Letting go has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength.
We let go when we finally realise our worth, when we finally realise that our mental health is more important. That said, I know that letting go of certain situations can be extremely difficult. So, i would like to share 11 points to reflect on before you decide if it’s time for you to let go.
1. The past can steal your present if you let it
You can spend days, weeks, months, or even years sitting alone in the darkness, over-analysing a situation from the past, trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could have or should have happened. Or, you can choose to leave the past behind you, and walk into a future full of sunshine and new experiences.
2. Don’t be too hard on yourself
There are enough people that want to pull you down and hold you back without you being one of them. Tell yourself, “I am doing the best I can with what I have at this moment. And that is all I can expect of anyone, including me.” Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do, even your mistakes. Because even mistakes mean you’re trying.
3. You are in control of one person, and one person only: yourself
The fastest way to happiness is to stop worrying about things that are beyond the power of your control. Letting go of control doesn’t mean that you don’t care; it shows that you realise that the only person you can control is yourself.
4. Not everyone, and not everything, is meant to stay
There are things you don’t want to happen, but have to accept, things you don’t want to know, but have to learn, and people you can’t live without but have to let go. Some circumstances and people come into your life to strengthen you so that you can move on without them.
5. Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them
Imagine all that we could achieve if we could forget the hurts or disappointments of the past! Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.
6. What might seem correct to you will be wrong for others, and vice versa
As you will probably know yourself, trying to tell someone they are wrong when they think they are right, doesn’t end well. Save yourself the stress and sleepless nights. Don’t waste your energy; the only way some people learn is from making mistakes.
7. Some people will refuse to accept you for who you are, so don’t try to impress them
When you are comfortable with who you are, not everyone in this world will like you, and that’s okay. You could be the most helpful, compassionate, caring person in the world, and there’s going to be someone out there who doesn’t like you for having them qualities. Just be you, 100%.
8. The world changes when you change
You are today where your thoughts and beliefs have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts and beliefs take you. If you want to change your life, you must first change your mind. The world around you changes when you change.
9. You can make decisions, or you can make excuses
Life is a continuous exercise in creative problem-solving. A mistake doesn’t become a failure until you refuse to correct it. Thus, most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions.
10. It only takes a few negative remarks to kill your dreams
Don’t let people interrupt you and tell you that you can’t do something. If you have a dream that you’re passionate about, you must protect it. When others can’t do something themselves, they’re going to tell you that you can’t do it either; and that’s a lie. These people are simply speaking from within the boundaries of their limitations.
11. Sometimes walking away is the only way to win
Never waste your time trying to explain yourself to people who refuse to understand you. Sometimes the best way to win an argument is to walk way. They will never change, it’s you that has too.