The Number 1 Secret to Being Happy That No One Knows…

Dear Reader

Today, we are going to get started on the subject of happiness.

Usually, when someone asks me what is the #1 secret to being happy, I tell them they should get involved in whatever excites them the most.

This is good advice.

Happiness, in my opinion, especially happiness that lasts, is most often a by-product of enthusiasm. If a person, secretly in his heart, wants to be a fireman, he shouldn’t go into installing fire alarms, for example, just because he has heard that that is where the money is.

Happiness Is Where the Enthusiasm Is.

Please remember this!

Remember it also, if you ever need to hire someone. Always look for the most enthusiastic person, not necessarily the most qualified.

When you are enthusiastic about life, opportunities open as if by magic. And the more you appreciate Life, the more Life rewards you. The more you appreciate and are grateful for what you have, the more Life offers you.

Most people are unexcited about life, so they gossip or belittle others. These type of people are rarely happy. The reason, they don’t like themselves, so keep the focus on others. These people may seem happy, they may seem to be popular but secretly they are the saddest and most insecure of all.

There is a famous saying, don’t watch what people say, watch what they do.

The people around you might give you the illusion on social media that they are living this amazing life, they are always in new clothes, always seem to be going on holidays, always having fun.

But don’t watch what they say, watch what they do…

So, if they are giving the impression of having an amazing life much superior to yours, but work the same job as you, let that be a red flag. They could well be in massive debt! With pressures you couldn’t even imagine.

Trying to live up to their standards will ultimately lead to unhappiness.

Instead, be inspired by those that are sharing their gifts and talents with the world, those that are creating and helping others. Maybe inspiring people with a podcast, a YouTube channel, or a blog.

Very often these are the people that are creating imagining and innovating. These are the people that will share their wisdom with you, if you ask…

Growing up I didn’t have social media, but I still looked up to the people that were going to all the parties and seemed to be having all the fun. For many years I put all my energy into trying to be like them, taking my mind off my abilities.

What I discovered was, the people I was looking up to where very often self-centred, and arrogant. They were not excellent communicators like I thought, they just run others down and made fun of everyone for their amusement

It’s so easy to judge yourself based on others, resulting in you never being happy with who you are. Leading to thoughts that you’re not good enough, feelings that you have nothing to offer.

This is the type of thinking that can lead to depression and anxiety.

From an early age I had the ability to make people feel better about themselves, the gift to make people smile. But for most of my life I took this gift for granted, which led to a lot of unhappiness.

By nature, I am quiet and reserved, so when I was surrounded by loud and extroverted people, I felt out of place. All my energy was being directed at trying to fit in with people that I had nothing much in common with.

But the moment I removed myself from that environment, embracing my gifts, my levels of happiness soared.

Happiness that lasts doesn’t come from others it comes from within. It comes from sharing your gifts and talents with the world. Sharing your enthusiasm with others.

It could be a passion for art, music, cars, technology, decorating, listening, or organising. No matter what your passion is when you focus on that area you will excel, and with that success will come unmeasurable happiness.

Enjoy your weekend.

How to Reprogram Your Mind to Be Happier, Healthier, And More Successful

As I look outside my window at 9.00am, the sun is rising into a complete blue sky with sparse clouds at the horizon.

The sun rays make everything look so alive and vibrant.

The sun has a way of brightening up our day.

There are moments in life when we become separated from any worry, stress, or anxiety we might be feeling. Looking out of the window this morning was one of those moments for me. The connection to nature replaced all other thoughts in my mind. And each and every one of us has this capability.

The capability to separate ourselves from any negativity we might be feeling.

There was a time in my life where I was worried and anxious most of the time. About everything. And an exercise that helped me greatly was to set little reminders during the day, to just pause, and connect to the world around me.

Connect to the magnificence of God’s creation.

A good starting point is to set a reminder on your phone once, twice—ten times a day. where you stop what you are doing and connect with the world around you.

And when that timer goes off— you might be worrying about a problem, or be having doubts about the future, or maybe even deep in thought about an old memory. But when that timer or alert goes off if you make it a point to connect with the world around you, connect with the room, connect with nature. Notice the vibrant colours, listen to all the sounds that surround you, in a new way.

