Don’t Panic, Overcome Anxiety, & Live a Better Life

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Chances are you have one or more devices within arm’s reach.

Don’t worry you’re not alone!

71% of Americans sleep with, or next to their smartphone according to Bank America research.

We live in a 4+ screen world. We’ve got smartphones, tablets, computers, televisions and e-readers.

Depending on your age, location or lifestyle, the number of screens you view in a day can increase, especially in cities. Other displays include gaming devices, car-related devices or out-of-home screens.

In case we’re unable to stop and look, we’ve also got Siri and Alexa our virtual assistants ready to answer our voice commands.

What’s now possible with technology is impressive.” With resources like YouTube, you can learn how to do almost anything for free.

We live in a world where we can do anything, yet over 90% of people are working jobs they dislike and are unhappy.

2019 is possibly the best time in history yet stress, depression and anxiety are at an all-time high.

The solution? The solution is action.

We must take action.

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A few years ago I had terrible anxiety, that got so bad at one point that I thought I would lose my mind. My body was in constant panic mode; several times throughout the day I had mild panic attacks.

My doctor told me, to exercise as much as I could, as it released chemicals that would calm the body. Not to drink caffeine; so I would have a better sleep. And, to read; as it would help focus my mind on something else.

Did I follow his advice?

For a couple of days, yes, but I stopped as I didn’t see instant results.

Looking back now it makes perfect sense that what the doctor suggested would have helped, but at that moment I wanted an instant fix.

I prayed for a solution, the solution came, but I didn’t listen. I kept looking for other ways online and in books.

Then I came across ETF tapping.

Tapping for anyone that has never heard about it before is a combination of ancient Chinese acupressure and Modern Psychology that works to physically alter your brain, energy system and body all at once.

It seemed to cure a lot of people.

But again, when I didn’t see instant results, my search continued. Then one day a friend suggested the great results they had obtained from tapping. So I decided to give it another go.

The moment that I focused 100% on tapping is the moment that things started to change. The first few days I did not see much difference, but within a couple of weeks, I frequently went many days without feeling anxious at all.

Then it was gone.

Not until I took action did I see results.

Your Destiny Awaits

Having so much information at our fingertips can be as much a hindrance as a blessing if we don’t take action.

With me, it was overcoming anxiety. With you, it could be something more positive like setting up a website for your business, or doing a course on photography or graphic design.

There are countless things that we can learn and do online to improve our lives, Udemy is an excellent resource, but we need to be aware of the content that we consume.

Over 80% of people spend 4-6 hours a day scrolling through apps.

Don’t get me wrong, connecting with friends and family is fantastic but if you are not happy with your life, then all that time scrolling is wasted.

We all have 24 hours a day, its what you do with it that counts.

Almost every piece of information ever created is on Google. There is no longer any excuse for working jobs you don’t enjoy for 40 years.

Its time to stand up and decide how you can add value to others.

Whatever you want to do, no matter how big the dream now with the internet everything is available to make your dream a reality. Forums tutorials and support is just a few clicks away.

But you must take action.

Take a step of faith today. I believe in you. You have great value to add to this world.

Contact

If you have been affected by this story in any way below are a couple of numbers that you can call and speak in confidence. During my worst times, I used these services many times so I know they can help with recovery.

In the U.S., for support, Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress. For a prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, call 1-800-273-8255 or go to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org

In the UK, for confidential support call the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90, visit a local Samaritans branch or see http://www.samaritans.org

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Can The Snooze Button Determine Your Destiny?

“Snooze, just another 10 minutes. That can’t hurt.”

Most people’s first thought of the day, and if you think these thoughts or similar thoughts, then you are probably rushing to work in the morning, depending on that dose of caffeine to get you through.

With myself, often it’s thoughts of worry, something that I know I must do but keep putting off. What I have learnt is, the sooner I address the problem, the happier I am.

Them first few thoughts let you know what is working or not working in your life.

