Reflecting is always good, as you learn so many things. Things that you worried about that keep you up at night worked out ok in the end.
That 15 minute reading per day seemed so insignificant, but it turned out to be 15 books. Starting the evening class turned out to be the turning point in your career.
A year can completely change your life. Don’t worry, have faith, and follow your dreams.
Let’s face it; we all want to be happy. If you didn’t want to be happy you wouldn’t be reading this.
If you want to be happy you don’t need to add more things to your life — you need to give some up.
Here is a list of things that you need to give up to create more happiness in your life.
We are born with only two innate fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud sounds. All other fears we learn from our environment.
Some of us have a fear of snakes. Some of us have a fear of heights, others flying. We all have some kind of fear, but the fears that hold us back the most are the fears that stop is from doing what we want.
You want to change jobs, but fear of the uncertainty that brings keeps you where you are.
You want to attend the evening class, but the fear of what others will think stops you.
Unfortunately, fear and happiness can’t exist at the same time. So, fear becomes a problem.
The best way to give up your fears is to take small steps towards what you fear. If you fear to change jobs, it doesn’t stop you from doing out an up-to-date CV/Resume. It doesn’t stop you from looking for an available position or even applying. It doesn’t even stop you from attending the interview, as you can always decline if you get accepted.
Most people let fear stop them from even taking the first step, which could be as simple as making a phone call or sending an email.
When you take the first step to do the thing you fear you will start to believe that you can take the next step, and the next. Your faith grows, and you will be happier that you are moving towards the life you most desire.
I am my own worst critic. I have a constant conversation going on in my head telling me, “I will never be successful.” When I forget things, it tells me that, “I am such an idiot.”
Negative self-talk leads to poor self-confidence, low self-esteem, and a bad attitude.
Some of the most common forms of negative self-talk include:
• Filtering — when you increase the negative and decrease the positive things in your life.
• Personalising — when you blame yourself for things that go wrong.
• Polarizing — when you only see things as black and white.
• Catastrophizing — when you expect the worst in every situation.
If you want to be happy, you need to get rid of your negative self-talk. Pay attention to your negative self-talk and when you hear it….Stop!
Change your thinking and turn your negative thought into a positive. Change, “I will never be successful” to “I will find a way to make this work.”
“I can’t” to “I will learn.”
“It’s impossible” to “I will give it a try.”
You can change the way you talk about yourself. It will not happen overnight, it will take time, but you can do it. Like scratching a DVD over and over, eventually, the negative thoughts will no longer play.
Learn to be kind, gentle, and encouraging to yourself. Start by not saying anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to your best friend. Example, If a friend had a chance for a promotion you wouldn’t tell them not to apply because they’ll probably not get it.
“Just because someone screwed up your past, it doesn’t mean you should give them permission to screw up your future.” — Zig Ziglar
We all have a past. It can be filled with good experiences, or it can be filled with negative experiences. If you don’t want your future to look like your past, you have to let go of the baggage that is holding you back.
You have to let go of the people who have held you back, or hurt you. Forgive them, and move on. Once you do that, a huge weight will lift off your shoulders; you will immediately feel lighter.
You will finally be able to let yourself be happy.
I know how hard it can be to let go of the past. Your past shaped who you are today. But remember, the people that hurt you would like nothing better than to know that their actions are still affecting you.
Let them go; they are not worth wasting your time and energy on any more.
Decide either to let the baggage of your past weigh you down or to let it go, so that you can be happy now.
Don’t forget that life is a journey, and not a destination. So, don’t carry the baggage of your past with you. Lighten your load and be a happier traveller.
When you look back, you will be glad that you did.
Give Up on Living Other People’s Dreams
“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out why.” — Mark Twain
Too many people spend their lives living other people’s dreams. They are living the dreams of their parents, or the dreams of their friends, or the dreams of their social media following. Doing what others are doing.
They are so busy trying to live up to other people’s dreams, that they dismiss their dreams. Thinking they are insignificant.
If you don’t focus on your ambitions and dreams, then you will not be happy. You will never know what you want or need because you will be looking for direction from others.
You only have one life, and you must live it on your terms. Quit living other people’s dreams and find what makes you happy.
Give Up on Seeking the Approval of Others
We all want to be liked, but too many of us are living our lives based on the approval of others. We spend our lives trying to please others by living up to their expectations.
For most of my life I would try to impress others, but the older I got, the more I learnt. You will never please everyone, and even if you do it will not make you happy.
So, permit yourself to stop trying to please others. It doesn’t work.
Instead, focus on what makes you happy.
The second that you decide to be yourself, and to stop trying to please others, you will find that the right people will be drawn to you.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
There will always be someone smarter, better looking, and more successful than you. Always. You can never win.
So, quit comparing yourself to others. It will not make you happy. Instead, focus on your strengths, the things that make you a remarkable individual.
The day you stop comparing yourself to others is the day that you will become much happier.
You cannot expect to live a positive life if you spend time with negative people.They are the people that complain all the time, and run others down.
Negative people will manipulate you to get what they want. And if they don’t get it, they will get angry or upset at you.
You know who they are. Why are you spending time with them? Why are you allowing them to steal your happiness?
If you spend your time with negative and unhappy people, you will become negative and unhappy. If you spend your time with positive and happy people, you have a higher probability of becoming positive and happy. It’s not hard, but we like to make it so.