Or it could be that you are in the middle of traffic, you become aware of the car in front of you. The car behind you. The pedestrians on the side walk. The many sounds of the engines and horns.

You will realise that you were driving but you were not truly aware of the world around you— you were on autopilot.

And a lot of us go through life like this, we are on autopilot, our emotions— of worry, doubt, fear, guilt, shame— joy, hope, love, and happiness, are all pulling us through life.

So, the first step to reprogramming your mind, is creating moments that you connect with the world around you, so that you’re no longer carried along by the thoughts and emotions that you feel inside.

And the more of these moments that you create the deeper you become connected to the present moment— the only place that God resides. The only place that you can make a connection with the divine. The source of all peace, creativity, ideas, and inspiration.

Now once you start doing this don’t beat yourself up for the moments of worry, doubt, unhappiness, or any lack of trust.

None of us are perfect.

We all have weaknesses, we have all went through dramatic events in our lives, but when we practise becoming detached from them negative feelings and emotions, they will no longer have the same control over us.

We can become more connected to the world around us, a beautiful feeling, that is worth investing time and energy.

A True Awakening

We can go through hours, days, weeks, even years lost within our thoughts—not connected to the world around us, at all.

You may know people in your community, or maybe personally, that are consumed by un-forgiveness, consumed by fear, by guilt, by shame, by regret.

Every time you speak to them, they tell you stories of the past, how someone hurt them, a neighbour, a friend, a colleague, even a family member, and they can’t forget.

They can never forget the hurt, the betrayal, or the pain.

So, they keep replaying the memory in their minds.

And every time they tell you that story, or you tell someone your story of what happened to you. What you are doing is removing yourself from the present moment. You are living in the past, replaying old memories that will only bring up past feelings of — anger, hatred, jealousy, and pain.

Which hurts no one only YOU.

Now, everyone does this. So what can we do?

The only thing that you can do is that you become aware that you are doing it. That is the first step. Awareness.

Becoming aware of the habit of replaying the hurts of the past. And what awareness does is it creates a gap… so rather than you caught up in the thought or emotion, letting it transport you into the past, you notice how the memory has changed your mood. How the memory has made you connect to feelings of worry, connect to feelings of doubt, connect to feelings of anger, of hurt, of regret.

The hurts of the past can almost feel like they are part of you.

Now, if the timer goes off, and you feel resistance— feelings that you don’t want to stop worrying, feelings that you don’t want to stop feelings stressed, anxious, fearful etc., that’s ok, just become aware of the resistance.

That might be the first step for you… realising that the worry, doubt, stress or pain has become part of you. Becoming aware that you have that deep embedded worry, you have that deep embedded anxiety— deep embedded doubt, guilt, un-forgiveness, or regret.

Just become aware of the feelings, saying, “these are the feelings that are blocking me.” These are the feelings that I need to work through, let go off. Before I can spiritually grow into the fullness of who I AM.

And the more that you do this practise, taking time each day to connect with nature, to the present moment, the deeper and deeper this awareness will become… meaning, the deeper, your connection to God.

In time, all the worry, doubt, anxiety, pain will fade away as you realise that all the negative feelings from the past are what is blocking your connection to the present moment…

the only place that God resides.

The Source of All Peace, Creativity, Ideas, And Inspiration. And as A Result, You Will Become, Happier, Healthier and More Successful.

Thanks for reading. Enjoy your weekend.

Do You Have Health Concerns That Medication Can’t Heal?

Do you have problems with your health? Or suffer from pain?

Many people do, and most blame it on old age. But this is rarely the real reason…

The truth is, we all tend to hold onto the hurts of the past. The memories can feel like a heavy burden— that you’re unable to let down.

A burden that gets heavier, and heavier as time goes by.

Until one day, the hurts of the past become part of you, affecting your mental and physical health. What happened was unfair, but holding on to the anger, the hate or the sadness has resulted in issues like, high blood pressure, joint pain and heart concerns.

The weight of unforgiveness has beat even the strongest of men.

When you hold on to negative feelings, you are unable to grow to your full potential. As moving forward is difficult when you have one foot in the past.