If you are dreading going to work maybe its time that you did something else, of course, that is easier said than done. With bills to pay and a certain lifestyle to maintain it can be challenging to change your job. It’s the fear of the unknown.

 

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What I suggest is having a creative outlet.

Even a small service that you can provide. Maybe your an excellent painter and decorator, or have a keen eye for interior design. Even a listening ear or caring nature will take you far. We can easily overlook our true gifts and abilities, but entire businesses are built upon them.

Your first few thoughts each morning determines the rest of the day, so it’s essential that you and I make a conscious effort towards thoughts of faith, gratitude and love.

No more negotiating with the alarm clock. Hitting the snooze button once usually leads to hitting it again and again. Then traffic. Then stress. Then late, again.

Starting the morning in this way can create thoughts of struggle and even the feeling that your life will never change. So, in the morning when you feel that thought coming on, “SNOOZE” Replace it with, “Thank you for another day. Thank you that I have a job; thank you that I live in a country that I can make my dreams come true.”

Instead of ‘snooze’ get up and take the time to get a healthy breakfast and enjoy your morning coffee in the fresh air.

Gratitude is the foundation of happiness.

Start the day calm, relaxed, and full of faith and see the difference that it makes. Make the choice that each day is going to be better than the last.

Change those first thoughts and change everything!

 

 

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More Happiness; Less Stress.

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I came across a book on gratitude, which has actually changed my life, and I was a very grateful person, to begin with.

We all have problems; they come to us all. Some are physical, others are emotional, and sometimes even spiritual ones arise.

We like to be in control of any change in our lives, but it doesn’t always work out that way; life evolves at an alarming rate. With all the pressure, stress and worry, we can easily get caught up in it, not seeing a way out.

“I would be very grateful if things would just work out the way I want.” Then it works out, and we are thankful for a fleeting moment.

In the book, it made reference to Matthew 13:12. “Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away.”

Many people have said to me, this passage sounds unjust, as it seems to be saying the rich will get richer and the poor will get poorer. For me, Jesus is talking about knowledge of the kingdom of heaven, but gratitude fits very well.

“Whoever has gratitude will be given more, and he will have abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude, even what he has will be taken away.”

We live in a society of MORE, everyone wants MORE, they want to lose more weight, they want more holidays, they want more money, then they will be happy. In their search for more, they are missing a vital ingredient – Gratitude.

The art of being grateful for what we already have.

When you are grateful for your job, even if it’s not perfect, your view on it will change, meaning you will enjoy it more.

When you are grateful for the relationships in your life, even if some of them are not perfect, you will begin to look at the positive aspects of them, and the appreciation for them will grow.

When you are grateful for the money you have, no matter how little, you will find, this simple change of focus makes a huge difference in how rich you feel.

The flipside is when you are not grateful, you will find that you will only look at the negative things in your job, in your relationships, you will complain about the lack of money, meaning you will not even get the enjoyment out of the little you have.

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What You Focus On Grows.

It was recommended to write down 10 things each morning that you were grateful for. I thought to myself after a few days this is going to be difficult, but what I found was, during the day new ideas kept popping into my head. It became clear to me, very quickly, there was so much in my life to be grateful for.

My list started with the Internet because it is the reason I am connecting to you today. My family for giving me a solid foundation of faith. My senses so I can experience the world in all its glory. It actually alarmed me the number of things that I took for granted.

If you mentioned being thankful for your sight to anyone that has sight they would not really appreciate what you mean. Take it away from them for even an hour, and their life would come to a stand still.

Throughout the week my list started to include the simple pleasures of life, coffee, food, clothes, nature. Then I began to realise the number of people that contributed to provide service to me throughout the week. Thousands of farmers, manufacturers, packers, delivery drivers. All essential people to my survival, but all of which, until recently – I took for granted.

Happy Person That I Am

The more I was grateful, the happier I became. There was so much in my life that I took for granted; I simply did not realise how rich and successful I really was. I have absolutely no excuse to complain about anything. In today’s high standard of living, I haven’t got much, but I am still richer than half the people on this planet.