Happy people know that who they surround themselves with can mean the difference between a happy life and a miserable one.
Stop wasting your time with negative and unhappy people. Get rid of them. It may be difficult in the beginning, but you will be happy that you did.
We all get what we tolerate. So, stop tolerating excuses within yourself, stop tolerating limiting beliefs, or fearful states.
Happiness is a choice.
You are in control of your happiness. Every day you get to choose to be happy or not.
Quit making excuses. Quit blaming others. Quit blaming your circumstances. It’s time to take responsibility for your happiness.
You all have gifts and abilities, its time to share them with the world to make it a better place for all.
Enjoy your week.
The journey can seem hard, but anything worth getting never comes easy. Plus, anything attained with hardwork stays with you forever.
Take the weekend to rest your mind and body so you approach the coming week with energy and strenght.
Its not hard to find people complaining. They will complain about standing in line, about the price of food, and what there goverment is doing or not doing.
It is much harder to find people that are actively working towards making a change. We all have 24 hours a day, and what we do in that 24 hours determines our destiny, and the destinies of those around us, so choose wisely.
Have a great day.
Once upon a time, a man went to a fortune teller, curious to know what she would say about his future.
The fortune teller looked into her crystal ball, and her facial expression said it all. She advised him that it would be better if he did not know but he insisted she told him.
She went on to tell him that he would die in a bus accident, and it would happen within the next two or three months. “Why? When? How?
“That I can not say,” she replied.
On the journey home, he was depressed and worried, telling himself how he had never really believed in fortune tellers.
After two months, the thought started to play on his mind every day. He became very anxious and wanted to make sure he avoided the prediction. So hired someone to run his business for a couple of months, as he decided a good plan would be to lock himself in his house where he wouldn’t come close to any buses.
Another three weeks past.
He got up one morning put the coffee on and went to feed his dog outside as usual. On the step his little son had left some of his toys, as he went to step over them he stepped on a little toy bus, fell and hit his head and died instantly.
This is a fictional story to illustrate an important message; sometimes we can be too careful, thinking that we can avoid the thing that we fear. We fear to be adventurous; we fear to do anything new; we fear to take a risk.
Most people think they’re not destined to do anything amazing, so they sit back in mediocrity. Tortured in later years with regret.
We all have a unique gift that we can use to enrich other peoples lives. Don’t let fear hold you back from fulfilling your destiny.
Live every day to the fullest. God rewards action, God rewards faith and often the biggest risk that you can take is to play it safe and not go after what you want.
So this week get out there, create your destiny, show God that there is no fear in your heart and watch the favour that flows into your life.
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Looking at the media the world can seem a dark, scary place but on the flip side of that we are living in the best time in human history.
Embrace your gifts this weekend and share it with the world.
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Happiness attracts Happiness. Sadness attracts sadness.
Choose wisely today.
Fear. What is fear?
Like any other negative emotion, fear is something that is not real. F.E.A.R. – False Evidence Appearing Real… Underlining “FALSE”.
But even though it does not exist, fear can control you, fear can manipulate you, fear can determine your destiny. In fact, the majority of the population lives in fear.
They fear being abandoned, they fear for their security, they fear for their health.
We try to avoid what we are afraid of, so we run from fear, we find it hard to be ourselves, we do not dare to live the life that we want because we are so afraid.
But, when you stop running, facing your fear with faith, fear loses its power over you.
When you have the faith to confront your fears you will see that those things that you are afraid of are not real, and are not likely to happen.
Picture your life 1 year from now talking to a friend about the last 12 months…
Do you want to reflect on a year where you where afraid to do what you really wanted? Where you let fear control all your decisions?
Or
Do you want to reflect on a year that was filled with amazing moments, amazing experiences, filled with love joy and happiness. A year that you walked in faith and accomplished more than you ever dreamed.
It’s ok to be afraid and still act, it’s ok to be afraid and still be you, it’s ok to be afraid and still love. It’s ok to be afraid.
You don’t need to let go of fear and then act, you can act despite of fear.
Why?
Because fear is not real and something that is not real cannot stop you!
Acting despite fear is….. faith. So … Don’t let your life be run by fear. Let it be run by faith.
What are you most afraid of?
Take a good look at it, bring it to your awareness, look at that fear knowing that it is not you, that it’s not real.
Look at that fear knowing that it has no control over you when you walk in faith, knowing that God is by your side every step of the way.
Pray each morning and throughout the day. Keeping your mind on the goodness of God; He will give you courage and confidence.
Fear can only run your life if you avoid it. When you face it, it doesn’t matter how big it seems, it will disappear. You will see clearly that “this is not real”, “this is not me”.
You don’t need the fear to be completely gone for you to live, for you to have faith, for you to act on love, for you to do what you want.
Because fear cannot hold you back when God is by your side.
You can feel fear and still act in faith and you can feel fear and still be you.
Don’t let fear run your life, instead, live out of faith and love.
Once again, imagine your life this time 10 years from now…
Do you want to live 10 years running away from your fears?
Or
Do you want to live 10 years from a place of faith, being courageous despite of fear, living a life of love, a life of adventure, a life of excitement, a life of passion… your dream life?
Don’t let fear control your life…dare to dream, dare to love, dare to have the faith to be You.
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