You may feel that it’s too late for your life to change.

This is not the case.

From today you can enjoy healthier relationships and improve your mental and physical health. Experience less anxiety, and stress. You can strengthen your immune system so that you have lower blood pressure and fewer symptoms of depression. All resulting in you obtaining higher levels of self-esteem.

What if you could free yourself from the heavy burden of the past? How much better would you feel?

Let God repay you for all that you have lost. Regain your health and your peace of mind.

Let the spirit of forgiveness… Illuminate your life.

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The Only Thing That Can Stop You From Fulfilling Your Destiny?

Recently I was watching an old western. There was a man in prison, he was going to get hanged the following day, and he was praying hard.

I’m sure I would be too.. if I was in that position. 

Anyways, when he finally settled and accepted his fate, the guard fell asleep. The camera zoomed in on the table, and there were the keys. The man paced up and down his cell without speaking, but you knew what was going through his mind.

“How can I get the keys, and get out of here?”

He looked up to the heavens for a few seconds, and when he lowered his head, he swiftly put a plan into place, taking the sheet off his bed and swirling it around until it formed a long thick type rope—proceeding to use the sheet to try to get the keys off the table. After several attempts, the keys fell on the floor… almost waking the guard.

Who to the relief of the prisoner went back to sleep.

He kept looking up at the clock, showing ten minutes to 12, which didn’t make much sense at first but then the film cut to the replacement guard drinking in the local saloon also looking at the clock on the wall.

It became clear the change over happened at midnight.

When the film cut back, the prisoner’s face was covered in sweat knowing that the guard was coming soon, and his chance to escape would be gone.

Within a few minutes, he got the keys and opened the cell door. Cleverly, he put the sheet back on the bed, using the pillow and blanket to make it look like he was sleeping.

He locked the cell door behind him, quietly leaving the keys on the table, and ran out the back entrance into the night.

When the replacement guard came on duty, with the dimly lit cell, it looked like the prisoner was asleep. So the guard put his feet up, tilted his hat over his face and relaxed.

They didn’t notice the prisoner gone until the morning. The prisoner got a great start on them, but soon there was a price on his head, $1000 dead or alive.

Now, no matter where he went, he lived with the fear of being caught. So even though he had escaped from prison, he was still in the prison of fear.

The film reminded me of the current situation in the world. Most of the world is free, but they still live in the prison of fear. Living unhappy as they never fulfil their dreams.

The Only Thing That Can Stop Your Divine Destiny is Fear— As fear stops the natural unfoldment of life

Until we get rid of all the negative chatter going on in our heads, we will always be a prisoner of fear. Fear will keep gnawing away at our faith.

However, a true believer believes that God is in control, and their destiny is laid out for them. There is no need to worry. There is no need to doubt. If something is destined to happen, it will happen. No amount of worry or doubt will change that fact.

When you’re in the grips of fear and not facing the world with faith, it’s like taking a plant and putting it in a dark room. If you leave the plant there for too long, it will die.

When you live in constant states of worry, doubt and fear, you won’t die, but without divine light, your spirit will get weaker and weaker until fear has complete control. Meaning you will live a very limited life.

If you’re feeling fear at this time, that is perfectly natural, but please don’t feed that fear by watching more news, or reading more stories on social media.

Instead, can I encourage you to take your mind back into faith?

Now there are many ways to do this, praying daily, reading from scripture, taking walks, connecting with the great power of mother nature.

Now, don’t get the wrong idea, you have to be careful, and take all recommended precautions, wear a mask on public transport, wash your hands regularly, limit travel to essential journeys. But please don’t let fear stop you from living your life.

Move forward with expectancy that all will be ok. You might not realise it, but your faith will instil faith into the people around you.

Be a leader for your family, a leader for your friends, and a leader to your children.

Don’t be a prisoner of fear; walk forward in faith and fulfil your destiny.


A Pearl of Wisdom That Took Me 25 Years To Learn—3 Minute Read—PART2

In my last post, I talked about your gift and talent in life being something that you can do effortlessly, something that comes naturally to you.

Well, each of us, I believe, has genius-level talent. God given abilities that we just have to tap into.