Some people might say, all this grateful stuff is not going to make my life any better, so what if I can walk, so what if I can talk, feel, hear, see, everyone can do these things? What am I gaining by being thankful for what I already have, it seems pointless?

You will find that these same people are not entirely happy; they will constantly be depressed and stressed. No matter how much money they have, they will still have a void in their life. They will spend all the money they have, maybe even more than they have, with the illusion that MORE will fill the void, but they will still be unhappy stressed and depressed. They will still say that gratitude is a waste of time.

When you think, I don’t like my job, I’m not happy in my relationship, I haven’t got enough money, my life’s a mess, I cant pay my bills, no one appreciates me, I haven’t got enough time, then you attract more of these experiences.

Learn to turn it around to:

I’m grateful for my job. I’m grateful for the relationships that make me happy; I’m thankful for the money I have, I’m grateful for my life. I’m grateful that I am able to use service’s before I need to pay for them. I’m thankful for the people that do appreciate me.

True happiness and fulfilment come from being thankful for what you already have. When you are grateful, even the smallest increase in any of these things feels like a gift.

Much of what we take for granted living in the west, people in other parts of the world dream about.

True riches come from gratitude. Try it just for today, and you will see the difference that it makes.

Have a good weekend.

Rev J Martin

 

How to Win Friends and Influence People.

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Many people down through the years have recommended that I read a book called, ‘How to win friends and influence people’.

The title never really appealed to me.

Recently, I received a voucher for a bookstore, which happened to be doing a promotion on the book, so I bought it. As it turned out; it was not what I expected at all. As the saying goes, don’t judge a book by its cover.

The first thing I found very surprising was the fact that it was written in 1937. Secondly, that it contained some principles that were just as relevant in human relations.  One chapter stood out above all others, which I will focus on today.

The chapter was called, ‘If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.’ It talked about the fact you should never criticise someone, as you never know what they have
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The author used many stories to demonstrate this point, but the ones that had the deepest impact on me involved Abraham Lincoln.

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When Mrs Lincoln and others spoke harshly about southern people. Lincoln replied, “Don’t criticise them, they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.

A very inspirational view.

Another example.

During the American civil war in fighting the Battle of Gettysburg. The enemy got cornered by a swollen river. They were trapped, surrounded on all sides.

Hearing this, Lincoln telegraphed his orders to his General, ‘Attack immediately,’ and not wait to have a council of war.

What did the General do?

He did the exact opposite of what he was told. He hesitated. He procrastinated. He called a council of war. He refused point blank to attack. Within a week, the waters receded, and the enemy escaped.

Lincoln was furious. They had the enemy at their weakest point. The war could have been over in a matter of days, but the general called up all his troops for a meeting.

In bitter disappointment at his general, Lincoln sat down and wrote a letter, and at this time a letter coming from Lincoln was the severest rebuke.

What do you think the general did when he read the letter?

The general never seen the letter. Lincoln never mailed it. It was found among his papers when he died.

It was said, that Lincoln never mailed the letter because he saw it from the Generals perspective. If he had seen as much blood, if he had listened to the screams and shrieks of the wounded and dying for weeks; maybe he would not have been so anxious to attack.

Rather than criticise, he put himself in the general’s boots.

It reminded me of how quickly we often jump to a conclusion and judge or criticise without much thought where the other person is coming from.

How To Apply

When we find ourselves annoyed of upset at what someone said or done, it is important to rather than take offence to take a step back and look at the situation.

This is easier said than done.

This requires a strength of character as it is human nature to defend what we think is correct. It’s in these moments that our faith is tested.

Do we show love and understanding, or not. It’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Be shaped by Love.

Enjoy your weekend.
Rev J Martin

17 Ways To Be A Lot Happier In 2017

2016 has had its ups and downs, full of personal heartache, sickness, and a little slice of success.

New doors are opening in front of me, and although scared what may be on the other side, I’m also confident, when I walk through them; a new world awaits.

