go of control, you stop trying to change people, and just dissolve into their presence, just noticing who they really are, just appreciating them, faults and all.

When you let go of control you will notice just how much time you spend trying to control. Not just people, but the events in your life.

Don’t get me wrong, you will still get stressed and worry, but you will notice that you snap out of it sooner. So instead of being stressed, for example, for the rest of the day, or week. Your only stressed for a short time.

You’ll start to notice just how much pressure you put on yourself by trying to have everything work out exactly as you would like.

When you let go of control and let God take control here’s what you gain…

1. You fall in love with people for who they really are

It’s OK to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by those you love, but you must accept their opinion. Learn to appreciate different perspectives, lifestyles, and opinions, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what’s comfortable.

Love is about letting those we care about be 100% themselves, and not distorting them to fit our own ideas of who we think they should be.

2. You grow beyond everyone’s judgements

How often have you been judged?  How often has the direction of your life been shaped by such judgements? Think about it.

How many opportunities have you been denied — or, for that matter, been granted — because someone failed to understand you completely? And how often have  you let other peoples judgements make you upset or stress you out because you thought you could control the way everyone sees you?

The truth is, people will see what they want to see whether you worry about it or not.

It’s time to let go of trying to control how everyone perceives you.

It’s time to let God take control, and just do the best you can.

3. You get to enjoy the peace that’s already within you

Realize that, somewhere within you, there exists a spirit that is eternally at peace. Because inner peace does not depend on external conditions — it’s what remains when you surrender the need to control.

The need for something to be different is nothing more than worry and worries like this only lead us in circles.

Peace of mind arrives the moment you come to peace with what’s on your mind, and this happens when you let go of the need for things to be different than they are. What’s happened has happened, and no amount of complaining or worry is going to change that fact.

4. You learn more about how life really works.

When you attempt to control the uncontrollable you create resistance.  You resist how everything works rather than learning about it.  So here’s a simple challenge for you:  Instead of trying to make things work exactly the way you want them to work, just watch them work today.

You’ll learn much more about human nature and the inner workings of the world.

As you see things working without you controlling them, the way you see what you see will gradually change.  Because YOU will gradually change.  You will begin to understand that things are a little different than you wanted them to be.  And that’s perfectly OK.

5. You experience more of life’s pleasant surprises.

Would you really want to be in control of everything, and know your future every step of the way?

If you’re thinking, “yes,” think again.  Not knowing is one of life’s greatest gifts.

Life is so full of changeable beauty and magnificent surprises.  And sometimes the unexpected arrival of this beauty is almost too much to handle.

Do you know that feeling?  When you get a breakthrough or some good news that gives you the lift you need to restore your faith…

Do you really want to miss out on them moments for the rest of your life?

6. You free your mind from needless worries.

The world around you is going to spin one way or the other.  So why not allow God to bless you in surprising and joyful ways?

Think about it…

What if, instead of pushing so hard to make life happen every second, you decided to let go a little and allow life to happen to you sometimes?

What if, instead of trying to be in constant control, you simply surrendered control to something bigger than yourself?

What if, instead of working so hard to figure out every last answer, you allowed yourself to be guided to the solution in perfect timing?

And what if, there was no solution needed at all?

7. You get more of what you want, by doing less.

When you let go and let God take control instead of trying to tightly control everything, you will be happier and have more peace.

You will notice that things will take care of themselves.  You will have less stress, less worry, and more time and energy to work on the things that matter — the things you actually can control — like your attitude about everything.

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The mind is the place where the greatest conflict resides.

It’s where… half of the things you thought were going to happen, never did.

It’s where… your expectations always get the best of you.

It’s where… you fall victim to your cravings to control the uncontrollable.

And if you allow those thoughts and cravings to dwell in your mind, they will succeed in robbing you of peace, joy, and ultimately your life.  You will think yourself into a nervous breakdown, into depression, and into defeat.

Truthfully, there’s so much about life that you can’t control, it makes no sense to waste your energy on these things and then neglect everything you can control.

You can decide how you spend your time, whom you socialize with, whom you share your life, money and energy with.  You can choose to love and appreciate the people in your life for exactly who they are.

You can choose how you’re going to respond to surprises and disappointments when they arise, and whether you will see them as curses or opportunities for emotional growth…

And most importantly, you can choose to let go of control and adjust your attitude in an instant, which dictates pretty much everything else.

Thanks for reading.


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12 Quotes to Help You Let Go of The Past

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Do you often find your thinking of the past? Do past memories holding you back, and preventing you from moving forward? If so, below are some quotes about letting go of the past that will help.

Read them, then re-read them. Absorb their lessons. Write them down and stick them where you will see them often. Create a little book of quotes and read some upon waking up and before going to bed; do anything that reminds you daily of the importance of letting go of the past.

Be simple, don’t carry the baggage of the past, open your hands, and let it go.
– Debasish Mridha

Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.
– Daphne Rose Kingma

Letting go of the past helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.
– Melody Beattie

It’s hard to be clear about who you are when you are carrying around a bunch of baggage from the past. I’ve learned to let go and move more quickly into the next place.
– Angelina Jolie

You can’t possibly embrace that new relationship, that new companion, that new career, that new friendship, or that new life you want, while you’re still holding on to the baggage of the last one. Let go… and allow yourself to embrace what is waiting for you right at your feet.
– Steve Maraboli

I eventually came to understand that in harboring the anger, the bitterness and resentment towards those that had hurt me, I was giving the reins of control over to them. Forgiving was not about accepting their words and deeds. Forgiving was about letting go and moving on with my life. In doing so, I had finally set myself free.
– Isabel Lopez

Letting go is the willingness to change your beliefs in order to bring more peace and joy into your life instead of holding onto beliefs that bring pain and suffering.
– Hal Tipper

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
– Paulo Coelho

I demolish my bridges behind me…then there is no choice but to move forward.
– Fridtjof Nansen

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
– Lao Tzu

Letting go may sound so simple, but rarely is it a one-time thing. Just keep letting go, until one day it’s gone for good.
– Eleanor Brownn

Before you can live, a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time, or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth, then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.
– Shannon L. Alder

Every time we these quotes it creates a gap of awareness. A gap that allows the healing power of God to enter our lives and heal us from the pain of the past. Let go of the past and experience a brighter future.

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Prayer Of The Day – Letting Go Of Past Offenses

Dear Lord,

I realize that sometimes it is very difficult to let go of the past.  I remember the things people have done that hurt me or offended me in someway, and when I see that behavior happening again it is hard not to revert back to the other times it happened.

But I know that if we already resolved those past offenses, it is only right that I truly let them go.

Please help me to move on and to not hold those offenses against others anymore.  Clear my mind of them and heal my wounds in Jesus name AMEN!