The main aim of this post is to help you find where your genius is, then it’s up to you to put all your energy into that area, and if you do you will excel, you will be as successful as you want to be.

The main obstacle that you will face in life is being yourself. Surely just being yourself should be easy?

No.

It’s not.

Somewhere along the way, we convince ourselves that we are not good enough, at almost everything. So we try extremely hard to be something that we are not, meaning, we never reach our full potential.

Starting off in life, we have all these dreams and passions, but very often we settle for second best or don’t embrace our natural gifts and abilities at all.

For example…

Your friend wants to be an accountant, so you follow them into accountancy, you qualify and earn amazing money. The problem is your a bright, outgoing person and sitting at a desk alone all day doesn’t interest you. So you’re unhappy.

Many people are in similar situations to this example. Living unhappy, with feelings of regret. Feelings that life has passed them by. That they have made too many mistakes.

Not the case. But it will take discipline and courage to make the necessary changes.

First, you have to ask yourself a few questions which I will go over now.

The Genius Zone

Most people are not sure what they are good at or what skills they have. And all the uncertainty is enough to put them off before they even start.

its difficult to believe that we are highly skilled in some area.

I will now share with you some questions to help you find what I like to call your genius Zone, so you have a firm foundation to build upon.

  1. What holds your attention?
    What subjects do you like reading about? What do you like to talk about? What do you like to study?
  2. What are you interested in?
    What topics have you been interested in your whole life? What subjects do you like to search for new information about?
  3. What absorbs your attention completely?
    What can you get completely absorbed in? When you are reading about it, watching documentaries on etc. When you’re talking on this subject hours will pass like minutes.

The answer to these questions is a good indication to your genius zone. The subjects that you’re most passionate about, you will have the most knowledge. Whatever this area is, you must focus on it because this is the area that you will be most creative.

When you discover your genius zone, you will notice that you do not need to learn much in that area. You may need more training to take your knowledge to the next level or maybe a change of job to acquire new experience.

But one or two years developing some skills is nothing compared to a lifetime of unhappiness— if you’re currently on the wrong path in life.

When you’re working in a job that you can share your knowledge and passion about a topic, product, or service, you will be happier, have more energy and have more love for yourself and others.

If this all sounds good, but you don’t know where to start then leave a comment or send me an email on revjmartin1@gmail.com, and I will do my best to advise you.

Thanks for reading.
RJM

A Pearl of Wisdom That Took Me 25 Years To Learn—3 Minute Read

My brother once said to me, “you take your own level of intelligence for granted.”

A man of few words he only said it once but it stuck with me.

The wisdom within them words have been revealing themselves over the last 25 years.

We assume so much. We assume that everyone has the same common sense, empathy, compassion, and faith that we do.

Guess what, they don’t.

From today don’t assume anything. Just because something seems logical to you doesn’t mean that the other person sees your logic. 90% the time they don’t.

So if someone is always annoying you, always seems to do what you asked them not to do. Do not let it stress you out.

Very often they can not see the reasoning behind your words. As my brother said, don’t take your own level of intelligence for granted. Some people are not that intelligent.

Just because someone as a PHD or other fancy letters behind their name does not mean that they view the world the same as you. You may put them on a pedestal because they have a better education.

Don’t.

Yes, education matters but never feel inferior to anyone. Know who you are, a child of God, graced with many talents and abilities.

Never Take Your Level Of Intelligence for Granted

Your mind is unique, you can process information in ways that no one else can. Your life purpose has to be finding out— in what way.

It could be as simple as communication, you might have the ability to instil faith into peoples hearts in a way that no one else can. When you speak others listen.

Don’t hide away from that gift, don’t silence the David that is within you.

Stop 100 people on the street and ask them, “what is your gift, talent or ability?” 99 will say they don’t know, and if that is the case for you.

Let it be your life purpose to find out.

Chances are everyone around you already knows and probably have told you, many times— you’re great with people, a great listener, great with numbers, great with computers, with the written word…

but you have taken your level of intelligence for granted.

Your gift in life is effortless to you, so effortless that you can completely dismiss that gift and spend your entire life unhappy thinking that God forgot about you.