Within the year, I’ve learned new lessons about what happiness means, and how you can attain it, which I would like to share with you today.

Here are my 17 ways to be a lot happier in 2017.

 

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1 – Take Good Care Of Yourself

Unless you are running at 100%, you can not truly help others. You must first look after your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. Only then, can the Spirit of God flow through you into everything you do.

 

2 – Stop Trying To Change Others

It very rarely happens. The older we get, the more set in our ways we become. You can’t change others; you just can’t. Be the change you want to see in others, which ties in with number 3.

 

3 – Work On Yourself

This might sound a little selfish at first, but you will quickly realize how challenging it is to change your bad habits, which will make point 2 a lot clearer.

 

4 – Take Your Time

When you slow your life down and realize it is not a race, you begin to enjoy it more. When we are always running after others, or ourselves, we miss out on all the good things.

A beautiful sunrise or sunset, birds chirping, and the soothing sound of a stream.

 

5 – Surround Yourself With Good People

The people that you surround yourself with, has a massive impact on your life. It can seem good to help negative people, but if you are not careful, negative people can affect your spirit.

Make sure you are surrounded with good people, people that encourage you and help you grow. People that can keep an eye on you when your life gets out of balance.

2017 is a year for growth. Cut out all the dead weight – all those that are holding you back.

 

6 – Trust Gods Timing

In life, we want everything on our timetable, but I have found life has its own timetable. The more you fight the natural speed of things, the more you will be stress, depressed or anxious.

Learn to surrender in 2017.

 

7- Be Mindful Of What You Consume

Food, friendships, media, etc. Get rid of everything that does not support you, and help you become a healthier version of yourself.

 

8 – Forgive, Even When You Have Been Wronged.

Forgive yourself and others quickly. Forgiveness is one of Jesus central messages and one of the most important ones.

When you forgive, you do not forgive their behavior. You are not saying what they did was right. You are simply releasing the infection, emptying out the toxins, so they can no longer poison your life.

 

9 – Look For The Silver Lining

Even at the worst moment, there is a lesson to be learned. There is always a reason things don’t work out, or happen in the way we expect, but often we need to look hard for it.

 

10 – It’s Not Always About You

Sometimes how someone treats you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Their actions or words reveal the condition of their own heart.

Learn not to take things personally. Instead, pray for that person.

I forgive you for not being who I want you to be, I forgive you and set you free.

 

11 – Don’t Be A Doormat

Have enough respect to walk away from the people that misuse or mistreat you. People respond better to you when you are assertive and ask for what you deserve.

 

12 – Apologize

If you are in the wrong, be big enough to admit it.

 

13 – Understand That Everyone Has His Or Her Own Perception

We all view things differently. How you look or feel about a situation can be completely different than the next person. Example, one person looks at the glass half empty, the other looks at the glass half full.

 

14 – Put Down The Phone, and enjoy what is happening around you.

I recently visited a beautiful waterfall. As the sun came out from behind the clouds, the way the light bounced off it was breathtaking. Everyone took out their phones, and so did I.

As the water was spraying everywhere getting a good shot was near to impossible. Before I got one, the sun had gone.

Lesson learned.

 

15 – Realize Social Media Is Not Reality

Don’t buy into the hype. Everyone is human, with ups and downs in life.

Facebook, etc. are excellent ways to connect with people, but I often see others trying so hard to impress, trying to portray a perfect life, only posting exciting cool things.

You can easily feel that you are missing out on something, but you’re not.

 

16- Never Assume Someone Knows How You Feel

People cannot read your mind. If someone has hurt you, get it out in the open. In many cases, when I have done this I realized that I took what was said the wrong way entirely.

Issues cannot be resolved without communication.

 

17 – Stay On Your Own Path

Most of us think that we are qualified to tell others how they should or shouldn’t be living their lives; even if we have zero experience in the matter.

Unless asked for advice, plus have firsthand experience, I have found it’s better to let others make their own mistakes, as they grow wiser and stronger.

Wishing you all a Happy New Year!

Rev J Martin

 

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