Im telling you today that you were not forgotten, you have seeds of greatness within.

If you’re still unsure what your gift in life is, that you can do effortlessly then you don’t want to miss my next post where I will reveal how to find it, and also what to do so that you can live out your divine destiny.

Until the next time…

RJM

Can Faith Really Help?

Many haven’t got the time to even think about faith, and to be honest; I don’t blame them. This year has been one of the craziest that I can recall.

So where do we go from here?

Do we just hide in our homes and wait for our governments to sort everything out for us? Or do we take it upon ourselves to actively pick up the pieces left by hurricane Corona and start to rebuild?

Maybe its because I’m Irish, but I have a fighting spirit. I’m not used to lying underthings. No matter what happens to me, I get back up and try again.

It’s the only way I know. And it’s impossible to do that if you are in the grips of fear.

You need faith.

So where does that faith come from?

Well, the first step in strengthening your faith is cutting off all sources of fear. Now fear can come in many forms, the main ones, of course, are mainstream news and social media, but I have talked about them already at length.

You might not think that your relative or friend that gives you the latest news each day on the coronavirus is negative, but it is. Over time that negativity will affect you.

Negative news is such a good conversation starter. But all negativity does is hold you back.

If you are looking for the energy and faith to move forward, then the first step is to minimise your time with negative people. Something that I’ve had to do this year. Otherwise, negative thoughts will creep in, thoughts of doubt, and worry, which can quickly lead to fear.

Fear then leads to anxiety.

Anxiety can lead to depression…

and the cycle continues.

To break that negative cycle, we must connect with God daily. That could happen through reading, praying, or by simply having a walk in nature— something that breaks the negative, depressive narrative that seems to be all around us.

Something that reminds us of the fact that we are not in control, the governments are not in control; the coronavirus is not in control.

God is in control.

The only control we have is over ourselves.

We have to be the voice of faith, confidence, positivity that we want to hear. That, in turn, will inspire the people around us to be more positive and optimistic.

And if each of us does that, then the world would become more positive, faithful and optimistic.


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Free eBook To Strengthen Your Faith

Firstly Happy Independence Day to all my American readers.

It’s been a challenging 2020 so far. With so much fear in the mainstream news and on social media, we must feed our faith daily.

I guess that is the main message that I want to instil in everyone that reads my blog, the best that any of us can do is live today with faith.

We cant change the past, and all we can do about the future is prepare for it.

What has happened in the last 3-4 months is very hard to get our head around. There is so much to worry and be anxious about. And people seem to be realising that the mainstream news and social media are doing nothing more than making their worry and anxiety worse.

So what’s the solution?

During uncertain times what we need is content that gives us hope, encouragement and faith, the only problem is if you’re waiting for that information to come to you…

You will be waiting a long time.

It’s up to us to consume the content that makes us stronger, content that builds us up, content that makes us think of a brighter tomorrow.

Yes, we are living in unprecedented times, but it’s nothing compared to what our grandparents faced. A depression and two world wars.

In the past, the older generation was respected and during difficult times were turned to for wisdom and knowledge. But sadly now the older generation is almost dismissed mainly due to the Internet.

The Internet is an amazing tool, of that there is no doubt, it can give you a wealth of information, all the information you will ever need, but what the Internet can’t give you is…. experience.

To find out how to move forward, you must learn how people in the past got through similar situations.

Feed Your Faith

In my new book, look up, I share the wisdom that I learnt from my grandparents and the Bible, that will diffuse any feelings of worry, doubt or anxiety that you might be facing.

Scripture documents probably the hardest time in human history, giving us the knowledge and wisdom to overcome whatever problems may come our way.

As it’s easy to become stressed or anxious over current events, I have included a guided meditation with the book to calm your racing thoughts allowing you to think more clearly. Enabling you to pray from a place of faith.

Look Up is currently available on FREE promotion on Amazon.

To download the book, click on the image below.

Wishing you health and happiness.
RJM

Are You Feeling Negative?

What none of us need is negativity.

Well, 2020 has dished up a lot of negativity. So don’t feel that you’re alone if you are feeling anxious, depressed or lonely.

For once we are all in the same boat. With the current state of the world, it is hard not to worry. 

As with all situations in life, you have two options you can let it get you down, or you can rise above it. Some worry is healthy. Too much worry, however, can cripple you, meaning you are unable to move forward.

If you listen to the news, they paint a negative picture, but in reality, times like this creates a wealth of opportunity.

But you need to be prepared. 

There is a famous saying; Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Now is the time to get prepared, and preparation starts with knowing the truth.

Truth then leads to faith.

We all have gifts and abilities that few of us use. The main reason for this is that many of our gifts we take for granted, or we dismiss them, thinking they’re not relevant. 

An example, listening. You may not believe that listening is a talent, but it is a great gift. Expertise that many will need after this pandemic. Now I’m not writing today to tell you to change jobs or get more education. I’m here to open your mind up to new thoughts, to help you think more clearly.

There is so much fear around at the moment that its hard to avoid it, everywhere you go there are people trying to make sense of it all. Many are trying to come up with their own reasons.

The questions are endless…

The answers to most of them; no one knows or will ever know.

There is so much that we can worry about: work, relationships, money, health . . . but instead of panicking over what could happen, why not choose a different path?

A path of faith.

One where you let go of worry and focus on getting the most out of life. As I mentioned in previous posts, taking exercise, healthy eating, and using effective ways to relieve stress.

No matter what you have to face when you have a healthy body and mind, you are more than prepared to overcome it. 

Over the last few months being at home, many of us have got out of shape, added with anxiety, stress and tension our bodies need some attention. 

So I welcome you to feed your mind this weekend with content that builds you up and avoid anything that tears you down— into feelings of worry and doubt. Its good to stay informed but equally essential to look after your mental, physical and emotional health.

Take a walk or run, and connect with mother nature. Have a detox from all media and feed your mind, body, and faith with nourishment for the next few days, and notice the difference it makes.

Until the next time, take care.

The Live Today With Faith Letter—How To look Youthful Even In Your 40s

Dear Reader,

It has been another hectic week.

Just completed another short book. Will be available soon on Amazon.

Now more than ever, I think people need some words of faith, hope and encouragement. The book contains some knowledge that has helped me through the hardest parts of my life- so I know the wisdom can help others through this challenging time

Anyway, let’s get started. First of all, I want to briefly review what I have suggested over the last few weeks.

  1. I have suggested that you do one hour’s worth of road work every morning right after you get up for six days a week.
  2. I have suggested you eat three pieces of fruit every day.
  3. I have suggested you fast one day a week.

Now, let’s go from there. What else should your daily diet consist of? Well, today I would like to share the part of my diet that has allowed me to stay youthful-looking well into my 40s.

I still get asked on occasion for ID; you can imagine the hassle I used to get when I was 18. Yeah, it wasn’t much fun, but now I take it as a compliment.

And don’t worry it not something exotic that you will have to import, or something expensive. It’s something so easily obtained that many will dismiss it.

WATER.

I’m sure you have heard the old wife’s tale, you must drink 8 pints of water a day. Well, I’m not recommending that. What I am suggesting, however, is that you drink more water than you do now.

I’m sure everyone learnt in school that the body is made up of 70-80% water. Knowing that it makes sense that our diet should contain 70-80% water-based foods?

Drinking water is just one source of water; another is vegetables. What I suggest is that you take vegetables with every meal.

As well as keeping you youthful, getting into the habit of drinking water and eating more water-based foods will also keep you from feeling tired because it keeps your blood sugar level at a more or less constant level.

This is not new information I know… but very often it’s the basics that people overlook.

Most people drink a lot of coffee, tea or soft drinks, thinking they get enough water there, but truth be told the water in them drinks, contain caffeine and other chemicals that dehydrate the body.

Meaning they take water to break down.

To anyone that is reading this, that suffers from headaches try this, for seven days drink two pints of water daily. I guarantee you will get relief.

Water is my secret weapon. It keeps me healthy and lean and full of energy. Add more to your diet, and you will not only see the difference you will feel the difference.

That’s it pretty much for today. Hope everyone is safe at this time.

In a world that seems entirely out of control, all we can do is take control of ourselves—inspiring those around us.

Bye for now,
RJM